Becoming an Asshole

[Edd--19]

Hey fellow seducers-to-be and those who have honed their skills, I've got this problem that I'm certain the majority of you have experienced. Simply put I'm going to call it Nice Guy Syndrome. I've already read Chase's article on how to become an asshole https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-to-be-asshole---and-become-adored-women but I still have a small problem and that is this; How do I know I'm being asshole-ish enough? I've troed following the steps laid out in the past but I've had no success in becoming an asshole because I still feel people treat me the same way. So in essence does anyone have any more pointers on becoming a dick?

 

[Franco]

Edd,

A good way to start becoming more of an "asshole" and a guy who doesn't serve other people is to take more of a passive approach rather than a proactive one -- at least when you're starting out. For example, when people ask you to do something you don't want to do (and it's something you normally would want to do when you're being nice), then tell them "no" and that you don't want to do it. This is much easier to remind yourself to do rather than actively going out and trying to DO things that make you look more like an asshole (and will probably actually make you an asshole, which is not exactly what you want).

I have a good example from my own experience. When I first started changing myself after discovering this website, I made a mental note to stop doing things for girls that are trivial when they ask me to do them. On Labor Day weekend a couple of years ago, a rather "flashy, drama queen" type of girl was with me and a bunch of friends at a beach house for the weekend. She was used to having things done for her rather often, so she wasn't afraid to ask guys to do something when she wanted to.

On one of the mornings that we woke up, she was laying on her bed and saw me standing close to it. She then asked, "Franco, can you plug in my phone for me in the charger over there?" I looked over at the electrical outlet in the wall that was probably less than 5 feet away from her. I then glanced back at her and said, "I think you can do that yourself. You're a big a girl." And then I gave her a sly smile for a second and saw her look at me rather surprised. I ended up hooking up with this girl months later on a different vacation with friends when my sexual tension with her was off the charts.

So anyway, practice declining requests from people (especially girls) to do trivial things for them. Make sure not to sound angry about it but rather playful and cool. No one asks the "cool" badass to do things for them because he knows he doesn't need to do stupid, mundane things for them!

- Franco

 

[Mr.Rob]

I agree with Franco here. Get used to telling people, everyone including your parents for practice, to do their own little trivial (or non trivial) shit themselves. Tell bums that ask you for money to fuck off and get a job. Tell girls that ask you to buy them a drink to ask one of their orbiters to buy it and bring it over to her while she talks to you.

Get used to saying no and after a while it becomes evily fun to say no to people.

Also I was recommended to read "I Hope they Serve Beer in Hell" by Tucker Max when I was starting to become more of an asshole, to learn more of the psychology of an asshole and it helped greatly. Like now that I understand the psychology when I encounter people that are being dicks instead of being offended I see where their coming from and see the humor in it. Also it will be the funniest book you ever read in your life so worst case scenario you get a good laugh out of it.

Though if you do read it don't aim to become exactly like him, because then your a true dickhead with sociopathic tendencies and disregard for others feelings.

-Rob

 

[Mr.Rob]

here's a good example video wise in my opinion of being "nice" vs "asshole"

1. Platonic and "nice"- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YlZYmPbc4Dw
You notice here he's apologetic as fuck (even excuses himself when he sits in the chair like he's a fucking little pest) and is putting in a lot of work to talk to her (bends all the way down) and is basically catering to her needs. Essentially Tom here poses no sexual threat to this girl at all whatsoever along with no sexual arousal and chat simply as platonic friends...

2. Asshole/dominant gangster- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uRK8eiS_f_g
Skip to 1:18 on this video (or watch the whole thing) and watch Julien as he opens and talks to the girl. Doesn't give a fuck about her needs (her talking on the phone to whomever) and dominantly (if even annoyingly) asserts himself to get what he wants (with knowledge that the girl wants it as well). Also he is doing this mostly out of self amusement and isn't actually some evil asshole demanding this girls time. He's simply having fun and giving her a unique experience.

Also this one is pretty badass https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xEAEyXN1lQ

Like I said these are just example I think are relevant to the difference between the two and maybe you got something out of it.

-Rob

 

[Big Daddy]

God, what a way to become more aware of assholeness. I never thought of it in a passive way and it made a world of difference, because

1) I didn't realize until the moment that I read this post that I do a lot of things to people that I could simply deny because fuck it, I don't wanna do it.

2) It was on automatic. "Could you please do x?" would automatically make me more prone to do it just because.

After reading this, I caught myself in two of such situation. One in which I went out of my way to to get a bag for someone and take it back for him, which I could probably have said "you can do this yourself." The second one was fairly similar to Franco's example with a slight difference: I was seated and next to me there was a wall outlet, and someone handed me a cable and asked if I could plug it into the outlet.

(Just after I plugged it came to mind, "oh, that post from yesterday!")

My BIGGEST problem in whatever social situation at the moment is calibration. I can't quite feel yet if I gone overboard or not. For instance, if I refused to plug the charger in the wall outlet in the second example I gave you, it'd probably make me look like a complete asshole (which would be likely if I was trying to be more of an asshole), and I'm assuming that that's not good.

So, I think that I could refuse getting the bag on the first case, but refusing to plug the charger on the second would probably be a bad way of going asshole, right? Or I'm just being a pussy and refusing on both situations would be OK?

 

[AsianPersuasion]

The way I got more asshole-ish was learning to take amusement in making people uncomfortable. They're hardly ever alive for most of the day because they're so stuck in their auto-pilot... Any emotion, even offense, is still better than monotony.... So break them out of it, push your boundaries, and push some buttons. The more they cringe, the more you laugh... Hell, even for Speech Team in the OO catagory, everyone was picking non-controversial topics, and I chose the legalization of prostitution and got a kick out of every time the judge gave me a weird look. I still owned it well enough to win them over in the end though, so I wasn't going full asshole.

Make everything a sexual-innuendo, laugh when people are uncomfortable, use dark humor like dead baby jokes, be lewd, be crude, recite dirty limmericks, challenge people... Basically just bring out that inner child in you!

Here's an example... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eeOE4BQPHxk

Obviously, this can be overdone, but the goal here is to cross the line so that for future reference you know where that line actually is.

As SashaDaygame puts it, you're really brightening up their day. Best case scenario is that you brighten up their day with some variation, and even in the worst case scenario of them thinking you're a total asshole, they now have someone to talk shit about, thus giving them something to do.