I still see guys having that basic problem:
- they seduce;
- they have sex;
- they like the girl (but not enough to make her main, at least not yet);
- they screw up their frame when pressed upon;
One of the key concepts of having long lasting healthy open-relationships is setting your frame right from the get go:
1) you are a seducer and a sexual man;
2) you won't sexually settle with just one girl for the rest of your life;
3) you don't care if she openly expresses her sexuality, as long as she does not disrespect you;
If you have those three things in place, and stick to your guns no matter what, 95% of your relationship problems are instantly gone with FBs and MLTRs. But sometimes women behave like....women. They will try to test the waters and see where you guys stand, even if they subconsciously know the answer.
If you are facing that kind of topic during intimacy, especially after you've been banging her for a while, the best way to handle it is being honest BUT caring at the same time. We usually think women are snowflakes who cannot take cold hard truths.
Well, lemme tell you guys: we are the snowflakes when it comes to relationships. They heal 100x faster than us if things go south, so being straightforward with them will not only gain their respect and admiration, but maybe earn a friend for life...even if they don't like what you are saying.
So questions like: "What are we exactly" or "Where this is going" are common after a while, and must be addressed with care. At first the best strategy is to diffuse and change the subject, but after a while she will probably press for a definitive answer. So now it's the time where YOU must make a decision:
- keep her as MLTR or
- make her your main
If it's the first, just say you really like her and enjoy the time you guys spend together, be nice and gentle and always on her side, but after she's at ease, you have to say the magic words: "If you are looking for a super traditional relationship, that's not who we are". No need to go beyond that, no need to explain rationally how an open-relationship works (she already knows this by your actions and behavior, or else she was not gonna stand around). Just acknowledge the fact and move on. If she has questions, answer them the best you can, but don't drag it along. Let it sink for some days and after a while, resume the relationship like nothing happened. If she's gone, she's gone (probably will get a weak boyfriend to calm her Disney and come back after a while when she gets bored with him).
If you want to make her your main because you love her, well, that's a bigger topic for another post.
Peace.
~POB
- they seduce;
- they have sex;
- they like the girl (but not enough to make her main, at least not yet);
- they screw up their frame when pressed upon;
One of the key concepts of having long lasting healthy open-relationships is setting your frame right from the get go:
1) you are a seducer and a sexual man;
2) you won't sexually settle with just one girl for the rest of your life;
3) you don't care if she openly expresses her sexuality, as long as she does not disrespect you;
If you have those three things in place, and stick to your guns no matter what, 95% of your relationship problems are instantly gone with FBs and MLTRs. But sometimes women behave like....women. They will try to test the waters and see where you guys stand, even if they subconsciously know the answer.
If you are facing that kind of topic during intimacy, especially after you've been banging her for a while, the best way to handle it is being honest BUT caring at the same time. We usually think women are snowflakes who cannot take cold hard truths.
Well, lemme tell you guys: we are the snowflakes when it comes to relationships. They heal 100x faster than us if things go south, so being straightforward with them will not only gain their respect and admiration, but maybe earn a friend for life...even if they don't like what you are saying.
So questions like: "What are we exactly" or "Where this is going" are common after a while, and must be addressed with care. At first the best strategy is to diffuse and change the subject, but after a while she will probably press for a definitive answer. So now it's the time where YOU must make a decision:
- keep her as MLTR or
- make her your main
If it's the first, just say you really like her and enjoy the time you guys spend together, be nice and gentle and always on her side, but after she's at ease, you have to say the magic words: "If you are looking for a super traditional relationship, that's not who we are". No need to go beyond that, no need to explain rationally how an open-relationship works (she already knows this by your actions and behavior, or else she was not gonna stand around). Just acknowledge the fact and move on. If she has questions, answer them the best you can, but don't drag it along. Let it sink for some days and after a while, resume the relationship like nothing happened. If she's gone, she's gone (probably will get a weak boyfriend to calm her Disney and come back after a while when she gets bored with him).
If you want to make her your main because you love her, well, that's a bigger topic for another post.
Peace.
~POB
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