American blonde bombshell smelling serious trouble

[Seppuku]

Gents, I am really curious to hear what you think of this.

I met this 32 years old girl on Badoo. She's a real blonde american beauty, so beautiful that her pictures look irreal here in Doha, Qatar. She's in Dubai, separated four months ago from her boyfriend, who dumped her while on vacation in Dubai and returned to the States to marry another girl. Jobwise, she's having a business of antiques back there in Virginia, and has since then tried to develop her business in Dubai. She has a son from this boyfriend, who stays with her sister in the States.

We stay lightly in touch on Whatsapp for about a month. She was always the one contacting me back after a silence. On May 20th she is back to me after maybe 10 days of silence. She sends me pictures and she's really a stunning beauty. We chat over the week end. On Sunday, I'm really thinking of taking the following weekend in Dubai to meet her. I ask her "How about we meet in real?" "We will meet this week, hopefully", and I hear that she has plans to come in Doha. Apparently one of her antiques shipment has been sized by customs in Nairobi, Kenya, and she needs to go there in person to bring required documents. She plans to come to Doha on her way back. I ask her "where do you plan to stay in Doha?" "I thought you were living alone", she says, so now she's inviting herself to my home... And do not specify for how long.

And today is Wednesday 25th, she has finished with what she had to do in Nairobi. It is agreed that she'll reach Doha at 23:20 tonight and I will pick her up at the airport. And at 12:05, I have the following surprise. She can't pay her hotel room because her credit card "exceeded its limits in Africa". She needs $450 very quick or she will miss her flight.

I have a hard rule to immediately next any girl that asks for money before we even meet. I have upheld this rule with no exception up to now.

Me: I don't lend money to someone I never even met. Surely you must have family.
Her: My cousin is sleeping, it's 5:15 am there in Virginia.
Me (10 minutes later): I don't do that, sorry.
Her: damn, I'm going to miss my flight. I didn't expect I would have problems with the card.

She goes on to promise she'll refund everything when she's in Doha. Well, it looks more like a case of urgency. I know it's a lot of money for younger readers here, but for me the $450, frankly I don't mind, I can afford them on an exceptional basis - the problem is more about principles. But what if she's right? It's like poker, you have to pay if you want to see. I am slightly upset, but I decide to do it, just to see what's next. "You make me break a hard rule", I tell her, then quickly go to Western Union. I have a text 30 minutes later telling me that the fund were withdrawn by said lady in Nairobi, Kenya.

At 3:30pm she sends a picture of her in the airport. "I am a man of principles. I expect to get back the $450, just to be clear". "Sure, I will refund back to you I promise."

And about an hour later, haha, drama number 2. Now the customs are asking her $700 for whatever customs reason. She wants me to send this now or she will miss the flight. It is out of question to pay anything further.

Me: I don't lend money to people I never met. The $450 was a one off exception. Now you must ask your cousin.
Her: (tons of words)
Me: Sorry

More pressure builds on me. I let it go:

Me: You go to Nairobi short of $1200 and have no other option than relying on the generosity of a total stranger. No one else in your life to ask. And now it feels you will miss your flight because of me. I'm tired. I'm nobody's bank sorry.

Her (one hour later): Why are you saying this to me? I missed my flight and rescheduled to same time tomorrow. Please help me babe.

I think she's genuinely stuck in trouble, in Kenya. But now, too many things do not align here. She was she browsing profiles in Doha, while living in Dubai - I usually browse in another country when I'm planning to move into this country soon. Then she just invited herself directly to my home, with no mention for how long. And now it seems I'm the only man on earth she can borrow money from. I don't know how you see it, guys, but to me it all smells a lot of troubles. What if she's broke and plans to settle herself "de facto" in my home. Yes, it sounds good to have a blonde bombshell installed at home, but the surest next thing is me paying more of her bills. Also, it is considered "unlawful relationship" in Qatar, potentially facing prison and deportation if any jealous neighbor reports me to the police.

Me (three hours later): I'm not OK with how things turned out today. I'm not coming at the airport tomorrow. You should rebook your flight to Dubai or otherwise arrange yourself a hotel in Doha. I wished we had had different circumstances. Take care.

How do you guys feel about this situation? What would you have done different?

