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Met this girl through day game last Thursday. Saw her walking quickly and approached her telling her I thought she was cute. She said she was on her way to an audition, but we exchanged numbers and she told me I should text her.
Fast forward to the date.
I met her at a landmark at 6PM and we hugged for longer than a normal hug. She was dressed really well, so I knew she was trying to look good. Definitely thought she was very cute. I told her we could go to a place nearby, and she was down. We went to the bar and grabbed a booth, with some incidental touch along the way (bumping into each other). At the bar, we sat in a corner booth with our legs touching each other. We talked a lot, but it was mainly me talking (something I need to improve on). I did some deep diving and we started trading stories.
Important parts in the date:
I made some sexual jokes and she laughed. For instance she said she liked this place over Paris, because it was dirtier, so I smiled and asked her if she liked it dirty, then quickly changed subjects. Did something similar with hard and fast, and she laughed. I also told her about an acting class I was taking, and grabbed her hands and put them on my ribs to show her what I was talking about (very dominant and making the touch more cooperative).
Other points were when I compared both her and my cities we left to come here. I mentioned how in suburbs everyone knows each other, and if you sleep with someone everyone immediately knows, and how I didn't like that rumors spread so fast (attempting to communicate discretion). She asked if I approached girls often, and I told her that I only approached cute acting students. She was really good at putting the spotlight back on me, and was genuinely impressed that I approached her. I eventually changed the subject, after trying to make sure I made her feel special.
Around 7:30, we got kicked out because the booths were reserved. She wanted to grab food, so I suggested a place not too far from my place. On the walk over I seeded the pull, and she was even more impressed (starting to get bad because I think I'm falling too much into the boyfriend zone). We got food, and then I suggested we sit at a bench nearby and chat. We go, and talk, and we're sitting really close. We talk a little about relationships, and I tell her we're at the perfect age to be single and now is the time to explore and enjoy, which she agrees to. I can see her scrunching up her dress and I definitely understand the hints. I tell her we should grab a nightcap and that I'll mix us some drinks. She enthusiastically agrees and we walk to my place. I give her a tour, and increase the touch more. I let her mix the drinks, and give her instruction (dominant again). I lead her to my room and we sit on my bed and drink. I show her my different props in my room, and eventually kiss her.
This is where I start screwing up. I am too timid while escalating, and as a result it's incongruent with my vibe from earlier. In reality I should have become more animalistic and started getting more hot and heavy. Instead I slowed it down and tried pausing in between moments (like taking off her dress, taking off her bra), and talked. I should have just kept going and had her touching me.
I definitely need to learn escalation better.
She called me sexy, but also sweet.
During escalation, she asked me what I thought was going to happen. I told her that we were just having fun, and that there was no pressure as long as she was comfortable.
Besides that, I'm happy I pulled her home, and I'll try to see her again this weekend.
Fast forward to the date.
I met her at a landmark at 6PM and we hugged for longer than a normal hug. She was dressed really well, so I knew she was trying to look good. Definitely thought she was very cute. I told her we could go to a place nearby, and she was down. We went to the bar and grabbed a booth, with some incidental touch along the way (bumping into each other). At the bar, we sat in a corner booth with our legs touching each other. We talked a lot, but it was mainly me talking (something I need to improve on). I did some deep diving and we started trading stories.
Important parts in the date:
I made some sexual jokes and she laughed. For instance she said she liked this place over Paris, because it was dirtier, so I smiled and asked her if she liked it dirty, then quickly changed subjects. Did something similar with hard and fast, and she laughed. I also told her about an acting class I was taking, and grabbed her hands and put them on my ribs to show her what I was talking about (very dominant and making the touch more cooperative).
Other points were when I compared both her and my cities we left to come here. I mentioned how in suburbs everyone knows each other, and if you sleep with someone everyone immediately knows, and how I didn't like that rumors spread so fast (attempting to communicate discretion). She asked if I approached girls often, and I told her that I only approached cute acting students. She was really good at putting the spotlight back on me, and was genuinely impressed that I approached her. I eventually changed the subject, after trying to make sure I made her feel special.
Around 7:30, we got kicked out because the booths were reserved. She wanted to grab food, so I suggested a place not too far from my place. On the walk over I seeded the pull, and she was even more impressed (starting to get bad because I think I'm falling too much into the boyfriend zone). We got food, and then I suggested we sit at a bench nearby and chat. We go, and talk, and we're sitting really close. We talk a little about relationships, and I tell her we're at the perfect age to be single and now is the time to explore and enjoy, which she agrees to. I can see her scrunching up her dress and I definitely understand the hints. I tell her we should grab a nightcap and that I'll mix us some drinks. She enthusiastically agrees and we walk to my place. I give her a tour, and increase the touch more. I let her mix the drinks, and give her instruction (dominant again). I lead her to my room and we sit on my bed and drink. I show her my different props in my room, and eventually kiss her.
This is where I start screwing up. I am too timid while escalating, and as a result it's incongruent with my vibe from earlier. In reality I should have become more animalistic and started getting more hot and heavy. Instead I slowed it down and tried pausing in between moments (like taking off her dress, taking off her bra), and talked. I should have just kept going and had her touching me.
I definitely need to learn escalation better.
She called me sexy, but also sweet.
During escalation, she asked me what I thought was going to happen. I told her that we were just having fun, and that there was no pressure as long as she was comfortable.
Besides that, I'm happy I pulled her home, and I'll try to see her again this weekend.
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