Approaching while depressed, just do it!

[ocantu1987]

I been feeling blue lately, but I saw a cute latina in my gym. I said to myself " my mindset isnt right" but I just said fuck it and did it anyway. I opened her direct and taught her some exercises since she didnt know what to do lol, she was asking me alot of questions, I number closed

The approach went better than I thought, depression didnt matter lol.

Anyone else find success while feeling blue?

 

[Franco]

ocantu,

Anyone else find success while feeling blue?

Actually, yes!

There was one day I was walking through a parking lot to Chipotle to get a burrito, but I had a wicked bad cold. I felt miserable, although I somehow managed to at least put on some decent clothes and trim the beard that morning, so I wasn't looking too bad.

As I was walking through the parking lot, I saw this really attractive girl walking out of Trader Joe's (organic food place for those of you not in the know), and somehow I was just in such a "fuck it" type of mood, I approached her and complimented her. She responded very vividly and I ended up number-closing her very quickly!

I think part of the reason this happens is that your fear of approaching gets completely engulfed by whatever else is on your mind that is bothering you at the moment, so you can easily do things that normally would be causing your mind to frantically panic. Just my observation. =)

- Franco

 

[sneaky_charm]

The second number I closed via cold approach was like that.

After approaching multiple girls, and getting nowhere, I was almost thinking that it just won't work for me. No girl was eyeing me either that day. I was feeling rejected, exhausted and discouraged, almost as bad as it got till today.

But then, this girl looks at me, and she looks at me for like solid 2 minutes or so, sitting in the same place, making it obvious. Number closed her. She was shaking when I approached due to nervousness, and her face resembled as if she just saw a horror movie throughout the interaction, lol!

Granted she was pretty young at 15 or 16, but still!

 

[Drck]

That's most likely because when you are down/depressed you are at LOW energy state, you are perceived as more cold and distant, more passive, disinterested in girl(s), "don't care" attitude and so on. She knows that she doesn't need to go through emotional roller coastal with you.

My experience is, that when I was at this LOW energy state (not necessary depressed though) the most hottest girls I know in my entire life actually hit on me. It was quite a surprise to me, and they were still going after me as I thought it was just a coincidence. The moment I got excited about being around such hot girl they were gone though, which was very frustrating. I didn't know any better than and totally blew it, but today I understand quite well...