bad effects of not masturbating

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Okay I've been off jerking off for 2 weeks now and I feel like my aggression is going too high.

It's probably all the testosterone and stress building up. But when I'm out I just want someone to look at me wrong so I can cave in his skull.

And I work out every single day, I do martial arts, yoga and meditation to keep myself calm and burn off the excess energy. Even at the gym I'm acting like a complete asshole to the other guys working out and acting intimidating. It just happens and I can't control it. I just feel really aggressive towards other guys but am still afraid to approach.


And it's weird cause I still can't seem to summon the courage to approach a single girl. But I put on a mean and scary face every time a guy looks at me or when I work out.



Sometimes like right now I feel like I'm gonna explode. Now I'm leaving to go workout and release at least a bit of that aggression and testosterone.

 

[rocky]

You have find ways to release this testosterone, the gym is a perfect way to do it. I have been porn and masturbation free for 115 days, the last 36 of which have been sex-free. I can tell you that even now I go through that, not always feeling aggression, but just a very emotional state where things can really excite me, either positively or negatively. It doesnt happen very often anymore. I think the fact that i meditate almost daily and exercise has really minimized the effects of this excess of stored hormones.

Keep at it, the benefits from not masturbating along with not watching porn are too many. After a while masturbating can continue again, but porn should always be avoided.

 

[Amadeaus]

I don't know what some people have against masturbation. I like to get my rocks off twice a day. Once in the morning and once before bed. I have never experienced any issue with it when its time for sex. Sometimes, if I want to have a nice load to blow for a girl, I will hold off for a couple days.

If I don't rub one out for around 7 days or so, I will get blue balls really bad for a day or so. This happens when I go do Army training and have to live in close quarters for long periods of time. When I was in Kuwait, waiting to go into Iraq, I rubbed one out with my own spit in a 100 degree metal outhouse at 3am. Maybe that makes me a monster, idk, I like to keep things flowing, so my balls don't hurt.

If porn and/or masturbating is having a negative impact in your life, by all means fix the problem. But don't get backed up for no reason.

 

[Eric]

I don't know what some people have against masturbation. I like to get my rocks off twice a day. Once in the morning and once before bed. I have never experienced any issue with it when its time for sex. Sometimes, if I want to have a nice load to blow for a girl, I will hold off for a couple days.

If I don't rub one out for around 7 days or so, I will get blue balls really bad for a day or so. This happens when I go do Army training and have to live in close quarters for long periods of time. When I was in Kuwait, waiting to go into Iraq, I rubbed one out with my own spit in a 100 degree metal outhouse at 3am. Maybe that makes me a monster, idk, I like to keep things flowing, so my balls don't hurt.

If porn and/or masturbating is having a negative impact in your life, by all means fix the problem. But don't get backed up for no reason.

Yeah, as someone who delves quite a bit into the research of the human body, I agree. I have no idea to what to think, really.

Maybe the amount of masturbation is correlative not causal. So people with higher testosterone masturbate more, rather than more/less masturbation => more / less testosterone. Maybe the body adapts to MORE ejaculation by raising testosterone / hormone levels. It's really hard to say, I can't see any good data on it.

My viewpoint on this would be "Well, no idea, it's probably insignificant".

Jamie Lewis from C&P (a very smart guy with a crazy libido / lifestyle, world record squat holder, very nsfw) seems to be against the idea of no-fap, in his article No Fap More Like No Fucking Way, while chase seems to be against it in a few of his articles.

 

[Franco]

I'm going to go ahead and chime in on this one since it is seeming to come up more often.

To fap, or not to fap? THAT is the question!

Anyway, excusing my humor, I think that the answer to this is: it depends.

If you are a guy who is having trouble with approach anxiety and frequently masturbating to porn, then I suggest you cut down on the AMOUNT of masturbation that you do. For those of you who have tried doing this, you'll notice that you'll tend to get really aggressively horny around the 7-day mark, and this can be EXACTLY what you need to approach and get sexual with women.

