Model situation time:
Person A comes to you and asks for money. He/she is dirty and the tone is like "don't waste my time, give me the money and gtfo".
Person B comes with a slight smile, nice clothes, says hello and follows with how they are spreading awareness about testicle cancer. Gives you a pamplet and wishes you good day.
Would you say you perceive these people the same way?
Which one would you rather experience?
Out of many things, the differentiating factor between person A and person B is attitude + value. One takes value, the other provides it.
Situation #2:
You are at an event, like a gallery lets say. You see a guy who went to high school with you, he was really popular but you were never really good friends but you two were good team players and played well together in football team. He is in a suit, dressed sharp, standing like 10 meters from you, facing the other way, looking at a portrait.
A: he turns your way, notices you, looks at you for 5 seconds, definitely recognizes you, no change in his face, looks at his watch and then goes to another room to continue the gallery tour.
B: he turns your way, looks at you and the moment he recognizes you, a huge smile spreads on his face. He then goes to the other room but waves you over to come join him.
Which one seems more approachable to you? Or let's say attainable.
Situation #3
You are in full on business attire, sharp, suit fitting you well, you enter a class room for a paid course because you want to learn more about X. On the enterance, you look around the room.
A: There are people dressed super casually, some guys even wearing shorts. So you stand out from the crowd in a good way because no other guy is dressed like you. Girls look at you, some look down when you make eye contact, you go find a seat.
B: Everybody is in a business attire. Except that one guy in the corner, he is weird. You seem like you fit in. Girls look up to see who entered but they do not seem as excited as in the previous example.
C: the same situation as A, you are the best looking guy there, but when you make eye contact with girls, you can see they are not that impressed as you thought they should.
Here, the perceived valued is higher in A than B. The people in B might be the same as in example A, but now everyone is on your level. So your perceived value is very similar to everyone else in the room.
In C, you might be the best in the room, but there are factors outside of the situation which you have no control over (like the girls being happily married or preferring X type of men)
Last example:
You are in one of the breakfast places, girl next to you seems not knowing what to pick so you just open and say "you should try X, they make one of the best in town". She looks at you, smiles and just says "thanks" because she is a vegan and X was a food from an animal. Technically you provided a value, but to her it is not worth much.
Next day you encounter the same situation with a different girl. You tell the girl the exact same thing, but this time, she enthusiastically responds with "Right?! It is my favorite food probably in any restaurant! I was just looking whether to eat something else today because I eat X ALL the time."
TL;DR - approaching will be low value if you make it low value. There are things you cannot predict and you have no influence/ control over. People value the same thing differently. Focus on things you can control, focus on presenting yourself in the best possible light to maximize your results.