All those negative emotions in my social Circle...

[Metalus]

I hope someone can give me advice on this.
After I left my GF 2 years ago I started working out, reading G.C. dated more and more girls and was working on my "game".
I was really glad i found that new group of friends who went out a TON. They went to bars clubs etc. Venues I usually didnt like.
Its something i do enjoy today (thanks to them).
At first I thought they are all really cool guys and girls. I had tons of fun going out with them.
But for like 3-4 Months its feels kinda weird when im around:
For example: They always drink tons and tons and tons of alc. They start going to the club at 3 A.M.
When I started, I felt ok drinking that much, but i dont need that anymore to talk to girls and get over my AA. My AA is still there but i dont
want to be one of those drunk guys that every girl hates.
Chase wrote an article on judging and how u should stop being a judger. And now we get to the point:
They are always making of fun other people.
Just today i was with my group and I had to leave after 40 minutes coz i couldnt stand that anymore. The second I went in, they were making jokes of
a chubby girl on our left. They were making fun of guy who was probably retarded (i dont know and i didnt care to be honest). That was basically the topic
for like 30 minutes. I left when they were showing a picture of a guy with his unattrative girlfriend just to make fun of her. At some point i just said
"How about everyone says something nice?" -> They looked at me like im the retard.

I really really dont like this kind of attitude and in general being negativ.
Am I being to harsh with them? Am I judging them myself; saying "im better then u guys" just to feel superior? Is that just something i should accept since
thats how most people simply are? Or would you guys recommend leaving that group? Is your social circle different?

 

[Fuck This]

We say it about the women we are around and the same is true for our social circle...

Don't reward bad behavior.

You can say something to the effect of: "Man you are better than that. He/she has enough to deal with without us making fun of them." Then leave.

You can talk later with individuals in the group about how treating people badly is just going to backfire "on us" and "we" are better not saying any thing if we can't say anything nice.

But it makes all the difference in the world when you surround yourself with positive, inclusive, encouraging people. I've got a social circle full of beautiful people, Male and Females both, who seem to go out of their way to say nice things to each other. You would be amazed at how attractive that makes someone to another person outside the group.

 

[ray_zorse]

There's only one thing to do with friends who are downers and leech value from your life, and that's cut them off. Now it may be that if you met the same ppl later in your journey they'd see you as higher value and try harder to please you, but ATM it's not happening, so just don't call them. And if you see them out, be polite but do your own thing. I NEXTed various friends last year, it took them a long time to notice but have started contacting me more and more often, I'm still not really interested (because I see different people now), but hey, if I hadn't NEXTed them I would never have found out how much they value my company and would have remained in my former role as a supplicant. Anyway if someone doesn't add crazy value to your life, be a bit chilled towards them, if no value definitely NEXT!!!!
Ray

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

I used to hang with relatives/in-law years ago. We did the bars every weekend. It was fun for a while but then they started getting into verbal fights with each other. The drama got over whelming. I stopped hanging with them. Some of them got pissed but I told them I had enough. Eventually they got over it. It was the right decision. I suggestion you move on and find new friends.