I'm starting to see girls as sexual creatures much more now. Girls that I want to sleep with I treat sexually from the start. But I'm now at a point that confuses me. I sleep with a girl a few times and sex is great. Let's say we keep seeing each other once a week or every 10 days to keep things casual or even more seldom than that. In between then, wouldn't it be safe to assume she's sleeping with other guys? And should I just be ok with that then? I understand women like sex and if I'm not her boyfriend, I'm not the only man in her life. Is it just like you do your thing, I'll do mine and we can have sex when we're together?
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Jimmy B,
Safe to assume that some women need sex once a week, the safest!!.
I had a friend that flirted badly because her boyfriend was overseas for a month. One can definitely tell she need a good pounding.
Zac
Safe to assume that some women need sex once a week, the safest!!.
I had a friend that flirted badly because her boyfriend was overseas for a month. One can definitely tell she need a good pounding.
Zac
Ok I'll agree with that Zac; girls get horny no doubt. When it comes to long distance, then, should you just not do it? This always confuses me. It feels like I'd be a burden on her if I tried to do something long distance. I feel like I'm better just letting it go and get back with her later if it pans out. Otherwise I'd be having expectations of monogamy when it's probably not actually the case.
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JimmyB said:
In today's world, no.
Depends on her circle, family and how she is iike, Not more than a week is safest in my opinion.
Zac
Yes and no.
Like radeng said, it depends on the girl.
Obviously it's impossible to say exactly what type of girl or how many women (in terms of percentage of the population) are "sleeping around".
If you're looking for a stable, ethically and morally upright woman with strong values and chaste attitude, then you're more likely to find women on that side of the spectrum if they're devoutly religious, lower sex drive, lower testosterone.
They usually don't party, they don't drink often, they don't do drugs, they aren't risk takers, they aren't thrill seekers. Basically, they tend to be homebody types or very low energy and in a way, "boring" types because they don't seek a lot of stimulation and they are generally content and fulfilled with one person. And honestly, the majority of women tend to fall closer to this side of the "spectrum", if you will, in my experience.
What happens is that most men, especially going through college and living the night life, their perception of women is skewed because they consistently meet women who seek out stimulation and excitement in various forms. These women tend to be more flirtatious, social, outgoing, risk-taking, alcohol consuming, drug using... these aren't absolute truths, but general trends and tendencies. You're going to find more of these types of women at clubs, bars and lounges than you would at... the library or your school campus.
If you spend an inordinate amount of time at these places... guess what. You'll end up meeting more and more women like this and you'll come to believe that all women are a certain way. That's why the club scene in particular can get you extremely jaded. So if you're looking for a woman who doesn't sleep around, your chances of finding a less sexually promiscuous woman is connected to where and when you meet her and the type of lifestyle she is into.
Like radeng said, it depends on the girl.
Obviously it's impossible to say exactly what type of girl or how many women (in terms of percentage of the population) are "sleeping around".
If you're looking for a stable, ethically and morally upright woman with strong values and chaste attitude, then you're more likely to find women on that side of the spectrum if they're devoutly religious, lower sex drive, lower testosterone.
They usually don't party, they don't drink often, they don't do drugs, they aren't risk takers, they aren't thrill seekers. Basically, they tend to be homebody types or very low energy and in a way, "boring" types because they don't seek a lot of stimulation and they are generally content and fulfilled with one person. And honestly, the majority of women tend to fall closer to this side of the "spectrum", if you will, in my experience.
What happens is that most men, especially going through college and living the night life, their perception of women is skewed because they consistently meet women who seek out stimulation and excitement in various forms. These women tend to be more flirtatious, social, outgoing, risk-taking, alcohol consuming, drug using... these aren't absolute truths, but general trends and tendencies. You're going to find more of these types of women at clubs, bars and lounges than you would at... the library or your school campus.
If you spend an inordinate amount of time at these places... guess what. You'll end up meeting more and more women like this and you'll come to believe that all women are a certain way. That's why the club scene in particular can get you extremely jaded. So if you're looking for a woman who doesn't sleep around, your chances of finding a less sexually promiscuous woman is connected to where and when you meet her and the type of lifestyle she is into.
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JimmyB,
Assuming girls are sleeping around is the way we protect ourselves, especially before "seeing" a girl turns into an "actual relationship". It's also a mindset that allows us to remain detached and non-needy before there's any reason to be. If she enjoys you enough, eventually she will ask for exclusivity. Most of the time she's probably not seeing other people if you are rocking her world good enough
This mindset is very important to developing a healthy relationship from the get-go!
There is no hard fast rule for LDR, but generally, a lot has to fall into place for it to work. Remember we live in a world in shades of gray not black and white. I could argue that it's easier to do long distance now then it ever has been in the history of time with technology so.
I did it for 2 years(pre-gc) before and I'm in one again currently. Both situations I was seeing the girls for 6 months before the distance increased, which I think is really important. Also, we were or became exclusive.
It's definitely taken a lot of work to maintain my frame long distance in the past 3 months, but I quite enjoy it and I'm pretty happy right now.
It sounds like you are considering amping things up with a girl you have been seeing casually and the relationship would begin to be LD?
-Lotus
Assuming girls are sleeping around is the way we protect ourselves, especially before "seeing" a girl turns into an "actual relationship". It's also a mindset that allows us to remain detached and non-needy before there's any reason to be. If she enjoys you enough, eventually she will ask for exclusivity. Most of the time she's probably not seeing other people if you are rocking her world good enough
This mindset is very important to developing a healthy relationship from the get-go!
There is no hard fast rule for LDR, but generally, a lot has to fall into place for it to work. Remember we live in a world in shades of gray not black and white. I could argue that it's easier to do long distance now then it ever has been in the history of time with technology so.
I did it for 2 years(pre-gc) before and I'm in one again currently. Both situations I was seeing the girls for 6 months before the distance increased, which I think is really important. Also, we were or became exclusive.
It's definitely taken a lot of work to maintain my frame long distance in the past 3 months, but I quite enjoy it and I'm pretty happy right now.
It sounds like you are considering amping things up with a girl you have been seeing casually and the relationship would begin to be LD?
-Lotus