Back to Basics: A Romantic in "The Worst City in North America"

[DrD]

Background info: I've been frequenting this site for years, but since I'm what Chase refers to as a Romantic once I get a girl who meets my standards I break from gaming and invest my energy in her.

The goal of the Romantic is to meet an amazing woman (or two) and be swept up into a deep, meaningful, passionate affair with her. His objective is to feel, and to make her feel. He trusts women, and wants them to trust him too.

For the past 13 years I've always had interesting women in my activities/surroundings/social circles, so my focus has been entirely on the seduction side and I've completely ignored approach.

Fast forward to the present, and I'm new in a city referred to on several PU sites (including this one, lol) as the worst city to meet women in North America (and therefore probably the world). Winter here is (a brutal) 7 months out of the year, there is a huge foodie culture (the only city where girls stuff their faces with poutine before a night out?) and there are a lot of well-groomed, educated, and muscular men. This results in many women not really taking care of themselves physically, since they can be a 6 in looks and bag an 8 with a little bit of effort. Finding interesting and beautiful (as opposed to flashy and sexy, there are a bunch of those in the clubs here) has been a tremendous challenge.

That being said, I hate to admit defeat so it's time to take to the streets, and find a way to differentiate myself from all the mediocre PUAs doing the same thing

Self-Imposed Rules:

• Only daygame will count as improvement. No dating app use, and I won't write about social circle success
• Devoting at least 1.5 hours/weekday to DG between 4-7pm
• Focus on Indirect Direct openers
• Use a modified version of the newbie mission for faster progress

Exp system:
I like gaming, so I'm going to use a experience system to objectively track my progress.

• +1 - Following through on an approach with no close
• +2/4/6/8/10 - Getting the number AND instagram of a girl with an attractiveness of 6-10
• -10 - Going home without a phone number

 

[DrD]

Day 0 (before figuring out the rules)

As hard as it is for my ego to admit, I've always had extreme approach anxiety. I grew up as a visible minority in a very segregated city (it's like the most politically correct apartheid ever), so I've always had an awareness of not being most women's "tribe".
Most of my time block here was walking around the major mall and nearby areas, trying to make eye contact with women.

This is not a city where people make eye contact

Since I went out from 2pm-4pm, there weren't even that many people around. After an hour or so of this I was frustrated, my energy was drained and I was feeling incredibly unattractive.
Rather than go home empty handed, I decided to just street stop the first girl I found attractive.

A few minutes later, an asian girl walked by briskly - slim body, white blouse, long black skirt. She had headphones on, and was probably the cutest girl walking alone that I'd seen all day so I went after her.
A fast walk and headphones on was pretty intimidating for my first approach though, and I couldn't bring myself to move in front of her and motion for her to take her headphones on as would be necessary

Instead I followed her like Stalker McStalkerson for a couple blocks, until she turned into a grocery store. Inside, I positioned myself so our paths would cross as she turned the corner.
She made a half second of eye contact as she walked past, and that was enough

I walked back over to her. "Hi, I saw you walk past just now and I thought you were really cute."
She smiled from ear to ear. "That's so nice, I was actually feeling down today and you really made my day"

We chatted for ten minutes, but she turned out to be 20 years old (a 13 year age gap ) I told her we should go for coffee anyways, and we exchanged numbers.

XP +4

With renewed energy, I decided to put a little bit more time into it before going home.
Heading back a couple blocks, a tiny (under 5ft) chinese girl looked into my eyes and smiled as we walked past each other on the crosswalk.
I jogged after her and did the exact same opening line (so sue me). Her reply: "Oh my goodness, you're so handsome too."
She was incredibly warm and open, but also about a 6, 20 years old, and with very poor english
I walked with her to a store and we parted ways slightly awkwardly due to the language barrier. I chatted up a storegirl for 5 mins, and just as I finished the chinese girl came back to talk to me.
We went for bubble tea and exchanged numbers.

XP +2

Today's time: 2h
Total xp: 6

 

[DrD]

Day 1:
There was actually about a week in between this and Day 0, so I completely lost momentum here.
Went out around 4pm and did a loop around the mall. Place was still pretty empty, I have to start coming a little later in the day :/

Spent the first 30 minutes or so focusing on posture and scanning with peripheral vision instead of looking at people as they passed by.
I literally have no idea how people can tell if they're being looked at from their peripherals, cause I can't see people's eyes at all this way
Are you looking for head turns? Something for me to post in the questions section perhaps.

Started situational conversations with a couple attractive white girls in a bookstore based on what they were looking at.
The first one started talking again when I turned my head away a couple times, but the conversation was factual and she was taken (she was literally buying a game of thrones book set for her s/o) and it trailed off after a couple minutes.
The second one was pretty, but my tone wasn't particularly playful or interesting "There any decent journals over on your side?", and it was about a 10 second exchange before she walked away.
I think I'm a little too aware of how loud I'm being in a bookstore and end up uninterestingly quiet; something to work on.

Walked around the mall for another 20 minutes and tbh saw several girls shopping alone I could have opened but pussied out.
Decided I wasn't feeling it and started walking home; ducked into a nearby grocery to see if the vibe was any better.
As I'm doing a loop around (it's a tiny store, just 2 aisles) I see this gorgeous asian with ash grey hair and a black dress on the elegant side. Easily a 9, and the most attractive person I've seen in days
She's at the checkout as I notice her, so I grab a couple snacks and line up behind her... just as she moves up to the cashier.

By the time I get out of the store, she's waiting at a light - I end up following her (mild stalking is starting to be my M.O.) across the street to where she goes in a building and sits down to watch stuff on her phone.
I sit near by, casually eat my snack for a couple minutes, then go over with the "Hi, I was just leaving but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi. I'm DrD"
She was 22, even prettier up close, and had just spent 8 hours getting her hair dyed so she was really happy someone noticed.
We ended up talking for half an hour & finding a lot of things in common, while she laughed, qualified herself, and flipped her hair back and forth over her eye with head tosses while holding eye contact.
I left with her number and plans for a coffee date

It seems like it's really true that the ones we find the most attractive (not flashy and hot) are also the most likely to be into us.
This was a girl I would normally have never approached and gone into auto-rejection over without first seeing some direct indicator of interest, and here I was converting someone staring at their phone with earphones in into a date

XP +8

Today's time: 2h
Total xp: 14

 

[DRAGON]

nice stuff man! )

 

[DrD]

Well this is coming to an abrupt end/change :/

FR:
Girl #1 from Day 0:
Was texting her to meet up, she got nervous and asked about my age. The age gap got to me and I lied, and she promptly googled me and found my real age in about 2 mins.
So... yeah. Don't lie lol

Girl #2 from Day 0:
Came over a couple days later and made out, but something seemed off so I asked her about her experience, and ...she was a virgin.
I decided it wasn't worth it for either of us and bailed

Girl from Day 1:
Following Chase's SAC course (it's 100% worth the money if you haven't bought it), went from two date venues to bed in under 4 hours, which is a new record for me for a girl I actually like.
We turned out to have a ton in common and better physical chemistry than I've had with a girl in 8+ years. Being the romantic I am, I'm happier investing in someone who provides great conversation, affection, and amazing sex than continuing to hunt for more, so... taking a hiatus from direct game already :/

In the meantime, going to continue using SAC to build attraction with girls to the point where I know I can sleep with them... but then not