Are we gonna be just friends?

[Huge Jack Man]

So I have this girl in my flat. She flirts with me sometimes and we have really good convos. So just this weekend she told me she liked me on tinder but only because she thought it’d be funny. I laughed it off because I thought it was weird she liked it “just because it’d be funny”. I decided to ask her out then. I complimented her on something she was wearing and then I said “no wonder we matched on tinder” then she laughed and said “we did? That’s so funny” then I said “this is the part where we go on a date”. She giggled, didn’t say nothing and looked down at her phone. It took me by surprise because I was expecting her to say something positive or to affirm it because she usually has a lot to say. She has always told me about trying a certain local food so after like a minute of silence, I was like “we should go try out that food later this week” and she was like “oh yeah sure”. I do admit that when we first met, I played it a bit more safer because I thought she had a boyfriend. She recently told me that she doesn’t. I don’t know now if I should just consider myself as her friend and that nothing is gonna happen because of the fact that she didn’t wanna classify our hangout as a date but still wants to hang with me

 

[orkie123]

Personally, I wouldnt sleep with a flatmate as thats begging for unecessary drama in your life.

Otherwise, go for drinks, don't call it a date anymore, escalate kino, deep dive as if it was any other girl. Seed in something like a video, something in your room to see, or if u have a couch, seed in watching something together.

After 1-2hrs which could include 2nd location, tell her at a high point thay its time to go back.

Back at your place, bring back the seeded idea so that you are close together either on the couch or bed. Speak for 5-10 mins max while building some tension (strong eye contact, triangular stare between eyes, lips, eyes, ask her some questions and dont rush to respond giving her time to expand). Then release it with a kiss and keep escalating all the way. Dont get carried away watching something for more than 10 mins. You gotta go for the kiss and escalation.

 

[Huge Jack Man]

Personally, I wouldnt sleep with a flatmate as thats begging for unecessary drama in your life.

Otherwise, go for drinks, don't call it a date anymore, escalate kino, deep dive as if it was any other girl. Seed in something like a video, something in your room to see, or if u have a couch, seed in watching something together.

After 1-2hrs which could include 2nd location, tell her at a high point thay its time to go back.

Back at your place, bring back the seeded idea so that you are close together either on the couch or bed. Speak for 5-10 mins max while building some tension (strong eye contact, triangular stare between eyes, lips, eyes, ask her some questions and dont rush to respond giving her time to expand). Then release it with a kiss and keep escalating all the way. Dont get carried away watching something for more than 10 mins. You gotta go for the kiss and escalation.

That’s really solid advice. Thanks a lot! Yeahh I understand the drama that can arise from it. But I just want to be able to test out what I’ve learnt so far from this glorious site

 

[orkie123]

That’s really solid advice. Thanks a lot! Yeahh I understand the drama that can arise from it. But I just want to be able to test out what I’ve learnt so far from this glorious site

No worries and few more tips:

-Definitely do a lot of kino. Her being your flatmate, she will be a lot more open to you doing hand reads, touching her neck while asking her about her necklace/earrings, occasionally putting your hand on her thigh etc.

- If she ever says anything along the lines of "We are just friends, we are just flatmates, it's a bad idea". You agree with her and continue as if it never happened. Don't dwell on it or try to logically convince her of anything. If she says those things, that means she is thinking about you sexually already, and you just need to make it an enjoyable experience for her by taking the lead and pushing escalation.