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Background:
I'm 49, 6' tall, slim, European but not living in my native country. I do speak the local language relatively fluenty, but sometimes (not always) still have trouble understanding the natives. I am very much attracted to the girls of the country where I'm living, especially those in their 20s or 30s. Some older girls (I guess I should call them women?) can be very attractive as well, but I usually like the younger ones best.
I would love to be able to cold approach girls doing day game, but so far I haven't been able to do it (with very few minor exceptions that went nowhere). I did have some decent success with girls from club and social game in my life, and my "natural" lay count is somewehere between 20 and 25 I believe. However, since my last LTR ended several years ago, I haven't been able to get either a kiss or a lay with a girl without paying for it.
I feel this is kind of sad, since I don't want to grow old alone. And anyway, while paying girls for a service can be fun too, it's nothing compared to the "real thing" in my opionion.
In the city where I live, I see attractive girls every day, but for some reason I can virtually never make the approach. It's not even that I'm super anxious, it's more like I "don't fell allowed" to. I make internal excuses like "she is too young", "I don't want to startle her", or "she looks real good, there's no way she is single". I also fear that I wouldn't know what to say and that the interaction would be boring or fizzle out.
So here's today's OR:
I was wandering around the beach, as I usually do. I love the beach, and would probably also be wandering around there if there were no women at all there. Fortunately there almost always are Today, I saw two interesting and attractive girls, both of which I didn't approach.
NON-APPROACH #1
Girl #1 was sitting leaning against a tree, looking at the sea and/or her phone. Style-wise, she was very much my type, a bit young though, she looked like she was maybe in her early 20s. I wandered around nearby, hoping that she would notice me. When I turned towards her she seemed to be looking in my general direction, but there were lots of people in that area so I couldn't really tell.
After a while, the sun went down in that area and she left. So I walked down the beach a bit.
NON-APPROACH #2
A bit futher down the beach, I came across an attractive girl sitting there all by herself, with a sweater on and some mate tea like the Argentinians like to drink. So I figured she was probably Argentinian. I walked by close behind her (not really on purpose, that was just the trajectory I had when I noticed her) and she actually turned towards me when I was near. I smiled at her but kept walking. I only got a short glimpse of her face but she seemed quite good looking, with long dark hair.
I went to the seaside nearby and stood there for a while, taking in the beautiful scenery. I turned around to the girl a couple of times, and again I had the feeling that she was checking me out but quickly looked away whenever I turned to her. That happened a couple of times until I decided it was getting cold and left the beach. I remember thinking there is no way a girl that cute doesn't have a boyfriend.
Those where the two non-approaches I did today on the beach, ha. I do hope typing this out and posting it will help me do better next time. If I write Outing Reports every time something like this happens, maybe at some point I will be too ashamed to continue this pattern over and over (I've been doing this for a long time) and do something more constructive... like actually talk to some girls!
I'm kind of used to girls giving approach invitations. If for example a girl was blatantly staring at me, I wouldn't have a problem saying hi. However, this doesn't seem to happen anymore. It certainly did when I was 20 or 30, but not any more. Might be my age, even though I still consider myself a good looking guy.
- gameboy
BONUS NON-APPROACH
After the beach I went to a coffee shop, and I was standing in line behind a fairly attractive girl. She had long black hair, and a good body (she was wearing rather baggy trainer clothes, but her belly was free and it was absolutely flat). She looked like a dancer actually. While we were both waiting, I could have easily made some remark to her about how hot coffee is good for cold weather, something like that. But again I didn't. Tbh she wasn't perfectly my type, a bit too much makeup for my taste. And some strange tics in the face that I've seen before on people who do too much of a certain white powder... But she was definitely attractive and I should at least have said SOMETHING to break my spell of non-approaching.
So this is a typical day for me, unfortunately. I hope by getting this OR out there, I'll become more motivated to to better next time and to actually do at least one approach. And if anyone would like to chime in, feedback is obviously welcome!
