Approach: charging back after a "no thanks"

[lux7]

I've had a few occasions where after explicitly stating that I said hi because I thought she was cute, I was told right away "thanks but I'm not interested".

Or other instances where I asked if they spoke English and just got a "no" as a reply.
But quite a few times that can be a reaction to the "weirdo" effect, especially if it's night.

Well, anyway that intro wasn't that much needed, as the question is simple.
Given for granted that a no is no and has to be respected, on several occasions it can make sense to try re-engaging, and for that:

How to push through the very first refusal for a second chance?

 

[mindful]

I think there was another post on this a while back. Other members can correct me if wrong, but I think this is one of the instances where you don't push through and just let her go. She is explicitly stating she is not interested in the opening interaction.

 

[Thedoctor]

Lucifer,

The more important thing to focus on at this point is not how to come back from a "no thanks," but try to find out why it's happening in the first place. Maybe your fundamentals could still use improving, or maybe your approach could use some tweaking. The other thing to remember with direct approaches is that you'll sometimes just get this reaction. No one guy is going to be attractive to every girl out there.

-John

 

[lux7]

Lucifer,

The more important thing to focus on at this point is not how to come back from a "no thanks," but try to find out why it's happening in the first place. Maybe your fundamentals could still use improving, or maybe your approach could use some tweaking. The other thing to remember with direct approaches is that you'll sometimes just get this reaction. No one guy is going to be attractive to every girl out there.

-John

Eheh yes true, but still, how to handle well a first "no" is also an important part to focus on as it might back on track a few interactions.

 

[Marty]

For the record I agree with The Doctor and Mindful. Attempting to reengage after an unambiguous "no" (which is what you're describing) is not persistent, it's awkward.

It's handy to have a phrase or two ready that indicate you're unmoved and will roll off the tongue almost unbidden in such circumstances. For example: "I hope you enjoy the rest of your morning!" or, if you've exchanged a few words already: "It's been nice talking to you."