Articles like this cause approach anxiety

[Parkour]

Would be great to get a reframe but this paints a really negative light when approaching is less than calibrated:
http://www.vice.com/read/heres-all-the-types-of-guys-you-dont-want-to-be-at-the-bar
Was curious about thoughts from people on here

 

[lao che]

ignore that shit. don't read vice, and stay right away from vice canada

 

[uForia]

Yup these articles lay in my subconscious mind that I find also prevents me from approaching women here and there, like one of those millennial female writers that talk about how getting hit on in the subway is so awkward. What is a guy like me to do anyways? Meet women through a social circle via work where 80% of my coworkers are introverted guys? LOL

 

[JayP]

Those examples in the article are completely clueless guys, so I could understand why the female bouncer would say not to be "the loner". On the contrary, this is coming from a female bouncer whose job is to deal with the bullshit at the bars, so I'm guessing her perspective is a little more jaded. I'm sure you wouldn't be clueless like those guys though. I can tell you from my experience of venturing out alone despite social anxiety (travel, approaches, etc.) most people don't care if you don't, and some are intrigued and impressed.

I can't remember who said it on the thread, but they said something like: That's what makes us so successful with women. We defy the social norms and do what we want. We learn and get better.

Check this out; it's mostly about going out alone, but it has some really good points pertaining to approach anxiety:

https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=12004

 

[Byron]

The loner can get laid. It's called rolling solo, I know Chase has done it a lot, and references it in his articles. I know Hector has done it a lot. I know Drexel has gone out alone. I know Franco has.

Isolating works. Obviously don't be creepy about it, but you do want to isolate, otherwise you can never get anywhere (unless you're going for dat threesome ) Just make sure to charm them, not manhandle them.

Obviously don't chase girls. Persistence is good. Learn the difference (I am not persistent enough still).

Don't get girls drunk to fuck them. It's creepy. Buuuuuut we all know conspicuous consumption, i.e. being the "spender" is attractive. In one article Chase said it was the equivalent in benefits to being good-looking.

The toucher? Go read some of Anatman's shit. Hell yeah you wanna be the toucher.

The insulter?
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-asshole-–-and-become-adored-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/24-ways-be-lovable-dick-girls

And I bet you, any of you, could find a way to take your shirt off and have it go well. At drunken high school parties, we'd take our shirts off all the time. I spent some time partying with a party-jock house on a college team this last year. We had "shirts off o'clock" where everyone, girls too, had to take their shirt off. Just be at least a little toned or muscular

All I took from that article, is the importance of calibration. If you're socially calibrated enough, everything can work. If you're extremely socially uncalibrated, welllllll then yeah you're gonna be one of those guys in that article. For social calibration, check these out:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-get-started-when-you-re-socially-hopeless
https://www.girlschase.com/content/3-ways-train-social-aptitude

Thing is, you gotta spend some time in the trenches, being uncalibrated. I'm awkward as fuck. I just know what I gotta do.
So go be every single one of those things. Find where the limits are, what works and what doesn't.

I personally love touching girls. One of my favorite things to do.

How's that for a reframe?

Peace,
Byron