Attractions expiration date

[slashrfnr]

Hi guys,

I was reading the brilliant 'Attraction has an Expiration date' article again, and was reading through some of the comments, and Chases reply. In one reply, he notes that

'So, make sure you don't do the sporadic flirting and especially not the continual contact / email buddy / Skype friend thing. Women respond far, far better when you resurface after a long absence than they do when you've been a continual platonic (e.g., guy who isn't sleeping with them) presence in their lives.

Keep contact cut until you're in her neighborhood again, and you'll keep your chances at their maximum.'

Which leads to my question. Does attraction decrease/expire over time spent with a girl, or over time in general?

If that doesn't make sense, i'll try an example. If you meet a girl and she is attracted to you, but you don't see/speak to her for year, are the feelings of attraction re-awoken when she sees you again, or will attraction expire in that year.

 

[Flames]

I'd say the true expiration date is usually a period of about 5 years. What you do between that time will either increase or decrease it.

If you do things that are 'annoying' or make her believe your 'incompatible' that will decrease it dramatically. In that case its better to put distance between you . What some people don't realise is that they'll be periods that she'll either be available or unavailable in that time period but the attraction will still be there.

 

[hillshift]

I think the expiration date refers to you not making the right moves within a short enough period of time. If you continually "wimp" out you will lose your opportunity. But every situation depends, I've had girls that gave me 2 and 3 chances to move faster, and then girls that never talked to me again because I didn't move fast enough. In my opinion, a girl that sees you as a high value guy that she really wants in her life will give you more chances to "fuck up", whereas girls with plenty of options that see you as "just another option" will likely move on faster.

The bottom line is: you gotta play it by ear. If she is giving you signs that you can move faster then do it. If she throws up weak objections then try to cut through them. If you give a solid effort and nothing comes of it then think "oh well", don't get an attitude with her, try to make light of the situation, and move on. I've seen girls become re-interested after I put up a solid effort and then am able to walk away no problem, just don't count on that...

Slash, it sounds like you have one particular girl in mind that you are worried you have missed your chance with. If so, make your move and make it the best you've got and be willing to shrug it off.