Last summer, I went out one weekend without masturbating the entire week just to see the effect it had on me. To be honest, I felt the effect was tremendous, and approach anxiety was still one of the weakest points in my game (even though I had slept with a number of women by this point). Every time I saw a beautiful girl, I literally imagined myself fucking her like an animal, and it upped my confidence and aggression ten-fold. This does wonders for you if you are having a lot of trouble approaching girls because of a mental block. The stimulation you get from viewing a beautiful woman after not masturbating for awhile can almost override your anxiety of approaching. It's pretty effective.

That being said, if approach anxiety is something that isn't a concern of yours, then occasionally masturbating will likely have no harmful effect on you. Masturbation is only harmful if it is preventing you (or hindering you) from approaching women. You can choose to completely cut it out of your life, or you can promise yourself to only masturbate once every 7-10 days after you've done your approaching for the week. I've noticed that after 10 days or so, the "aggression" effect of not masturbating seems to wear off a bit, but you still end up being horny, which doesn't do you much good if you aren't approaching at the time.

Anyway, this is my take on masturbation. Don't let it be an obstacle to approaching, but if you feel like it isn't, then masturbation can be a form of healthy release occasionally. Of course, once you start bedding women frequently, you won't need to masturbate!

- Franco

 

[Drck]

Most likely you apper too aggressive, you have too much of enemy attitude (e.g. in fitness) with your cockyness. There is no reason for that, just chill out, be more friendly, relax. You don't need to intimidate others with your attitude, you are only building barriers for yourself. The fact that you are exercising and building/having some muscle mass is enough. Generate respect with body mass and body language, while your attitude and facial expression is more friendly, even mellow. Such body language might actually be quite confusing, and that is a good thing - the more confused she is the more she will be thinking about you, and the bigger challenge you appear to her.

Ok, so you are stronger than most of your peers, you have some 50-70 pounds more muscle mass than most girls - and you are still afraid of her? What are you afraid of, rejection? Emotional pain? Practice rejections then. Go out, find some 7-8/10 and screw up. Get rejected for purpose. Your goal is not to get laid - your goal is to get rejected by her. Next couple of weeks focus on rejections only.

Destroy that nicenessness of that Nice Guy in you. Go to a strip club. There are different kinds, some bars are too commercial, others too filthy, so find some decent one. If you don't have guts to go on your own go with friends. It will cost you some money but it worths it, assuming that you don't have much experience with girls. Have a beer or two to ease your anxiety. You'll see bunch of naked girs dancing. You can be beta or alpha, PUA or regular guy, shy or bold - who cares, nobody is looking at you. Or be nothing, just enjoy, relax, I'm sure you've seen hundreds of naked girls in porn. Look gently at some nice girl and smile. Don't look away and don't look down, just look at her. She will come to you, talk to you, touch you, let you touch her. Get her a drink and let her talk for couple of minutes. Get a lap dance. You don't have to go crazy, it is just an experience, exposure to naked women. If you are conservative you can easily spent less than $50 in 2-3 hours. If you are a wild animal you'll end up broke.

It is really just about getting the experience: (1) You don't want to date those girls or marry them, (2) they will come to you/approach you, not the other way, (3) you get used to talk to naked girls, even touch them and have them rub against you. Some are ugly, others are hot, you'll see even 8/10.

It won't get you exactly where you want to be with girls but it is a good start, you gain some confidence - if you can with ease talk to naked girls, it will be much easier to talk to girls in clothes. Just forget everything, forget PUA and alpha/beta crap, simply enjoy. That is all.

Also, if you are not used to being touched by girl, go get a massage from woman, and if possible from young good looking one. This time you are half naked, and you have her hands all ofer your body. Another great experience, you don't even have to talk. Again, another $50-60 spent quite well. Last time I paid $50, she was around 22, good looking, massaging me 50 minutes at one of these regular massage places. If I said 10 words during this time, it is too much. Then she handed me her personal card, to get a personal massage - at her place. Damn!

Do that several times, and you'll see how EASY it is. It is so EASY that you won't even want to waste time on girls that are giving you hard time...

Not 14 but 144 days you shall not jerk off!