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Well, here in the UK we are getting some hot and humid summer weather. I figured I can't sleep until about midnight anyway, so I might as well hit up my small local city until 2300, as the last bus leaves at 2315. The journey takes 45 minutes but it still means I can be in bed by midnight.
I walk up and down the high street, making a few "walk by" compliments.
One of my approaches goes bad. I compliment a friend who brushes it off then her friend turns around and says "can you stop following us please". I say I am not following her. You see, if a set rejects me, then, as far as I am concerned, the interaction is over and they don't exist to me anymore. The sheer arrogance to think they were somehow special enough to be followed. I turn round to the lads nearby and make a joke of it, but it stung a bit.
Moving on from that, I also have two tasks.
1. Spend 5+ minutes inside a venue. I often hate venues because of the loud music and the obsession they have with alcohol. However, I set myself a task to order a water.
I drink the water then use the bathroom, I didn't see any sets inside the venue however, that weren't already part of a big group. So I don't do any work and even if there were sets, I find venue approaches too fraught.
So I go back down into the high street, observing the city and I actually observe a couple of approaches out on the street by other guys.
Description of approaches I witnessed, NOT my approaches:
One was a 3 group of guys on a standing 2 set of girls, I wasn't sure if they were together before or were cold approaching, but when I eavesdropped on the conversation, it becomes clear they didn't know each other.
He offered them to come to the pub with his group, but they declined, as they were walking away, I hear one of them say "too many pervs about". This set I had my eyes on too but after that, I decided they weren't worthy of an approach.
English women are weird, they dress sexily or even slutty, then complain about being approached. This guy was a tall good looking English guy as well. In a 3 set so he has social proof. What the fuck do they actually want and how does anyone get laid in this country!?
Approach 2: younger guys this time, black guys. I actually had my eyes on a blonde chavy looking 2 set but this was early on and my AA was pretty high. What happened was he was in his group of 4 males and somehow he caught their attention. His bro said "excuse me bro, please be cool" I think in reference to his friends approach as that is society these days telling guys not to.
But these 2 chavy girls were pretty receptive to this lanky young black lad. I think the interaction ended in them saying they had s boyfriend, I remember him going back to his group and one of his friend saying "what happened?" And I think he said "boyfriend". Or something like that.
Later on, I see the group with another girl. So it seems they were putting the work in. I also saw this group initially in the venue I went to, taking alcoholic shots, so that probably gave them a bit more help to approach. But I like my approaches service ice cold. Stone cold sober that is!
So, on to my approaches. Well, not a good start to things as you well know. I got a few walk by compliments but the girls were not really hanging around.
Until my approach outside s venue on a 2 set. I honestly could not tell how old they were and almost hesitated because they were tiny. I liked them both, but the brunette one took the lead in the conversation and that was fine by me.
Because of their size, I asked them if they were at uni. They said, "no, we are 23", so perfect age then! To think, I almost hesitated due to their physical dimensions, but I have approached girls who look more grown up but have been under 18.
Anyway, they asked my age, now this is where it gets interesting. I said 35, then she was like "Oh, 35, what are you doing out here, then". Implying that I am too old. Now, bare in mind, I have never got laid before, so this is stings a bit.
So far, despite the common discourse, I have not found age to be an advantage, quite the opposite. And I don't want to play those silly "guess my age" games either or hide it in some other way.
Then she starting calling me a scary man (semi jokingly), so I challenge her "Why are you scared of me". So she told me that I should be settled down by now. To this I replied "I'm only just getting started". To which she quipped "fair enough". So it looks like I actually passed that shit test.
She asks me what I am doing and I say "I am just chilling in the city". She asks again and gets the same response, I hold my frame well.
She says they are waiting for their friends, so as this is my first interaction of the night, I attempt to go for the close, but then she says 2 mins* and implies they will be back but something is afoot.
I take this as a soft rejection and think "I'm not gonna wait around like a lost puppy dog for them to come back, that's a DLV", so I start walking off.
As I am leaving, I look towards the venue entrance and see a bouncer talking to them. Now, call me paranoid, but I think he might have warned them off me.
The reason I think this is a couple of years ago, outside the same venue, I was chatting to a pair of girls and they abruptly broke off and gave the bouncer a hug. I think he sees guys talking to girls and assumes they are creeps trying to pick up drunk girls and intervenes subtly.
I've got no problem with someone doing the right thing, but if he does it again, I will confront him, because that is totally unnecessary to blow my sets like that.
You have seen the culture here in the UK, compared to the US, where this kind of mollycoddling generally doesn't happen.
Just before my bus back home, I open another 3 set of girls in a different part of the high street, but I've got to crack on. I say they all 3 look very pretty, I ask them how their night is going and they say well and ask me how mine is going, I say, yes, well too. I ask them which venue they are going to and they tell me, so it does seem receptiveness was quite high, but there are 3 and they all 3 are cute so I struggle to focus in on one and I don't have enough time to work towards a close anyway. So I close the interaction on a positive note.
This field report is really showing how hard it is. It's just brutal. Seems that the security guards notice me walking up and down and don't like me approaching.
