This is more related to social circle game. I'm not bad at cold approach, and am reasonably successful, and have been told by quite a few people that I'm a very attractive person and I must be a ladies man (I laughed at that one). Anyway, so Chase has written about attraction in cold approach, but there is this girl on the outskirts of my social circle. As I said, social circle is normally a no go, as 3 this social circle consists of 3 girls, all who I consider close friends. They live with a girl, who I met about a year ago. I see her occassionally (maybe once/twice a month), and have shared a facebook message or 2, but only if I wanted to know what time I was meant to meet them etc...so we're not really close friends, and the only way I could be friendzoned is that I haven't moved fast enough. She is quite a shy/socially awkward girl and tends to stick with her friends when we socialize. But anyway, there is something about her that I'm quite attracted to.
Given I don't do social circle game, I don't know what are indicatiors of attraction. Here are some things that have stood out to me.
Anyway, around December last year, she was attending a Winter ball that I was also attending. I told her she should be my date, and she said she would love to. Unfortunately, her boyfriend found out about this arrangement, and insisted on coming.
we were both at a party in March time, at a house. I noticed her staring at me sometimes, and standing next to me for quite a while. She also asked me if I wanted some of her ice cream at one point, and then fed it to me before I had the chance to grab the spoon. She didn't object to me touching her leg when talking to her, and didn't resist me pulling her up to dance at all, so I guess I got her to ‘move’. Then, when I was leaving, and hugging the host goodbye, she got out of her chair, from the other side of the room, and came to hug me goodbye.
About a month ago we were at a party. We were all drinking. We were playing a drinking game called b**ch, where the end game is you choose a person to drink. She kept picking me, which I guess was a kind of teasing thing? Later, as they were walking to a club, and I started walking back home, she shouted to me, and was like ‘lets link arms’ and then we had a pretty cool chat for like 40 minutes. She had been drinking, so I guess she was less inhibited, not sure if she is the flirty type wth guys though. I've never noticed
We also played this party game, and in it, a guy friend had to kiss me. I mentioned something about how I hoped that wasn't the only action I would get that night. Afterwards, she came over and was like...do you want a hug? At the same party, we ended up all staying there, and I ended up sleeping next to her, on 2 under-bed mattresses (so we weren’t actually sharing a bed, but we might as well have been) and the next morning, her best friend was making a big deal of it, saying me and her were cuddling during the night…I’m not sure if we were though..I was asleep.
We were also in a shop last week, and I was fucking around with some hair clips or something (I have longish hair) and she reached out and ran her hands through my hair saying that my hair was probably long enough to use the hairclips.
I guess I’m interpreting the hugging/touching as her trying to be affectionate, without it being overt, because of the nature of the social circle.
What do you guys reckon? Are these indicators of attraction or am I just over-reading this situation?
Given I don't do social circle game, I don't know what are indicatiors of attraction. Here are some things that have stood out to me.
Anyway, around December last year, she was attending a Winter ball that I was also attending. I told her she should be my date, and she said she would love to. Unfortunately, her boyfriend found out about this arrangement, and insisted on coming.
we were both at a party in March time, at a house. I noticed her staring at me sometimes, and standing next to me for quite a while. She also asked me if I wanted some of her ice cream at one point, and then fed it to me before I had the chance to grab the spoon. She didn't object to me touching her leg when talking to her, and didn't resist me pulling her up to dance at all, so I guess I got her to ‘move’. Then, when I was leaving, and hugging the host goodbye, she got out of her chair, from the other side of the room, and came to hug me goodbye.
About a month ago we were at a party. We were all drinking. We were playing a drinking game called b**ch, where the end game is you choose a person to drink. She kept picking me, which I guess was a kind of teasing thing? Later, as they were walking to a club, and I started walking back home, she shouted to me, and was like ‘lets link arms’ and then we had a pretty cool chat for like 40 minutes. She had been drinking, so I guess she was less inhibited, not sure if she is the flirty type wth guys though. I've never noticed
We also played this party game, and in it, a guy friend had to kiss me. I mentioned something about how I hoped that wasn't the only action I would get that night. Afterwards, she came over and was like...do you want a hug? At the same party, we ended up all staying there, and I ended up sleeping next to her, on 2 under-bed mattresses (so we weren’t actually sharing a bed, but we might as well have been) and the next morning, her best friend was making a big deal of it, saying me and her were cuddling during the night…I’m not sure if we were though..I was asleep.
We were also in a shop last week, and I was fucking around with some hair clips or something (I have longish hair) and she reached out and ran her hands through my hair saying that my hair was probably long enough to use the hairclips.
I guess I’m interpreting the hugging/touching as her trying to be affectionate, without it being overt, because of the nature of the social circle.
What do you guys reckon? Are these indicators of attraction or am I just over-reading this situation?
