Ok so tonight I couldn't get hard with a girl I banged before our spring break. This was the 1st day back from spring break and she came over to "say hi for a little". Long story short I was hard enough to get the condom on then went limp. We didn't end up having sex just cuddling and talking (I know I know this sucks but my dick just wouldn't get hard probably due to the amount of porn I watched over break). Before spring break when I actually did fuck her, I didn't cum but she did multiple times thanks to adapted missionary. My question is if you give a girl great orgasmic sex once, then can't get it up the next time, is there a way to get her back over again for another chance? If so, what is the best way to get her back over for next time without apologizing/seeming needy or less powerful?
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BlackBolt,
The first sex you have with her is definitely the most important; if she's already aware of the fact that you're capable of giving her mind-blowing sex, then she's probably not going to fret too much if you have a rough night getting it up. She might worry that maybe you suddenly don't find her attractive anymore if you suddenly can't get it up, but that would likely just make her try harder to see you again and win you over.
As far as how you handle a situation like that, it's best to handle it right there the moment it's happening. There's different ways of handling it, but the way I would probably go about it is by making it somewhat of a joke/funny situation and by also making it seem like the reason has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. For example:
If you want to see her again, I would recommend chilling with her in bed for awhile and talking/cuddling with her, even if you can't get it up. That way she doesn't feel like you just "kicked her out" because you couldn't get your rocks off with her. As long as she feels like you've treated her well, then the majority of the time she will surely want to come back if you've already given her great sex before.
- Franco
The first sex you have with her is definitely the most important; if she's already aware of the fact that you're capable of giving her mind-blowing sex, then she's probably not going to fret too much if you have a rough night getting it up. She might worry that maybe you suddenly don't find her attractive anymore if you suddenly can't get it up, but that would likely just make her try harder to see you again and win you over.
As far as how you handle a situation like that, it's best to handle it right there the moment it's happening. There's different ways of handling it, but the way I would probably go about it is by making it somewhat of a joke/funny situation and by also making it seem like the reason has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. For example:
You: Sorry babe, I think the thought of you being naked in my bed earlier today caused me to masturbate and wear me out. Now I can't get it up!(Give her a sly smile here and show her that you're not bothered by it)
If you want to see her again, I would recommend chilling with her in bed for awhile and talking/cuddling with her, even if you can't get it up. That way she doesn't feel like you just "kicked her out" because you couldn't get your rocks off with her. As long as she feels like you've treated her well, then the majority of the time she will surely want to come back if you've already given her great sex before.
- Franco
Hey thanks Franco, we did cuddle and talk for about 30 mins to an hour before she left. I also saw her today in the dining hall and she was very receptive and smiley when she saw me but we were both sitting with our own friends on different sides of the dining hall. The thing is I experienced this limp dick before sometimes with girls I start to like. Like when it's just a quick hookup or something, then I'm fine. However, sometimes if it's a girl I start to like, I sometimes feel more pressure and don't get hard. I've got intimacy issues or something, whatever. So my question is should I just have her come over later on in the week and try again just ignoring the whole limp dick fiasco, or do I have her come over and we talk about it, since I actually like her?
