AFC Adam Lyons... is this the right mindset?

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I recently watched a video where Adam Lyons (you must have heard of him) said sth like: "The difference between me and most guys is when I go to the club and lets say there are 10 hot girls, most guys would chose the one they like the most and go for her. But I would see which girl likes me the most and go for her."


Is this the right mindset to have? Go not for the girls you like most but for the ones that are still hot (even though you like them less) and like you most. Meaning going for the easy lay instead of trying with the really gorgeous but less certain girls?



I guess this way you'd be getting more lays but won't you be mad at yourself that you don't go for what you want, but rather get what is easy.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Yes and no.

Go for the girl you like most to see if you can land your dream girl and test how good you are.

But don't be afraid to settle for the girl you're still attracted to, despite her not being your #1 choice, if she's obviously into you and will be more likely to lay her. If you're having inner game problems, definitely go for the easier lay to give yourself some reference points and motivation. If you don't get discouraged easily and want to train faster and harder, play to win it big.

Good thing is, so long as they're not in the social group, you can fail with your top choices then move your way down until someone is inevitably attracted to you.


It mostly depends on where you're at training wise.

 

[Estate]

I agree quite a lot with it.

You'll get a much better "hit rate" if you stop chasing girls who just aren't giving you anything and go for girls who are.
Now, some nights, the ones who are, are not your tastes, other nights, they are the hottest girls there. So you have to understand that.

This isn't saying "settle" for a 7 when there are 10's at the club. It's also not saying go for women who are "easy" to get.

It means you have to learn to read people and you only get it with experience. Sometimes you can get the vibe from across the room or the situation you or her are in, that it's just not on tonight, better try with someone else. You still need to push for better women to improve... and yes, better women can be more of a challenge at times. But if they like you, they won't totally shut you down.

If you approach a women, you can really tell right off the bat if she's just not interested. You can plow all you like but I don't really subscribe to it. I see PUA guys creeping girls out all the time doing this. If you're beat, you're beat. Stop trying to win every situation. If Girl 1 is not showing any interest, don't waste your night, move on to Girl 2.