Any advice on picking up a barmaid?

[Scofield]

Yes, I made a previous topic about trying to pick up a bartender (that still hasn't panned out, I pretty much just say hi to her when I go in there now, it's not awkward but we haven't really made any progress), I guess I just have a thing for girls in the alcohol serving profession...also helps that a lot of those girls are drop dead gorgeous. This girl is absolutely just my type.

Anyways, there are these 2 clubs owned by the same owners and they swap staff a lot. So I have multiple chances to see her throughout the week. So the first time I met her i introduced myself and we chatted for a few minutes.

Next time a couple weeks later I saw her again we chatted for a bit longer (she actually didn't remember me...). I try not to keep her talking too long since she is at work.

A couple weeks after that and I run into her again. While I'm walking she backs up and runs her nice butt right into me accidentally and turns around to apologize and we make eye contact for a bit before she smiles and turns back around. I think it's her but I check for her work stuff she wears when she's working and it's not there so I think it might not be her and she turned back away anyways. But then later I see her drinking and realize she isn't on the clock. I see her dancing with another guy shortly after. Later I see this guy making out with some girl while she's just sitting and we make eye contact from a few feet away and she waves at me and smiles. So I walk over to her and we chat for a few minutes. She is very wasted at this point, I honestly don't even think she could stand up. She refused my offer to move (sit in the lounge/get a drink/dance, I don't remember exactly which one(s) I offered her) and she was super drunk so I said bye and went to talk to other girls. I think I tried looking for her again later (maybe about 30 min later) and she and her friends had all left.

So, I do realize my chances are low...but how can I win this girl over? It's actually much harder than getting to know the bartender (I at least was able to talk to the bartender for close to an hour on a dead night) since the barmaid has to actually circulate and walk around the bar frequently...

Maybe I should set my sights and focus more on "standard" girls before trying the more complex stuff haha.

 

[Light]

Hey Scofield,

It is pretty much the same game as picking up a Waitress.

Here you go:

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=677

 

[Scofield]

Thank you, while similar I think it's a bit different. I don't ever get a booth so the barmaid is not obligated to come by and routinely check up on me. I'll apply what I can, but I think it's different enough that I could use some additional advice if anyone has it!

 

[Chase]

Hi Scofield,

So, I do realize my chances are low...but how can I win this girl over? It's actually much harder than getting to know the bartender (I at least was able to talk to the bartender for close to an hour on a dead night) since the barmaid has to actually circulate and walk around the bar frequently...

I had a buddy who used to pick these girls up in California. He was a former club promoter and would quickly switch into "industry talk." He'd just start asking the girl boring questions about her the club, how the place treated her, crack a few jokes about working in clubs, and they'd be deep in conversation. He'd swap numbers with them a few minutes after that and let them get back to circulating. This was always earlier in the night, before the place got crowded and the girl got frazzled, and usually he'd just grab whatever girl brought us drinks.

So, his method was:

• Go early in the night
• Ask girl a few insider questions about her work
• Banter a little
• Get into real conversation
• Swap numbers

... all in one go. That way there was no awkwardness or trying to figure out when was the "right time" to ask her, or either of them expecting or anticipating or building up or auto-rejecting.

Chase

 

[Scofield]

Hmmm, thank you chase...that actually is very straightforward. I guess I actually did do all of those things...except I didn't ask for her number as I didn't want to do it wrong. Oh well, there's always next time.

 

[Scofield]

Okay, as good a time as any to update. Googled the barmaid, turns out she's a locally well known model....and she has a boyfriend unfortunately. Talked to the barmaid again...but I think I'll just keep it friendly for now until they break up.

But...I ended up talking to another barmaid. She told me that if I got stuck waiting in line the next night to call her and she'll come out and get me and she gave me her number. I told her that if she got me in I'd owe her a drink (she said she'd hang out after her shift). The next night I had no trouble getting in but once I did she was nowhere to be found. Next night I sent a text saying I didn't see her and asking if she had stuck around after her shift or no...and she has yet to reply.

Any advice for this?

Yes, I like barmaids...

 

[Chase]

Scofield-

But...I ended up talking to another barmaid. She told me that if I got stuck waiting in line the next night to call her and she'll come out and get me and she gave me her number. I told her that if she got me in I'd owe her a drink (she said she'd hang out after her shift). The next night I had no trouble getting in but once I did she was nowhere to be found. Next night I sent a text saying I didn't see her and asking if she had stuck around after her shift or no...and she has yet to reply.

First law of pursuing the heavily pursued (women in highly visible / desirable roles: model, stripper, barmaid, etc.): keep the chasing to the absolute bare minimum and be nothing but the coolest man she's ever met. The instant you're sending, "Hey, didn't see you around... you still here?" type texts, you're sending her the same exact thing that 15 other guys sent her within an hour or so of you (some before, some after).

Then, you end up in exactly the same pile as all those other guys: attention-givers and ego-boosters (i.e., real life Facebook friends).

Also - you absolutely, positively, hands down will not win 99.999426% of the time when you're trying to game a girl on her turf.

Get her out alone one-on-one with you, or throw the towel in on her and find a girl who'll meet you solo. Otherwise, you'll spend a lot of time spinning your wheels, but not doing much more than kicking up mud and hanging out in orbit around her.

Don't text her to meet you at her bar. Text you to meet you alone somewhere - a cafe, a pizza parlor, a little dive bar early in the night on a night she isn't working. That's how you make headway with her.

Chase