Approached a Korean Girl (First Field Report)

[Enas]

Hey guys I'm glad to be posting my first field report on this forum. I approached a girl while I getting lunch for my dad. She took my order and I noticed that she had a rash on her collar and talked to her about it. She said it was a birth mark and I didn't believe her. She responded that it was a strawberry birthmark and told me a story about how teachers in her hall asked if she was abused at home when she was at school, and she just kicked her head to the side and gave them a funny look. I kept the conversation on her, by trying to maintain sexy eye contact and just responding emotionally just to what she said, instead of logically. I also tried to repay the end of the sentence to signal to her I was listening (I have difficulty paying attention to conversation for extended periods of time). We almost veered into sex talk, when she talked about how the hookup culture prevents close relationships from forming. I saw this as a shit test and said theres nothing wrong with a hook up. She seemed to go silent for a little bit, what I remember next is us talking about how her and friends talked about sugar daddies (She mentioned one of her friends had a sugar daddy, I think a male friend). I think I could have pressed on being more sexual, but I was uncomfortable being so frowns and scaring her off. I was surprised a cute girl with a social personality was being receptive to me. The add reline caught me off guard, so it was safe to keep things as is as opposed to taking a risk (This in retrospect sounds like a bad choice). She also talked about how she wanted to travel, but she didn't want to travel to Europe cuz of the terror attacks there. I encouraged her to travel though. She ended the conversation a while after my order came out (I chose not to leave until the conversation died down). I should have ended the conversation first but I was gonna keep it going until it died down. I chose not to get her number since she ended the conversation first I figured I was in a weak frame.

Can guys with experience tell me what I did right and what I did wrong and how I can improve in the future?

 

[Hue]

Wassup Enas, glad to see you giving the FR a go.

We almost veered into sex talk, when she talked about how the hookup culture prevents close relationships from forming. I saw this as a shit test and said theres nothing wrong with a hook up. She seemed to go silent for a little bit, what I remember next is us talking about how her and friends talked about sugar daddies (She mentioned one of her friends had a sugar daddy, I think a male friend). I think I could have pressed on being more sexual, but I was uncomfortable being so frowns and scaring her off. I was surprised a cute girl with a social personality was being receptive to me.

What I probably would have done here is said "really? what do you mean?" with a confused look. That might throw her off guard a little bit, plus she then has to explain herself allowing you to know more about how she views relationships. If she were to give you a weird vibe or be incongruent you could know for sure if it was a shit test, then calibrate to her and proceed.

Since she is explaining herself, it allows you to explain yourself, turning it into more of a conversation and giving you a chance to reframe your guys' views on hookups.

If the vibe felt right, I would have likely followed up whatever she said with something about how "hookups can turn into a lot, depending how they go (; ", then if appropriate alluded towards satisfying sex, but then again I don't know this girl, how she acts, or what her vibe is.

I think I could have pressed on being more sexual, but I was uncomfortable being so frowns and scaring her off. I was surprised a cute girl with a social personality was being receptive to me. The add reline caught me off guard, so it was safe to keep things as is as opposed to taking a risk (This in retrospect sounds like a bad choice).

I'm not sure I understand what you're trying to convey here.

She ended the conversation a while after my order came out (I chose not to leave until the conversation died down). I should have ended the conversation first but I was gonna keep it going until it died down. I chose not to get her number since she ended the conversation first I figured I was in a weak frame.

If she ended the convo, it probably would have been pointless to grab her number. Unless the convo ended at a high point in which case asking for her number would be totally appropriate.

Keep it up man!

Hueman

 

[Enas]

"I think I could have pressed on being more sexual, but I was uncomfortable being so frowns and scaring her off. I was surprised a cute girl with a social personality was being receptive to me. The add reline caught me off guard, so it was safe to keep things as is as opposed to taking a risk (This in retrospect sounds like a bad choice)."

I was trying to convey my fear of being sexually direct. In my head I just wanna say, "I wanna fuck you and eat your pussy", but I fear that is too much to soon. People on here say be direct, but be smooth, however I don't know exactly how that looks like, let alone how to execute that perfectly. I end up holding back and playing it safe. Sometimes I have broached sexuality, but I feel like a kid without the floating devices on because i'm sexually inexperienced talking about sex confidently (3 lays at 26 years old and 1 GF i never slept with). Ive gotten lucky with one night stands where the woman made it incredibly obvious but sexual tension and being a bad boy is a sticking point for me (So is reaching the hook point, but I reached the hook point in this conversation).

 

[Hue]

I was trying to convey my fear of being sexually direct. In my head I just wanna say, "I wanna fuck you and eat your pussy", but I fear that is too much to soon. People on here say be direct, but be smooth, however I don't know exactly how that looks like, let alone how to execute that perfectly.

Given the context directly telling her about your hunger for some box would probably have been pretty uncalibrated. The only time's I've said shit like that is when sexual tension is already on the up, and the conversation is more isolated than not.

You may not execute it perfectly, especially in the first few times trying it, but that's fine, bruddah.

Ive gotten lucky with one night stands where the woman made it incredibly obvious but sexual tension and being a bad boy is a sticking point for me (So is reaching the hook point, but I reached the hook point in this conversation).

You were out to lunch with your dad, so logistics aren't too great in this circumstance. Plus if I read this right, she was working, correct? (she took your order). Not easy to do anything other than a number grab or set up a date in that situation.

You could have still built some sexual tension by chase/sexual framing, though. This can be done more easily after the hook point. I would just google "girls chase sexual tension" or "girls chase chase framing" and read up on that till it sticks, if you haven't internalized some of those techniques.

Overall, I'd just say take a look at what you're fearful of doing and expose yourself to that, try it and realize what it looks like.


Hueman

 

[Enas]

I should clarify, i was picking up my dad's lunch..he wasn't with me. Does that change things?

 

[Hue]

My b, I read that too quick.

The only change I see is that you're more approachable if you're alone.

If she was working, logistics are still not a strength of the interaction. She has obligations she's attending to, with multiple things on her mind other than the guy she's talking to. You can still get her number and/or set up a date if you play it right, but moving her is near impossible and direct sexual dialogue would almost certainly be uncalibrated.

Hueman