Approach anxiety and Limiting beliefs about attractive blondes.

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I put this in the beginners section because even though I have a few lays under my belt, I have some limiting beliefs that need to be addressed and handled. As I have stated many times, I am a male of East Asian (Korean) descent that was born and raised in the states (Louisiana). I think this might be a common trend among all kinds of men of minority backgrounds (particularly asian and brown men) and it has hit me hard right now.

Overtime as my game has gotten better I have went from

1. Virgin
to
2. Doing well with girls of my own race
to
3. Doing well with girls of other minority groups
to
4. Doing well with some White girls (brunettes and for some reason redheads and gingers dig me)

I am in college right now and hot blondes are very common, out of all the different types of hot girls I run into blondes are the clear cut majority.

What limits me even more is that I usually see them with guys who are classically good looking (Liam Hemsworth lookalikes) or high status (athletes and somewhat famous guys on campus). Even though I am a good looking guy especially according to people of my ethnicity, I am not the mainstream good looking like a lot of my White friends are.

I have so many mental setbacks and beliefs about attractive blondes, especially if they fit a high status niche like model, sorority girl, or something like that. Some of this has to do with the fact that growing up in Louisiana, I never had a good experience with Blonde women and the hot ones were rude to me.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Fuji Follower,

The best solution i can offer is to find some blondes as friends. IT will be good if they are at least decent looking but it will help you lessen that mentality and find out more about their worldviews.

Zac

 

[fsc_old]

I used to have pretty much the same mentality.

Stop putting them on a pedestal. If you use the 1-10 scale, dump it.

I guess your location stinks, but work on refreshing your mentality. Adopt the playful-sexy and devil-may-care mentality.

- Fellow Korean in college

 

[Eternity]

Only way to get over this is to restart approaching them and flirting with them. I had a similar mindset but then got a job at a rich part of town at a shoe store where most preppy, white girls worked at and guess what... After a couple months they all loved me even the bitchy queen bee of my workplace. She and her friends were as stereotypical white as they get. Oh yeah I'm 5'4, Hispanic, and decent looking, yet the really cute blondes there flirted with me and even kino'ed me. If you play the game right with a "i don't give a shit who you are" mentality, any girl is gameable. You will fall a couple of times but when you rise a hot blonde will be helping you get back up.