Asking people for what they want? Bound for Failure maybe?

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There's an article where Chase mention that you need to ask her what she wants. and knowing that i have given some people what they want. The thing i am concern with is that people don't know what they want. and Steve Jobs mention you need to expect what people what want in the near future.

That is in business context, and i notice this in family,friends as well. So I conclude that it's not what people say, it's what they do that is what they want. Sure what they say is a partly true. I realize it happens during the three year mark in families. and

I feel it's like i am stuck between knowing truths that is

1) "You can't give people what they want."
2) "People don't know what they want".
3) "IT's like assuming people can't create their own reality".

Another example where perspective comes into play. There's so many variables come into play, that sometimes it's practically close to impossible. To me, as far as i know, and as bias (as this statement is) and well aware i am, people do not know what they want. I don't dismiss them, i just do what i possibly can, and i am sure most people are, too. IF you have some observation, let me know.

Zac

 

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Re: Asking people for what they want? Bound for Failure mayb

Hey ZacAdams,

This is a great topic to touch on, but its definitely more philosphy / human behaviour related.
You may want to have a look at some of Dr. John Demartini's work - you can youtube some of his video.
He has all the answers for you.

We have 7 different hierachy of values in our life, quoted from him:
"Your fulfillment means the filling of your perceptually empty voids. The hierarchy of your voids determines the hierarchy of your values. The hierarchy of your values determine how you perceive (what you selectively attend to) and how you act (what you selectively intend upon) in your world and therefore they determine your immediate destiny. Since your values change over time, your destiny therefore changes over time. The summation of your series of destinies determines your evolving life journey. Your ultimate or relatively unchanging core value dictates your infinite journey the most. Your transient, changing, crusted hierarchy of values dictates your series of transient finite destinies.

The more important a value is - the higher it will be on your hierarchy of values and the more discipline and order you will have associated with it. The less important a value is - the lower it will be on your hierarchy of values and the less discipline and more disorder your have associated with it. "

To cut it short, what this simply means is most people don't know what they want because they think they want something, but in reality, their "Other" values are more important to them.

For example:
Everyone always say they want to be rich and have more money, but in reality, those who end up being rich are those who value money, and the rest of the world don't. Why do I say that? Because when you ask the next question: "What will you do with that money?" - they will tell you "so I can travel the world, or buy this and buy that"
Their value is not money itself - Its the things that money gets them... and the funny thing is, you will notice that they would either have already possessed these, or on their way. eg: a Traveler would have already spent all his money doing some travelling.

This is the truth. So in actual fact from what you said above, here are my answers:

1) "You can't give people what they want." - Not true, because if you're in their life, it means you are already contributing to what they really want in life, but in a different form. They just don't know it. (Such as friendship - which comes with Trust, bonds, loyalty, advice etc)

2) "People don't know what they want". - True to those who doesn't know what they value most, and since your priorty of values always changes over time.

3) "IT's like assuming people can't create their own reality". - Its not that they cant, its because they don't know how to, or they simply won't, because they are comfortable where they are.

You should definitely YouTube some of Dr. John Demartini's video. This guy is full of wisdom.

 

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Re: Asking people for what they want? Bound for Failure mayb

This is the truth. So in actual fact from what you said above, here are my answers:

1) "You can't give people what they want." - Not true, because if you're in their life, it means you are already contributing to what they really want in life, but in a different form. They just don't know it. (Such as friendship - which comes with Trust, bonds, loyalty, advice etc)

2) "People don't know what they want". - True to those who doesn't know what they value most, and since your priorty of values always changes over time.

3) "IT's like assuming people can't create their own reality". - Its not that they cant, its because they don't know how to, or they simply won't, because they are comfortable where they are.

You should definitely YouTube some of Dr. John Demartini's video. This guy is full of wisdom.

On number 1, my answer is relate together with number 2. Priority of values change over time, and yes, this is transition period. It's the three year mark.

I should check on John Demartini's video. Any specific video in mind?

Zac