Hey guys, Garrett here!
I had a couple of questions to ask some of you guys who are currently and actively involved in pickup, but if you have insight anyways, I'd also be interested in hearing what you have to say!
1. When you are around family and friends, do you act authentic or do you do things like talk with a deeper voice, slow down movements/talking speed, using a sexy smile, law of least effort, alpha male etc.
Why I ask - Well for one, it's a lot of energy expended, especially if you are new to implementing all of these things into your life. Also, if you have a goal set, like trying to get better grades in school like myself, it's a bit distracting and it is a lot of work/energy. Also, I noticed I got a bit better reception when I was being my authentic self than implementing those other things into my life. Mind you, I've been at this for a little while, so it's not coming off tryhard, and by better reception, people were more open to me, but when I was playing around with my behavior, I felt I gave off a more dominant/king-like vibe (as opposed to a jester), and that people were warm when I approached them in social situations, but may have been slightly intimidated. I don't have time for pickup, and have no logistics so it's not my main focus at the moment; however, I'm interested in learning about it, and I also figure, if you aren't practicing your walking/talking and other behavior in conversation with your family/friends, how will you master it and come off as natural with women when you do go out stag to approach them?
2. When you are trying to make new friends and talk to people, Chase recommends that you should front load your value, meaning, to keep offering value until the other person offers it back in return. What I'm wondering is, wouldn't this come off as being a jester? I mean, I understand that you must offer value. Have you ever noticed that the people with the biggest egos, will offer no one value, and expect a lot of it in return? I wouldn't call those types of people a king because they aren't putting in enough value into other people's lives to make them want to be friends with them. So what I want to know is, how can you front load your value in a way that doesn't come off too much like a jester? Or in other words, how do you apply the Law of Least Effort to making friends? Chase mentioned it, I'm struggling with how to apply it so you don't go from one extreme (offering TOO MUCH value) to the other (not offering enough)
Why I ask - I've had pretty extreme views about things and sometimes look at things in a black and white context. I've been working on applying the mantra of balance to my life, and I deffinitely want to keep some of my value-providing friends around, without going overboard and at the same time, refraining from offering them little in return.
Thanks, and looking forward to any tips or suggestions that YOU have!
Garrett
I had a couple of questions to ask some of you guys who are currently and actively involved in pickup, but if you have insight anyways, I'd also be interested in hearing what you have to say!
1. When you are around family and friends, do you act authentic or do you do things like talk with a deeper voice, slow down movements/talking speed, using a sexy smile, law of least effort, alpha male etc.
Why I ask - Well for one, it's a lot of energy expended, especially if you are new to implementing all of these things into your life. Also, if you have a goal set, like trying to get better grades in school like myself, it's a bit distracting and it is a lot of work/energy. Also, I noticed I got a bit better reception when I was being my authentic self than implementing those other things into my life. Mind you, I've been at this for a little while, so it's not coming off tryhard, and by better reception, people were more open to me, but when I was playing around with my behavior, I felt I gave off a more dominant/king-like vibe (as opposed to a jester), and that people were warm when I approached them in social situations, but may have been slightly intimidated. I don't have time for pickup, and have no logistics so it's not my main focus at the moment; however, I'm interested in learning about it, and I also figure, if you aren't practicing your walking/talking and other behavior in conversation with your family/friends, how will you master it and come off as natural with women when you do go out stag to approach them?
2. When you are trying to make new friends and talk to people, Chase recommends that you should front load your value, meaning, to keep offering value until the other person offers it back in return. What I'm wondering is, wouldn't this come off as being a jester? I mean, I understand that you must offer value. Have you ever noticed that the people with the biggest egos, will offer no one value, and expect a lot of it in return? I wouldn't call those types of people a king because they aren't putting in enough value into other people's lives to make them want to be friends with them. So what I want to know is, how can you front load your value in a way that doesn't come off too much like a jester? Or in other words, how do you apply the Law of Least Effort to making friends? Chase mentioned it, I'm struggling with how to apply it so you don't go from one extreme (offering TOO MUCH value) to the other (not offering enough)
Why I ask - I've had pretty extreme views about things and sometimes look at things in a black and white context. I've been working on applying the mantra of balance to my life, and I deffinitely want to keep some of my value-providing friends around, without going overboard and at the same time, refraining from offering them little in return.
Thanks, and looking forward to any tips or suggestions that YOU have!
Garrett
