I recently got back from a 2 week solo trip abroad and am going through my latest developments and game improvements while trying to figure out what I need to work on. The focus I'm trying to delve into is on the importance/relation between tight game and R/K selection.
First, the Improvements:
- I'm opening girls in the day-time like there's no simply no reason not to
- Have no problems going out alone
- I capitalize on IOIs to drive things forward fast
- I'm instinctively touching the women I like to reward their investment in me
- I don't have any second thoughts about inviting girls home
- I lead much better and women stick to me like glue, no questions asked
- My first 3 insta-dates
- I'm using more sexual framing and winks which seems to get girls on the same page fast
- Grabbing #s 9x/10
Sticking Points
- Lots of flakes regardless of how well the interaction went
- Girls just won't fuck me?!? They don't capitalize on opportunities to be alone with me
- Also, I'm still a bit clumsy with escalating on girls who aren't 100% down like a clown
The crux of my problem is that despite making it clear that I won't be around for long and have sex on my mind, women just won't take the dive with me and I can't figure out why.
Some examples of girls I should of had this trip but didn't:
The 1st girl followed me to my empty cabin to smoke a cigarette and "dance" a bit, but then dodged my kiss and excused herself to catch a bus. I knew it was on until she just wouldn't kiss me.
The 2nd was taking me home until she realized she didn't have the key and rejoined her friends, and refusing to come home to my hotel instead. I also knew it was on until she just shut off.
The 3rd followed me from the market center to a cafe, then to our local neighborhood but wouldn't let me in to her home. Turned out her parents were home, but despite following my every lead and appearing interested she wouldn't take a cab back to my hostel either.
I've been looking through all sorts of theory and trying to figure out my problem, and I just don't get it.
I think that even though I'm developing a tight process and my mental models are fantastic, something about my presentation is betraying my mindset/intentions and making girls reject fast intimacy with me.
Nick Krauser says that while there is a whole spectrum of R-K degrees, women perceive a man in a very polarized way on this regard, and I'm starting to think that might be my problem. I've also been reading a lot of Rollo Tomassi's essays on The Rational Male for a much better understanding of why these cues are important to a woman's mating strategies. Either it's bad luck on the numbers game or something about my dress/hair/interaction style is telegraphing K-selection.
Has anybody else had a similar problem in their development? I'd like to know I'm not just being crazy so that I can make the right choices in not changing anything and playing the #s or adapting my style.
Happy New Years,
- TR
First, the Improvements:
- I'm opening girls in the day-time like there's no simply no reason not to
- Have no problems going out alone
- I capitalize on IOIs to drive things forward fast
- I'm instinctively touching the women I like to reward their investment in me
- I don't have any second thoughts about inviting girls home
- I lead much better and women stick to me like glue, no questions asked
- My first 3 insta-dates
- I'm using more sexual framing and winks which seems to get girls on the same page fast
- Grabbing #s 9x/10
Sticking Points
- Lots of flakes regardless of how well the interaction went
- Girls just won't fuck me?!? They don't capitalize on opportunities to be alone with me
- Also, I'm still a bit clumsy with escalating on girls who aren't 100% down like a clown
The crux of my problem is that despite making it clear that I won't be around for long and have sex on my mind, women just won't take the dive with me and I can't figure out why.
Some examples of girls I should of had this trip but didn't:
The 1st girl followed me to my empty cabin to smoke a cigarette and "dance" a bit, but then dodged my kiss and excused herself to catch a bus. I knew it was on until she just wouldn't kiss me.
The 2nd was taking me home until she realized she didn't have the key and rejoined her friends, and refusing to come home to my hotel instead. I also knew it was on until she just shut off.
The 3rd followed me from the market center to a cafe, then to our local neighborhood but wouldn't let me in to her home. Turned out her parents were home, but despite following my every lead and appearing interested she wouldn't take a cab back to my hostel either.
I've been looking through all sorts of theory and trying to figure out my problem, and I just don't get it.
I think that even though I'm developing a tight process and my mental models are fantastic, something about my presentation is betraying my mindset/intentions and making girls reject fast intimacy with me.
Nick Krauser says that while there is a whole spectrum of R-K degrees, women perceive a man in a very polarized way on this regard, and I'm starting to think that might be my problem. I've also been reading a lot of Rollo Tomassi's essays on The Rational Male for a much better understanding of why these cues are important to a woman's mating strategies. Either it's bad luck on the numbers game or something about my dress/hair/interaction style is telegraphing K-selection.
Has anybody else had a similar problem in their development? I'd like to know I'm not just being crazy so that I can make the right choices in not changing anything and playing the #s or adapting my style.
Happy New Years,
- TR
