Attraction fading need some advice

[Rico]

So I’ve had a streak of bad luck with a few of the girls I’m seeing on a constant basis. Not sure if my game is off or if I got comfortable. One of the girls that I’m dating I think is the one that likes me the most but is giving me mixed signals and I’m confused as fuck. Every time we go out we fuck but the last two time we went out she would say it’s over and then say she was sorry and say she didnt mean it.

She has given a bunch of test. So this las time we went out I wasn’t feeling two good and had to throw up after our seconf round of sex. The next day she texted me that it wasn’t working out and we needed a break and I said that I felt the same just to throw her a curb ball. Because she had done this 2 weeks ago and I just said cool. This time I agreed with her. She then said we needed to talk in person and I said ok when are you free. And she said next week and I said ok and left it at that.

What is confusing me is that we didn’t text for a week but she knew I was going out of town this past weekend and she texted have a safe trip and was being funny and flirty as was on my way out of town. On Sunday on my way home she texted

Her - have a safe ride home don’t die

Me - thanks for the good wishes lol

Her - anytime

I stopped the texting there and today I texted her.

Me - what days are you free this week I have a funeral tomorrow

Her — are you ok?

Me - yeah I’m good thank you I really didn’t know that relative that well but it still sucks

Her - oh ok I’ll let you know
Her - I have a lot on my plate right know

Me - ok

I left it at that. I’m not sure if I’m losing my attraction if she likes this game of being unsure were we are at. How would you guys handle this for some reason I think this girl loves me but hates that I haven’t told her that we have been going out for 7 months.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Rico dude! What's happened is ya have been seeing each other for 7 months without committing. Eventually they will want a level of commitment from ya, the longer they go without it the worse or looks for them an when they realise they can't get it they'll pull away. So she'll shit test ya an play bigger games until ya fuck up or bow out.

I'm conflicted with ya text on perspective. Ya messaged her saying ya at a funeral. To us that's information that's cool to a girl it's not it's feelings. Following up with a have a lot on my plate right now shows potential vulnerability from the funeral. This could be her second guessing playing a game with ya but her sympathy weakens ya frame.

Her investment to ya messaging making sure ya got home safe means she still likes ya, attraction hasn't gone. Ya dealing with her emotions for commitment. If she's looking to step away it's to get ya to chase an commit, if ya not willing to commit a bit more there will be a point ya need to let her go...

If ya want to keep with her how ya play it depends how she plays this. If she comes guns out ya have to be strong keep cold an have ya guns out. If she's quiet nervous and unsure ya need reassurance. Ya need to be prepared for all situations dude!

 

[Rico]

Fluxcapacitator

Thanks for the advice. We scheduled to see each other this Sunday. I’m not ready to commit because we haven’t meet each other’s friends or family but I care about this girl. I see her as the main chick of the others I really don’t care about. I’ve hinted that I like her. I’ve never told her that I love her and she has never told me that she loves me.

Do you have any suggestions. I think she wants me to tell her that I love her. Which I think I do. Also based on your response I think she does.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

Rico dude! Ya have took me to literally on commitment ya don't have to commit to a relationship but show a willingness to open up to the idea. If ya don't want a relationship again ya need to manage this and manage her expectations. If she's hell bent on a relationship...

Showing a willingness to commit could be showing progress in the relationship. If ya not moving forward eventually it'll stall girls need progress and that could be seeing her friends. Don't bring this up!! It must be her idea!

Meeting friends and family is a huge step for relationships, some people want commitment before introducing you to their friends and family others don't.

If ya love her that's cool man but don't say it first! Game over dude! Personally I am reluctant to say it, there's a good article on here about should ya say I love you. Definitely read it!!

Suggestions is match and mirror her, be warm and lead the interaction. Keep your eye on the goal, ya out in person with her so build that sexual tension! You'll do fine dude let us know how ya got on!