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Hi all, just a kind of theoretical conflict I noticed reading Chase's articles that I think is fascinatingp) because of how confusing it is (al least for me haha). By the way I don't mean I think chase doesn't know what he's saying I just mean I found this confusing when I read one article after the other…hopefully someone could explain it to me and for anyone else who would care to know
https://www.girlschase.com/content/attra ... ation-date
In this article titled "Attraction has an expiration date", Chase explains that if a girl shows you signs of interest and feels like you aren't reciprocating interest, she starts to feel that you're not taking enough initiative and leading the courtship forward, she'll give up, and get cold on you (depending on how much she felt like her ego was on the line), and you lose your chances with her. All well and good—makes perfect sense on paper. But knowing that, things become more confusing when you read this article:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/attra ... or-it-isnt
In this one, Chase explains that there are two different kinds of "attractions" when it comes to seduction: one that is more permanent, based on "who you are" (eg. how similar your face is to hers, your fundamentals, even how you smell) rather than "what you do" (eg. if you talk smooth, if you take the right steps at the right time, etc). To distinguish the two he calls the first (the deeper kind of "attraction") "fascination", and the second (more fleeting) "excitement". Fascination cannot be "built": it's either there or isnt. Fascination is something that feels more primal, more magical, leads to a stronger bond between a guy and girl, and—this is important—a girl who is fascinated by you will be much more tolerant of mistakes, missed windows etc.
Chase even says you cannot lose fascination. He says he had girls who he'd messed up with disastrously, but the attraction remained (and he would be able to reignite it with the right approach).
Now the obvious question: if a girl is fascinated by you…will she still lose that fascination over time (like maybe even a really long time, like years)? Does it have an expiration date at all? Or, as chase said in the article, is fascinated "neither created nor destroyed"? Just hoping someone could flesh out the nuances, like if a girl is fascinated but ur game really sucked or you were too much of an asshole to her and she rejected, how long will she retain that fascination, and could you actually get a second chance within the right period of time? What if she was fascinated when she first met you but you just moved too slow, or didn't really move at all? The only thing I could imagine would destroy this fascination would be if you became really needy for her, like if you dated a while and you just became overly needy and showed that to her I'm sure she COULDN'T like you anymore even if she desperately wanted…but am I wrong on this? Someone wiser than me please help explain haha
https://www.girlschase.com/content/attra ... ation-date
In this article titled "Attraction has an expiration date", Chase explains that if a girl shows you signs of interest and feels like you aren't reciprocating interest, she starts to feel that you're not taking enough initiative and leading the courtship forward, she'll give up, and get cold on you (depending on how much she felt like her ego was on the line), and you lose your chances with her. All well and good—makes perfect sense on paper. But knowing that, things become more confusing when you read this article:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/attra ... or-it-isnt
In this one, Chase explains that there are two different kinds of "attractions" when it comes to seduction: one that is more permanent, based on "who you are" (eg. how similar your face is to hers, your fundamentals, even how you smell) rather than "what you do" (eg. if you talk smooth, if you take the right steps at the right time, etc). To distinguish the two he calls the first (the deeper kind of "attraction") "fascination", and the second (more fleeting) "excitement". Fascination cannot be "built": it's either there or isnt. Fascination is something that feels more primal, more magical, leads to a stronger bond between a guy and girl, and—this is important—a girl who is fascinated by you will be much more tolerant of mistakes, missed windows etc.
Chase even says you cannot lose fascination. He says he had girls who he'd messed up with disastrously, but the attraction remained (and he would be able to reignite it with the right approach).
Now the obvious question: if a girl is fascinated by you…will she still lose that fascination over time (like maybe even a really long time, like years)? Does it have an expiration date at all? Or, as chase said in the article, is fascinated "neither created nor destroyed"? Just hoping someone could flesh out the nuances, like if a girl is fascinated but ur game really sucked or you were too much of an asshole to her and she rejected, how long will she retain that fascination, and could you actually get a second chance within the right period of time? What if she was fascinated when she first met you but you just moved too slow, or didn't really move at all? The only thing I could imagine would destroy this fascination would be if you became really needy for her, like if you dated a while and you just became overly needy and showed that to her I'm sure she COULDN'T like you anymore even if she desperately wanted…but am I wrong on this? Someone wiser than me please help explain haha