Any advice experiences on approaching women with kids?

[R.A.D.]

Well ive been finding lately some very flirty moms, some single some dont. So i would like to explore that and see if it is an interesting venue to venture in. Ive been with single moms a few times but i always met them without their kids and i never knew their kids either.

Now for example i go to the grocery store and sometimes i see this young very beautiful mom that always goes with her little daughter. She always make eye contact with me and i even notice her a little nervous when im on the line behind her. So today i made some random funny comment when i cross her and she responded smiling and very open so at least she is open to approach her. Now after i made that comment i noticed the little girl next to me so i kept shopping and closed the interaction because i had some doubts on how would be best to proceed.

I work with kids so i get along very well with them and i know that could send the wrong message if a single mom meets a guy she likes who suddenly gets along real well with her kid.... possible relationship material so not what i want.

So anyone have any experience on this? i imagine looking for nothing more than a little interaction and close with her number and a proposal to meet but how would be best to manage it when you have a little kid running around.

Do you try to focus on the mom and just pay enough attention to the kid but as you would any other person?


Any experience someone can share would be welcome.

 

[Drck]

It depends on what you want, relationship of just a lay?

She's got a child, in her mind the kid is always more important than you (or any guy). She already has a child, so she is more down to earth oriented, meaning she won't be running around and looking for excitement with different guys for long time (at least not if she has good family background). Her mind set is to find a provider rather than a lover.

If you want to be "lover" I wouldn't pay much attention to that child. It is just you and her, with the presumption that you will walk away one day, so don't try to be too much of a buddy with that kid. If she sees you that you are interested in that kid she will place you into provider category. At the same time, if you present as a lover she may dump you because she is seeking a provider

Generally speaking, if she is 25 or less, she might still be more open to "fun" with different guys. If she is closer to 30 or more, she's most likely seeking more stable and long lasting relationship (provider).

Make sure you have a clear mind in what you want. I knew this mom with 2 kids, she was switching between seeking a lover to provider and to friend. I didn't know what I want, meaning I changed my frame, thus I ended up with nothing... Set your frame and keep your frame, let her mind adjust to it, but don't change it...