Balsir´s Journal

[Balsir]

Hey, everyone!

The time has come for me to finally put what I know to practice, and why not spice it up a little bit by writing a journal?

For over a year, I´ve been taking advice from the articles on GirlsChase and from the folks on the forums and improving my fundamentals, but I haven´t really gotten to approaching women due to an unpleasant dose of apprach anxiety. Bummer! So now I´ve finally decided to man up and start approaching. I currently attend two universities in two towns and live in a third one, that´s why I´ll mainly approach girls while on campus or while traveling.

I´ve started writing this journal today, because today is today that I´ve taken the first step and opened a girl (note that this is the first stranger I´ve approached, I don´t have a problem with opening friends of friends etc.). I had just taken a seat on the train headed for my university town when suddenly a cute girl I had noticed at the station entered my compartment and asked if one of the seats was free. I said yes(could have just smiled and pointed out a seat) and she took a seat right opposite to me. I knew I had to open her, my mind just had no way around it. So after a while, after pretending to check my phone I asked her where she was going. Turns out she goes to the same university as I do, I deep dived her a bit on that(if she likes it, why has she chosen the field, what she´s gonna do next), I tried to throw in a sexual frame(not sure she got it, either I didn´t make it clear enough, or I forced it), she mentioned her boyfriend mid-conversation(I actually like when girls say they have boyfriends, that way I know where I´m standing at) and we eventually parted ways at the station(we had classes at different places). Anyway, I noticed that my conversations die out rather quickly. It just feels like I don´t know what else to say and both me and the girl just stop the conversation. Any tips on how to keep a conversation going? Thanks.

So, this was my first approach of man more. I have a lot to work on and I guess the journey is gonna be as much fun as the destination. Feel free to comment and criticize. I´ll make sure to keep you posted on my progress.

Cheers!
Balsir

 

[Balsir]

Hi folks!

Today was the second day of my adventures.

I have created a system for myself with which I trust I am going to progress. Every day I go out or go to school or wherever, I´ll open at least one woman. After I manage to open two, the next day I´ll have to open at least two and so on and so on. After I am able to open at least four women a day, I´ll start opening direct, I´m too much of a chicken for now to pull that off.

Anyway, I managed to start a conversation with one girl today and it has taught me an important lesson which just can´t be repeated enough: MOVE FASTER!
I was working out my legs at my campus gym when I noticed a beautiful girl in a tight black top and shorts walk into the room I was in. She looked stunning. She started working out her legs on one of those machines mostly women use(the ones where you open and close your legs...). After a few minutes of mustering up courage I opened her:

Me: That´s one of the most womanly exercises I´ve ever seen.

She immediately answered how her legs were all sore from her exercise on Tuesday(which surprised me as I wasn´t yet done talking out of nervosity). I asked her how long she trained, she responded. I introduced myself: "By the way, my name is Jakub" and extended my hand, she took it, said her name, I held it for a split second and continued the conversation. I can´t remember the exact conversation. I made a quip when she told me that she wore high heels the next day after her workout("That must have been half weird, half sexy"), I guess she responded well to it. We both connected on how we couldn´t start deliberately exercising before -- now when I look back, this is when I should´ve asked to meet up later, but damn, I didn´t. I´ll make sure to be more sensitive to this sort of high points and use them.

There were several more chances I could´ve taken, but I haven´t(a truly beautiful girl standing right behind me in a row for lunch) and several others. I also notice I can´t seem to force myself to open girls which are walking the opposite to me - gonna have to work on that, nothing´s better than exposing yourself to your fears.

So, this was my second day of improving my skills with women. I´ll write as soon as I have something new.

Over and out,
Balsir

 

[Balsir]

I was at school yesterday, there was just one new girl I talked to(a classmate, never noticed her before), however, my voice and conversation style was a bit off - too gamey, and I guess I didn´t make the best impression. However, I caught her looking in my direction and smiling after we made eye contact(she once smiled one of the closed mouth sexy smiles). If anything is to happen with her, I´ll have to figure out logistics, because we´re both terribly far from home.

Today(Sunday) I forced myself to go out to pick up some money from the bank and went for a walk, determined to approach. I saw a group of girls talking to each other, but my AA kicked in and I didn´t approach. Other than that, there was just one woman I´d be interested in, but she walked past me too fast and I didn´t open her.

Gonna approach at school tomorrow.

Balsir

 

[Balsir]

Today started off a bit slow, but improved at the end. The only actual approach I made was at the train station this evening. I felt a bit desperate after not being able to open a single girl at college or at the shopping center. I knew I had to approach at least one girl today and I could really feel the pressure of time coming down on me.

Then the opportunity came. I saw two cute girls entering the train station and sit down in the waiting room. I sat down next to them, took out my notes for college and read them through. I planned on finishing learning after a while, closing the notebook, letting out a bored sigh, turning to the girls and opening them. However, it didn´t happen the same way. One of the girls managed to say something very ridiculous and we all laughed. That´s when I started the conversation.

We had a fun conversation, managed to find out one of the girls was happily single(I amplified the topic by probing her about it) and the other one had a boyfriend. Unfortunately, I didn´t ask for the single one´s number(didn´t figure out the best way to do so without startling her friend) and we parted ways and I remained with the second girl who was taking the same train.

We kept talking on the train, she was one of the girls experiencing the love of her life and she had a very firm belief in a strong lifelong relationship. This proved to be a very interesting contradication to Alek´s latest post https://www.girlschase.com/content/social-order-sexual-restriction-and-secret-society(I highly recommend it). I asked her for her number and she reluctantly gave me, as I later found out, a fake one. I thought this might happen, because she was fairly conservative and reserved, opening up when I asked her something, but she told me she was careful who she let into her life.

Summary:
What I did good: I approached a group and kept the conversation going. Asked for a number.
Things to work on: Walking approach - I feel relatively comfortable with opening girls while I´m sitting or locked in, but by not opening while walking, I let a lot of opportunities pass by(literally).
Asking for her number!

Until next time,
-Balsir

 

[Balsir]

I chickened out today, I was out, there were a lot of nice girls, but while my mind said go, my body kept saying no. One of my approaches was stopped by a girl friend of mine on the train and while I saw the girl later after we parted ways(literally stood 1 meter from her), I didn´t find the courage to open her. The same with another one which came a few minutes later.

Balsir

 

[Balsir]

Hi folks,

I haven´t posted for a while, mainly because there wasn´t much to post about. I was able to get over my last week´s failure(I opened 2 girls),but I haven´t approached for four days due to being out of town and during this time, my AA managed to creep back on me. Looks like the fight isn´t over yet. I´m gonna do my best to open as many girls as possible.

I´ll keep you posted.

Balsir