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Hey guys, this is going in beginners since it's nothing advanced but maybe something the newer guys will identify with...
Sometimes I don't know why things seem so difficult to do. I know in my mind though that anything I ever wanted to learn or do, I was afriad of at first, or at least I sucked at it the first time but only through massive exposure did it come together. I don't know why that seems like such a difficult concept sometimes, it's 100% true.
Anything you want to do in life, you can do but you just need to be exposed to it enough and repeat enough times that you can be a pro.
Nothing ground breaking, I know... I'm just typing out my thoughts since I sometimes need to remind myself
My dad brought me go-carting when I was 10, I heard the noise and was terrified.... I went on to race cars internationally, raced at over 200mph. The first day seems hilarious now.
I bought a guitar when I was 16, man did I suck... but I kept doing it. After a few months, then a year of doing it over and over I got all the chords down in muscle memory. No way anyone could do it the first time.
Think of approaching. I also got my first job at 16. It was in a retail store. The manager told me to go onto the floor and start approaching customers... I was a quiet kid then and could have wet my pants at the thought... a few summer jobs later I could sell ice to eskimos in that store.
Here's why it's on my mind. I've plateued in my game for a while now. I've written about it multiple times. I feel like I can get "nice" girls any time I go out. But I want what is currently unattainable. I want the "10". I want to prove to myself that I can do this. But you know what I realised today. When you go out during the day there are girls everywhere, only about half are probably attractive looking and probably only 10% of those ever make you just go "WOW" in your head. A girl did that to me today, it was only after I had walked past that "Wow" went off in my head... the moment had gone and I stopped and was like... "What the hell? Why did you not stop her?" I don't even know why but I was on autopilot and didn't even consider the fact she would say yes to me.
You know what I feel? I feel I don't meet enough of these girls.
So here's my new goal. I don't know how or even where yet. But I want to put myself in a position where a girl like that doesn't even phase me. I think deep down, they still do a little. I can train myself to push past it but deep down I still feel they elude me somehow. So how do we cure this? We go where the hot girls go! No more playing it safe... If I am surrounded by these girls more, they will mean less in my head.
I'm trying now to write down a plan of things I can do and places I will go. Simple example... I spent last Saturday night at a Metal gig because a friend asked me. Sure, it was a fun time but the girls there were aweful. Just not what I'm looking for... so no more of that. I should be in th hottest spots in town on a prime night, not making excuses and going elsewhere because its an easier environment.
That was just a bit of a brain dump for me tonight.
Sometimes I don't know why things seem so difficult to do. I know in my mind though that anything I ever wanted to learn or do, I was afriad of at first, or at least I sucked at it the first time but only through massive exposure did it come together. I don't know why that seems like such a difficult concept sometimes, it's 100% true.
Anything you want to do in life, you can do but you just need to be exposed to it enough and repeat enough times that you can be a pro.
Nothing ground breaking, I know... I'm just typing out my thoughts since I sometimes need to remind myself
My dad brought me go-carting when I was 10, I heard the noise and was terrified.... I went on to race cars internationally, raced at over 200mph. The first day seems hilarious now.
I bought a guitar when I was 16, man did I suck... but I kept doing it. After a few months, then a year of doing it over and over I got all the chords down in muscle memory. No way anyone could do it the first time.
Think of approaching. I also got my first job at 16. It was in a retail store. The manager told me to go onto the floor and start approaching customers... I was a quiet kid then and could have wet my pants at the thought... a few summer jobs later I could sell ice to eskimos in that store.
Here's why it's on my mind. I've plateued in my game for a while now. I've written about it multiple times. I feel like I can get "nice" girls any time I go out. But I want what is currently unattainable. I want the "10". I want to prove to myself that I can do this. But you know what I realised today. When you go out during the day there are girls everywhere, only about half are probably attractive looking and probably only 10% of those ever make you just go "WOW" in your head. A girl did that to me today, it was only after I had walked past that "Wow" went off in my head... the moment had gone and I stopped and was like... "What the hell? Why did you not stop her?" I don't even know why but I was on autopilot and didn't even consider the fact she would say yes to me.
You know what I feel? I feel I don't meet enough of these girls.
So here's my new goal. I don't know how or even where yet. But I want to put myself in a position where a girl like that doesn't even phase me. I think deep down, they still do a little. I can train myself to push past it but deep down I still feel they elude me somehow. So how do we cure this? We go where the hot girls go! No more playing it safe... If I am surrounded by these girls more, they will mean less in my head.
I'm trying now to write down a plan of things I can do and places I will go. Simple example... I spent last Saturday night at a Metal gig because a friend asked me. Sure, it was a fun time but the girls there were aweful. Just not what I'm looking for... so no more of that. I should be in th hottest spots in town on a prime night, not making excuses and going elsewhere because its an easier environment.
That was just a bit of a brain dump for me tonight.
