Barriers to Seduction - Fear, Sex Regret and False Accusations

[windsofchange]

With the sweeping 'rape culture' hysteria being promoted, and laws such as 'yes means yes', it appears that many men would rather not bother playing the game and going recluse, than attempting to navigate the murky waters of getting laid and becoming seducers.

Personally, I believe in just going for what you want, and go out into becoming a seducer by trying and failing, and learning and not giving a focus to the distractions of 'rape culture hysteria'. However, this might be limiting other people from pursuing what they want.

What are your strategies for overcoming what is known as 'sex regret' or sour feelings that might disintegrate into negative emotions on the part of the partner, who might then file for false rape accusations/charges or something else (despite it being a consensual act)?

 

[Rage]

The best way to protect yourself is to not date or sleep with women who buy into the "women are victims of men" stuff. If I hear anything about rape culture or feminism leave a woman's mouth - unless she is mocking those things - I run the other way. Also, feminist women are largely Cluster B's, and thus purely vampiric in nature and will never add anything of value to your life (in fact, they think the idea of adding value to a man's life is "an outdated patriarchal social norm" and other such jibberish).

Only date women who actually like men, and a large part of that fear should be neutralized. That's how I do it.

I also make sure the girl is having a great time the whole time. There are no bad vibes, or as my friend and mentor once put it, "If I'm with a woman, and she's not laughing, and I'm not touching her, then I'm probably dead." This goes a very long way, think about it...if she enjoys the experience, there is nothing to regret.

Oftentimes, it is the guy behaving as if the woman may have regret, that creates that feeling in her to begin with. The man is always leading.

This is a great suggestion; I'm much less experienced but thought that girls like this (that were attractive too) wouldn't exist much ... but found one for the first time the other day, who was at her place making me food (and thought I was doing well with her too)... and I said something about it being great when a girl can cook smiling; and she's like"excuse me that's really sexist and some other shit..."

And then says "oh it's ok you didn't know; yeah I say racist things sometimes too to joke..." ... but I was incredibly turned off just when i saw that she was serious, about being offended and that she had that angry feminist type in her. I made an excuse to leave early and just left, following my instinct of being suddenly turned off by her; drexel the explanation about being cluster B and all that makes sense. So glad I made that decision to not try to press forward with that girl.

-Gem

 

[Franco]

WoC,

This article is also very relevant and gives you some idea as to where "sex regret" comes from and how to prevent it:

• Ego Depletion (and Keeping Women Around)

- Franco

 

[windsofchange]

@Franco: Yes, that article is definitely quite relevant. Thank you for the link.

@DrexelScott and Gem: Indeed, it becomes difficult to separate the ones who buy into the victim-mentality from the ones who don't. Which is why we musn't be blinded in our pursuits and must pay heed to warning signs / red flags. However, there are plenty of attractive women who feel ostracized by the whole victim complex thing, so they reject it (because the feminist movement doesn't like girls who are celebrated for their beauty). The challenge / game then becomes a maze to navigate. A new way of screening on our side to not end up with problematic scenarios.