Auto-rejection question: Do women ever think that maybe you're just nervous?

[GeneralFap]

I read that women will go into auto-rejection and feel bitter towards you if they send you an approach signal and you don't approach her. They do so because they think you have rejected them. But don't they ever think that maybe you're just too nervous to approach her? Furthermore, most guys won't even pick up on her signals. She ends up feeling like you rejected her coldly, when in fact, you didn't approach because of other circumstances.

 

[ray_zorse]

It works on two levels. Firstly the conscious level. How do you feel if you gather up your balls and go talk to an attractive woman who turns away, freezes you out and ignores you. You think "what a cold-hearted frigid bitch of an ice-queen", you don't think "maybe she's nervous of talking to a stranger in a public place and I need to build more comfort". Secondly the unconscious level. Anything involving the ego (strengthening the ego by acquiring possessions or people for example) takes place unconsciously. Women don't understand escalation windows, IOIs or auto-rejection. They just know what they need to do at any given time without knowing or questioning why. So, she experiences it as "I need to get closer to that guy and browse for some records beside him" followed by "I hate that asshole" (remember women's thoughts are emotionally linked, not logically linked through reasoning or cause/effect).
Ray

 

[Bboy100]

Also, you have to understand that women live in a world in which of LOTS of men approaching them (most of whom seem pretty low value). So they assume on a subconscious level that ALL men do it with relative ease. Needless to say, this isn't true. But the way her reality exists, it sure as hell seems that way. Also, most women probably have no concept of AA to begin with. To them, I would imagine it just seems like this "little thing you have to get over". Unless they've really thought about it and talked to a lot of guys about it, there's no way they understand just how intense and how primitive AA truly is.

Note: I'm not bashing women's ability to be empathetic here either. This goes both ways. Most men have no idea why women are so concerned with reputation, resistance to sex, ignoring men/being flaky and standoffish. They just assume the women is "being a bitch". This is ofc, not true either.

It's just hard to get a good grasp of these things without someone sitting you down and explaining it to you. Regardless of which gender you belong to.

 

[GeneralFap]

Thats very interesting, that means that most women are pretty much just as clueless about the opposite sex as nice guys.

 

[Bboy100]

Thats very interesting, that means that most women are pretty much just as clueless about the opposite sex as nice guys.

No. Intuitively or not, women have a much better grasp of social interactions than men who don't put effort into this do. But they still don't have a good grasp on EVERYTHING. In particular, they often lack an understanding of the male perspective. But in every other area, I feel like women are naturally better than men when it comes to socializing.