An update and a sticking point...

[Fan7as7icMrFox]

Hey guys, it's been a while since I posted on here, been uber busy with a new job, New pad and making new friends...

Now I'm getting pretty consistent at night game, getting ONS more often than not on a night out.
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I've also got pretty good at opening, deep diving and even closing during day game (numbers, kisses and same day lays) but I'm having one specific issue...

If I'm only able to number close a chick (on way to work etc) I've NEVER had a girl who's into me at the beginning (the green light, if I was able to, I'd probably screw her 8 times out of ten) text me back :/

Now everything else goes great, the open is smooth, I connect quickly, build attraction and once I've nailed her, she'll come back gor more every time, but when I meet and try to arrange something for later by pointing a text (usually "hey ###, was fun meeting you earlier/yesterday, when are you free to grab that coffee/drink/DVD?") I get no response...

Any advice? What I'm doing clearly ain't working... :/

 

[Richard]

You shouldn't send a message like that as your first message because it makes you look kinda needy when you rush to asking about a date like that - if she even remembers who you are at all.

When you first text a girl, try something like this:

"Hey XYZ, it's Mr. Fox, save my number! "

But, if you remember her mentioning anything that she was going to be doing that day or later that week then ask about that to remind her of who you are as well. Generally, I send a cold text like the one above then exchange like 3-5 texts with a girl before looping things back around to a date because then it seems natural and after 3-5 texts she'll have a good idea as to who you are.

Here's an example text session that I had on Friday.

Me: "Hey Rochelle, it's Richard. Save my number! "
Her: "Hey Richard, it was nice meeting you at Sams party."
Me: "Yeah, it was fun, I had a good time. You ducked out early and missed all the real fun though "
Her: "Lol. I kno but I had to work early the next morning and couldn't drink anymore"
Me: "Yeah, I remember you talking about having to submit some big project, right?"
Her: "^_^ I'm surprised you remembered! But totally, I had to turn in the architecture plans."
Me: "Sounds different lol. Let's grab that coffee we were talking about and you can tell me all about it"
Her: "Sounds good! I'm free tonight if you don't have plans"

and that's how it went down. My 4th text was establishing the date and my text after that was finalizing the details of the date.

 

[ProblemSolving]

Keep in mind that whenever you go for the phone number instead of the same day lay, your odds of actually getting the lay go down significantly. This is because when you get the phone number, she has to make a logical decision to see you again. Negative thoughts begin to loom, "What will my boyfriend think? What will me friends/family think of me meeting up with a stranger?" This greatly decreases your odds of seeing her again.

When you go for the same day lay, she gets swept up in the emotions of having a sexy guy seduce her. She doesn't have time to think logically.

With that said, how can make sure that the numbers you get are solid when you have no other choice but to take her phone number? The answer is you have to screen them to make sure that your numbers are solid.

Let me know if this ever happens to you. You meet a chick, she hooks, she's warm and receptive, she complies with your demands, she follows your lead, so you take her number thinking, "Of course I'm going to see her again." She responds to your icebreaker text warmly, but when you go for the meet up, no response. You try to get her out, but with no luck. I thought she was into me, what happened?! Was it my text game? Did I use the right emoticon? Hahaha, nope. You just took the number of a chick who found you attractive, but unfortunately isn't single. It happens a lot. When you approached her in person, she was caught up the emotions of meeting a sexy guy that she didn't even think about her boyfriend. When you send the meet up text, logic kicks back in, and you're out of luck.

Back in the day, I used to think Ricardus was crazy for asking a girl if she was single as his opener. Years later, I now realize the genius of it when going for phone numbers. It effectively screens out all the time wasters. Single girls want to meet up when you text them, and girls with boyfriends don't. At some point in your interactions, ask them if they are single. You will get fewer phone numbers, but the ones you do get will be solid.