So I had only done a few cold approaches so far, and had not gotten rejected yet (mostly because I didn't make any moves). I had approached a girl and gotten her number within five minutes of meeting her, but that is the most success I have had with cold approach day game. So anyway, I was at school and saw a girl sitting talking to some fat guy with an empty chair in between them. She seemed bored, and we made eye contact and i smiled at her, and she smiled back. I kept walking, and and then thought to myself, "how awesome would it be if i just walked up and sat between them and started talking to her". I turned around, walked back, sat down in the empty chair and started a conversation with her. After a minute or so she looked over at her friend and said, "Hey I need to go to the bathroom, could you watch my stuff?" and walked off. I looked at the guy and said, "well, you can't win em all" and walked away. I had expected a rejection, but in hindsight I probably could have gotten her if I had handled the situation right. She seemed somewhat interested in me until i started conversing with her. If I had gone up and just said, "hey, come with me" or if I had moved her as soon as I had introduced myself, would it have been more likely to work? I have pretty solid conversational skills, so I like to rely on that heavily, but I realized that I can't really do that in a situation like that. Is there anyway to get a girl in similar situations or is interrupting without acknowledging their friend impossible to do without seeming like an ass?
You should never forcibly exclude a person she's with unless it's obvious she doesn't want to be with them, it's just a dick move and building at least a little rapport with the people surrounding her makes you seem a lot more trustworthy.
Going up and inserting yourself into the conversation is fine but you should have remained standing and talked to both of them until you felt they both accepted you, then you can sit down and start to turn the conversation more toward just her.
still though you shouldn't regret what you did, being too ballsy is always better than the alternative.
Going up and inserting yourself into the conversation is fine but you should have remained standing and talked to both of them until you felt they both accepted you, then you can sit down and start to turn the conversation more toward just her.
still though you shouldn't regret what you did, being too ballsy is always better than the alternative.