I'd love to be posting FRs and LRs here some time soon
I'm 49, 6' tall, slim, European but not living in my native country. I do speak the local language relatively fluenty, but sometimes (not always) still have trouble understanding the natives. I am very much attracted to the girls of the country where I'm living, especially those in their 20s or 30s. Some older girls (I guess I should call them women?) can be very attractive as well, but I usually like the younger ones best.
I would love to be able to cold approach girls doing day game, but so far I haven't been able to do it (with very few minor exceptions that went nowhere). I did have some decent success with girls from club and social game in my life, and my "natural" lay count is somewehere between 20 and 25 I believe. However, since my last LTR ended several years ago, I haven't been able to get either a kiss or a lay with a girl without paying for it.
I feel this is kind of sad, since I don't want to grow old alone. And anyway, while paying girls for a service can be fun too, it's nothing compared to the "real thing" in my opionion.
In the city where I live, I see attractive girls every day, but for some reason I can virtually never make the approach. It's not even that I'm super anxious, it's more like I "don't fell allowed" to. I make internal excuses like "she is too young", "I don't want to startle her", or "she looks real good, there's no way she is single". I also fear that I wouldn't know what to say and that the interaction would be boring or fizzle out.
So here's today's OR:
I was wandering around the beach, as I usually do. I love the beach, and would probably also be wandering around there if there were no women at all there. Fortunately there almost always are Today, I saw two interesting and attractive girls, both of which I didn't approach.
NON-APPROACH #1
Girl #1 was sitting leaning against a tree, looking at the sea and/or her phone. Style-wise, she was very much my type, a bit young though, she looked like she was maybe in her early 20s. I wandered around nearby, hoping that she would notice me. When I turned towards her she seemed to be looking in my general direction, but there were lots of people in that area so I couldn't really tell.
After a while, the sun went down in that area and she left. So I walked down the beach a bit.
NON-APPROACH #2
A bit futher down the beach, I came across an attractive girl sitting there all by herself, with a sweater on and some mate tea like the Argentinians like to drink. So I figured she was probably Argentinian. I walked by close behind her (not really on purpose, that was just the trajectory I had when I noticed her) and she actually turned towards me when I was near. I smiled at her but kept walking. I only got a short glimpse of her face but she seemed quite good looking, with long dark hair.
I went to the seaside nearby and stood there for a while, taking in the beautiful scenery. I turned around to the girl a couple of times, and again I had the feeling that she was checking me out but quickly looked away whenever I turned to her. That happened a couple of times until I decided it was getting cold and left the beach. I remember thinking there is no way a girl that cute doesn't have a boyfriend.
Those where the two non-approaches I did today on the beach, ha. I do hope typing this out and posting it will help me do better next time. If I write Outing Reports every time something like this happens, maybe at some point I will be too ashamed to continue this pattern over and over (I've been doing this for a long time) and do something more constructive... like actually talk to some girls!
I'm kind of used to girls giving approach invitations. If for example a girl was blatantly staring at me, I wouldn't have a problem saying hi. However, this doesn't seem to happen anymore. It certainly did when I was 20 or 30, but not any more. Might be my age, even though I still consider myself a good looking guy.
- gameboy
BONUS NON-APPROACH
After the beach I went to a coffee shop, and I was standing in line behind a fairly attractive girl. She had long black hair, and a good body (she was wearing rather baggy trainer clothes, but her belly was free and it was absolutely flat). She looked like a dancer actually. While we were both waiting, I could have easily made some remark to her about how hot coffee is good for cold weather, something like that. But again I didn't. Tbh she wasn't perfectly my type, a bit too much makeup for my taste. And some strange tics in the face that I've seen before on people who do too much of a certain white powder... But she was definitely attractive and I should at least have said SOMETHING to break my spell of non-approaching.
So this is a typical day for me, unfortunately. I hope by getting this OR out there, I'll become more motivated to to better next time and to actually do at least one approach. And if anyone would like to chime in, feedback is obviously welcome!
I'd love to be posting FRs and LRs here some time soon