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need some viewpoints on this situation cuz my emotions are getting in the way and its a moment of weakness for me.
i have a huge circular scrape on chin, a couple inches below my lips. i got it from shaving. it is turning into an icky, crusty scab. and im insecure about it, especially the fact that its on an awkward part of my face. its not sexy and im worried ill be judged for it. i dont want to take off my mask in public or show anyone, cuz its so gross at the moment.
on the other hand, im missing out on women-related opportunities because of it. i slept with a new girl for the first time 2 weeks ago. we made plans to fuck again this past weekend. i ended up flaking on her for an indefinite amount of time (my attainability is good, so i could afford to do this) - with the reason being, my chin is scraped.
my internal reasoning was ...what if she comes over, sees it, catches a whiff of a lack of confidence in my vibe, and loses attraction for me? it would generally be an unpleasant experience to see the look of disgust from her, and then to never see her again.
Questions
im curious. is this reasoning wimpy? am i making mountains over molehills? would a high value guy flake because of this? act like this?
what if the general behavior of flaking due to a gross facial scrape made her lose attraction for me? on the other hand, what if meeting her in person and displaying confidence despite the scrape, increases attraction?
should i take a risk and meet her anyway?
Flake Text Records
below, i provide the text records of my flake. i tried to avoid showing any weakness, let me know if you think i did. where i said "be gentle when you kiss me" , i was thinking about saying "you'll probably be scared to kiss me" but decided against it. one direction i considered taking it was baiting her into saying she wanted to see me despite the scrape; but i got lazy and didnt figure out how.
need some viewpoints on this situation cuz my emotions are getting in the way and its a moment of weakness for me.
i have a huge circular scrape on chin, a couple inches below my lips. i got it from shaving. it is turning into an icky, crusty scab. and im insecure about it, especially the fact that its on an awkward part of my face. its not sexy and im worried ill be judged for it. i dont want to take off my mask in public or show anyone, cuz its so gross at the moment.
on the other hand, im missing out on women-related opportunities because of it. i slept with a new girl for the first time 2 weeks ago. we made plans to fuck again this past weekend. i ended up flaking on her for an indefinite amount of time (my attainability is good, so i could afford to do this) - with the reason being, my chin is scraped.
my internal reasoning was ...what if she comes over, sees it, catches a whiff of a lack of confidence in my vibe, and loses attraction for me? it would generally be an unpleasant experience to see the look of disgust from her, and then to never see her again.
Questions
im curious. is this reasoning wimpy? am i making mountains over molehills? would a high value guy flake because of this? act like this?
what if the general behavior of flaking due to a gross facial scrape made her lose attraction for me? on the other hand, what if meeting her in person and displaying confidence despite the scrape, increases attraction?
should i take a risk and meet her anyway?
Flake Text Records
below, i provide the text records of my flake. i tried to avoid showing any weakness, let me know if you think i did. where i said "be gentle when you kiss me" , i was thinking about saying "you'll probably be scared to kiss me" but decided against it. one direction i considered taking it was baiting her into saying she wanted to see me despite the scrape; but i got lazy and didnt figure out how.
fog: i want to see you today but i scrape my chin and upper lip very bad -.-
girl: what were you doing?
fog: i climb a tree, and the bark scrape me.
girl: that's new, i didnt think of you climbing trees (hitting on me)
fog: one time i climb on a roof of a school and got stuck
girl: you were trying to rescue a kitten?
fog:
*NEXT DAY*
girl: did you feel better?
fog: yes i feel better. but it is sensitive and looks scary. be gentle when you kiss me, alright?
girl: no
girl: im going to bite you
girl: you must put ice