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[Mystique]

Jeez! You just got conned/scammed. I'm a Nigerian so believe me when I say I know how these things work out. This is no more about seduction but about you getting conned by a person adopting a fake identity. I don't have time to analyse everything you just said to show you the tricks in all of it...but trust me, I've seen it a lot and it's crystal clear what is happening here.

 

[Improvementalist]

You got scammed, I've read about these. Sorry to say this but you won't be getting back your bucks from this person.

"Please help me babe."

Who even uses these kind of words in an emergency? Lol, she's supposed to be a professional businesswoman, not a bae.

Also, her credit card's over its limits but she still goes and books yet another flight?

 

[Marcellus]

I agree with the two guys above. You got scammed by what is most likely a guy! And yeah that " please help me babe" just set of so many alarms in my head.

 

[Seppuku]

Thanks gents,

That confirms what I thought. I genuinely believed she was from the UAE - it's a UAE number, and many of the pics she (or he) sent me where taken there. Her story with ex and son etc... ringed all true. I suspected a girl in deep troubles looking for a guy with soft heart to take care of her bills.

You guys suspect a scam of an even bigger scale. LOL. Actually she could be operating in tandem with a guy there in Kenya.

Never mind the bucks, it was like playing to see, like in poker.

Anyway, thanks guys, I deleted the contact and blocked her.

Cheers,
Seppuku
PS. Many things ringed true, also. She sent me the copy of confirmed plane ticket, plus copy of her passport, plus email, names match. The Western Union transfer was to her same name. The latest $700 drama was about boarding time. I am still not sure about the extent of the scam. One way or another it's troubles. Contact deleted.

 

[HellAtlantic]

If she was a bombshell it's not likely that she wouldn't have any number of beta orbiters to hit up for cash. Normally hot chicks have a bunch of suitors lined up just waiting for the chance to splurge on her.

Regardless, the way I would've handled this was right at the first request for $450. I would've asked for her to send me a pic of her tits (face included). "Go to the airport bathroom and take a pic of them", I'd have said. When she would inevitably reply she isn't comfortable sending pics like that to someone she hasn't met then your counter would've been "and yet I'm expected to blindly send you $450 when we haven't met." If she would've pushed I would've said "you aren't sending me anything I'm not going to see soon - surely you don't expect to stay at my place and there not be any sexual activity between us". See? If she was legit she'd have been "paying" for the $450 with her tits.

But always remember you have rules for a reason! Don't break them. It's not like you're starving for pussy - quite the opposite you're swimming in it!

 

[Seppuku]

Hey HellAtlantic,

Thanks for your input, it's appreciated.

Regardless, the way I would've handled this was right at the first request for $450. I would've asked for her to send me a pic of her tits (face included). "Go to the airport bathroom and take a pic of them", I'd have said. When she would inevitably reply she isn't comfortable sending pics like that to someone she hasn't met then your counter would've been "and yet I'm expected to blindly send you $450 when we haven't met." If she would've pushed I would've said "you aren't sending me anything I'm not going to see soon - surely you don't expect to stay at my place and there not be any sexual activity between us". See? If she was legit she'd have been "paying" for the $450 with her tits.

LOL. Yes, very interesting idea

Over about one month of texting, we exchanged a lot. I still think most of her story was legit, it was all consistent. Likely she was really in trouble without a penny in Kenya. However her intentions around me were not legit. One way or another if she had reached my place like she intended to do, there would have been a stream of bad surprises for me. Somehow I expect I would have find a girl with a lots of problems in her life, and suddenly her problems would have become my problems.

In retrospect, I should have done like you said "send me a naked picture of yourself please", just when she "suggested" coming to my place (actually invited herself), then proceed the way you said. That's way before she even reach Kenya, to screen off the bullshit right off the bat.

But always remember you have rules for a reason! Don't break them. It's not like you're starving for pussy - quite the opposite you're swimming in it!

Yep man. Over 20 months of online dating I have seen many girls requesting material advantages before we even meet. I have always systematically ejected them right away. My first time to break the rule. I paid to see, I saw, and I avoided myself much more troubles down the road. Good lesson anyway, should have screened the bullshit way before.

And yes, I have a new LR in the making

Cheers,
Seppuku