Even those other guys didn't get any hooks. How does this all work? It seems like nightgame is some big secret and I can't find much info on it at all, compared to all the daygame content out there.
I walk up and down the high street, making a few "walk by" compliments.
One of my approaches goes bad. I compliment a friend who brushes it off then her friend turns around and says "can you stop following us please". I say I am not following her. You see, if a set rejects me, then, as far as I am concerned, the interaction is over and they don't exist to me anymore. The sheer arrogance to think they were somehow special enough to be followed. I turn round to the lads nearby and make a joke of it, but it stung a bit.
Moving on from that, I also have two tasks.
1. Spend 5+ minutes inside a venue. I often hate venues because of the loud music and the obsession they have with alcohol. However, I set myself a task to order a water.
I drink the water then use the bathroom, I didn't see any sets inside the venue however, that weren't already part of a big group. So I don't do any work and even if there were sets, I find venue approaches too fraught.
So I go back down into the high street, observing the city and I actually observe a couple of approaches out on the street by other guys.
Description of approaches I witnessed, NOT my approaches:
One was a 3 group of guys on a standing 2 set of girls, I wasn't sure if they were together before or were cold approaching, but when I eavesdropped on the conversation, it becomes clear they didn't know each other.
He offered them to come to the pub with his group, but they declined, as they were walking away, I hear one of them say "too many pervs about". This set I had my eyes on too but after that, I decided they weren't worthy of an approach.
English women are weird, they dress sexily or even slutty, then complain about being approached. This guy was a tall good looking English guy as well. In a 3 set so he has social proof. What the fuck do they actually want and how does anyone get laid in this country!?
Approach 2: younger guys this time, black guys. I actually had my eyes on a blonde chavy looking 2 set but this was early on and my AA was pretty high. What happened was he was in his group of 4 males and somehow he caught their attention. His bro said "excuse me bro, please be cool" I think in reference to his friends approach as that is society these days telling guys not to.
But these 2 chavy girls were pretty receptive to this lanky young black lad. I think the interaction ended in them saying they had s boyfriend, I remember him going back to his group and one of his friend saying "what happened?" And I think he said "boyfriend". Or something like that.
Later on, I see the group with another girl. So it seems they were putting the work in. I also saw this group initially in the venue I went to, taking alcoholic shots, so that probably gave them a bit more help to approach. But I like my approaches service ice cold. Stone cold sober that is!
So, on to my approaches. Well, not a good start to things as you well know. I got a few walk by compliments but the girls were not really hanging around.
Until my approach outside s venue on a 2 set. I honestly could not tell how old they were and almost hesitated because they were tiny. I liked them both, but the brunette one took the lead in the conversation and that was fine by me.
Because of their size, I asked them if they were at uni. They said, "no, we are 23", so perfect age then! To think, I almost hesitated due to their physical dimensions, but I have approached girls who look more grown up but have been under 18.
Anyway, they asked my age, now this is where it gets interesting. I said 35, then she was like "Oh, 35, what are you doing out here, then". Implying that I am too old. Now, bare in mind, I have never got laid before, so this is stings a bit.
So far, despite the common discourse, I have not found age to be an advantage, quite the opposite. And I don't want to play those silly "guess my age" games either or hide it in some other way.
Then she starting calling me a scary man (semi jokingly), so I challenge her "Why are you scared of me". So she told me that I should be settled down by now. To this I replied "I'm only just getting started". To which she quipped "fair enough". So it looks like I actually passed that shit test.
She asks me what I am doing and I say "I am just chilling in the city". She asks again and gets the same response, I hold my frame well.
She says they are waiting for their friends, so as this is my first interaction of the night, I attempt to go for the close, but then she says 2 mins* and implies they will be back but something is afoot.
I take this as a soft rejection and think "I'm not gonna wait around like a lost puppy dog for them to come back, that's a DLV", so I start walking off.
As I am leaving, I look towards the venue entrance and see a bouncer talking to them. Now, call me paranoid, but I think he might have warned them off me.
The reason I think this is a couple of years ago, outside the same venue, I was chatting to a pair of girls and they abruptly broke off and gave the bouncer a hug. I think he sees guys talking to girls and assumes they are creeps trying to pick up drunk girls and intervenes subtly.
I've got no problem with someone doing the right thing, but if he does it again, I will confront him, because that is totally unnecessary to blow my sets like that.
You have seen the culture here in the UK, compared to the US, where this kind of mollycoddling generally doesn't happen.
Just before my bus back home, I open another 3 set of girls in a different part of the high street, but I've got to crack on. I say they all 3 look very pretty, I ask them how their night is going and they say well and ask me how mine is going, I say, yes, well too. I ask them which venue they are going to and they tell me, so it does seem receptiveness was quite high, but there are 3 and they all 3 are cute so I struggle to focus in on one and I don't have enough time to work towards a close anyway. So I close the interaction on a positive note.
This field report is really showing how hard it is. It's just brutal. Seems that the security guards notice me walking up and down and don't like me approaching.
Even those other guys didn't get any hooks. How does this all work? It seems like nightgame is some big secret and I can't find much info on it at all, compared to all the daygame content out there.
