Barney Stinson’s journal

[barneystin]

Living in nyc now and trying to take advantage of this opportunity to refine my game and get some crazy experiences

I’ve been dealing with moving and settling down for the past couple of months so I haven’t had the chance to game as much but I’m mostly settled now and I’ll be a lot more consistent.

New year developments:
- Getting back into daygame: reading the LRs from James D and co has given me a lot of motivation to fully devote myself to daygame
- Pulling back from night game. I think I’m starting to burnt out from night game. I had a lot of fun with it especially in college but I can’t get around my lack of consistency so I’m switching gears for a bit. I might come back to it so we’ll see
- So far, I’ve only had 2 lays in 3 months (I’ve been too lazy to write lay reports but I don’t think there’s much learning to be had from those LRs anyway)

 

[barneystin]

Hate to lament on here but it seems I might have hit a plateau. Still trying to figure out day game in nyc given it’s colder now and I’m busy at work most of the week.

I hate doing online game (I do have 1 girl I’m seeing from online at the moment) and I’m getting burnt out from night game - too little results/consistency given how much time I put into it.

Snagged my 11th lay a couple weeks ago but it just seems like I’ve hit the maximum level I can get to given my current fundamentals/looks.
I could obviously get that number up but quality and consistency are the most important things to me at the moment.

it seems like the only way to go up from here is to either massively improve fundamentals and/or take coaching both of which are pretty expensive so I’ll have to figure this out

Has anyone faced a similar plateau?

 

[barneystin]

Realized i haven’t made an update here so im doing so.

Currently at 15 lays. At this point im averaging one new girl a month - better than when i started but not exactly my idea of success. i think 2-3 new quality girls every month is what im aiming for.

Also working on getting past that beginner phase where im studying pickup aggressively and trying out new things all the time. I’m more focused on incorporating pick up into my daily life and seeing good results from it.

Also decided to make some major decisions:
- i’m quiting masturbation - cold turkey - well not 100%. if i masturbate once a month, then who gives a shit but i definitely want to mostly get rid of it from my life. it was something i picked up when i was in a low point in my life and im in a much better place now so its time to move on. I feel like it just throws my emotional state out of balance making it hard for me to connect with people, be present, and have a killer instinct.

- i’ve decided to make enjoying the game a priority. Recently i’ve noticed that i started dreading talking to girls because the conversations felt so boring and i don’t get any personal fulfillment out of the interaction (besides the possibility of sex). It got to a point where i was questioning if I really liked talking with to women (outside of just having sex with them). I think this also ties into the masturbation habit so i’m hoping i get better at this

till next time

 

[barneystin]

Also decided to make some major decisions:
- i’m quiting masturbation - cold turkey - well not 100%. if i masturbate once a month, then who gives a shit but i definitely want to mostly get rid of it from my life

Don’t know if it’s placebo but i’ve been so much better at having interesting conversations this week! Used to not have the energy for small talk and would literally just not participate. I still hate small talk but now i can definitely participate if i have to

feels weird because i don’t have something to look forward to at the end of the night but in a way, it makes me appreciate the little things more

 

[barneystin]

I don't know what i tapped into this weekend - maybe it was the new shirt i just got that brought me a lot of compliments or the new club i just discovered that I actually enjoy going to and that has women that are clearly into me or just wanting to be in a fun mood after a long week of work. Or maybe it was the combination of all of these things - nonetheless - it was a great weekend.

I didn't get laid but I had a ton of makeouts, IOIs and situations where i was close to pulling (but failed to due to lack of preparation and bad logistics management) and everything just made sense - like this whole time, i'd been approaching seduction half blind where I couldn't read the pages most of the time. However, the words were clearer and things made more sense. I know why i didn't get the result i wanted and i plan to come up with an actual battle plan for next weekend

 

[barneystin]

However, the words were clearer and things made more sense. I know why i didn't get the result i wanted and i plan to come up with an actual battle plan for next weekend

Surely enough, I got a lay with a hb9 from this venue yesterday

I guess venue selection is king in night game

 

[barneystin]

A little vent…
Just went out on a date with this girl who’s my relationship type - smart, attractive, funny, confident, creative.

i decided not to run my first date sex routine which usually gets me sex on first date (except for the past month where i lost two girls). However all the girls i’ve fucked on the first date (which is almost all the girls i’ve taken on dates this year) ghost after the sex. Sure we might talk for a couple of days but they eventually ghost. The one girl i managed to retain this year was a girl i closed on second date. Because of this, I wanted to run a second game routine

She wasn’t receptive much to touch at the beginning but over time she softened and we kissed - i could tell she wanted more.

i wanted to vibe check a pull back to my place but she didn’t seem down for it so i stuck to my original plan. i walked her to the bus since it was right by mine and kissed her goodbye

Now i can’t get out of my head because i think she’ll text me saying she just wants to be friends loll. The cost of experimentation i guess

I guess my abundance is just not where it needs to be

Game is game (as much as i hate it)

 

[barneystin]

A little vent…
Just went out on a date with this girl who’s my relationship type - smart, attractive, funny, confident, creative.

So funny that i was just tripping over this but i’ve laid two girls from night game this week since then lol.

That’s 3 this month and 10 this year already. This is definitely the per month quantity/quality i want

These two girls also seem retainable which hits another big goal of mine. The big thing i did differently is just talk to girls about their dating experience so far in life and their sex preferences, especially after sex. I don’t have much in common with a lot of girls but one i’m really interested in is what dating/sex is like from a woman’s perspective. And it turns out women like to talk about their dating lives too so it’s perfect! I also get to learn female game using my experience with her as a case study.
Unfortunately they’re both from out of town so it will probably stay as one night stands.

One big takeaway from this two lays is: use compliance requests to test her level of interest/compliance.

There were points in both of these lays where I wasn’t sure the girl was into me and i almost ejected in one of them. But I stayed in set and used a relatively big compliance request (getting them to move with me to another part of the bar and fully isolate from their friends) to test their interest. I think I would have definitely lost out on the second girl if i didn’t do that because i was in my head about whether or not she was into me

i should definitely write some lay reports but im too lazy at the moment