Becoming sexier and more attractive is making things harder, not easier

[DarkKnight]

awesome that you pull bombshells, I did sleep with a bombshell instagram model a month or so back but it's one of the only times I've pulled it off. how do you pull it off, what's your style/grooming.fashion that you use to pull it off? Getting blonde massive tits bombshells is definitely something I want to get more of.

I’m probably a bit older than you and honestly, I couldn’t care less whether a girl calls herself an Instagram “model” or not. Might as well tell them I’m a StarCraft II general.

From what I’ve seen in the thread, your main challenge isn’t how you look. You already admitted that conversation and vibe are where you struggle. It’s tempting to double down on things you already mastered because it feels safer, but your fastest growth will come from fixing those weak points like banter, flirting, and leading interactions. You also need to understand the metagame better. Start with Teevster’s Attraction Paradox and Chase’s Paradox of the Flirty Girl. Add in “Ball in Your Court Text” and “For Resistant Girls, Use This.” Right now you’re coming across a bit rough, hoping that attraction alone bulldozes through everything. It doesn’t work that way.

anyway I'm going to bail.. this is a busy year. Best of luck to you and Im sure you will get your blondes with massive tits.

 

[Skills]

@Skills you have a habit of throwing me into posts from time to time. I’m barely on the boards these days

I will get you a parachute... Re read what I said... Too look at some of your posts were i remember you were dealing with similar, do you have a problem with my sentence? Then buy midol

 

[DarkKnight]

I will get you a parachute... Re read what I said... Too look at some of your posts were i remember you were dealing with similar, do you have a problem with my sentence? Then buy midol

Sigh, last thing I am interested in is another flame war Skills. Anyway good day to you

 

[Chase]

@killerman,

Thing is I rarely can get past the boring questions and conversation. When I'm talking with the girl i often cant think of anything to say, struggle to be flirtatious and it's always too platonic and i just end up firing off boring questions. The initial approach is always a piece of cake but when I start conversations it just rarely has flow and it's hard not to have boring questions and boring conversations. Thing is ive been doing this for years and been on tons of dates but it's always a struggle being flirty and not having boring conversations. How do i fix this? Thing is the ratio of date to sex ratio is actually not that bad, somewhere between 33% and 50% successs rate but loads fall through in the process and so many numbers dont turn into dates at all.

I've been having more and more guys say this to me recently.

It's weird because back in the day guys would just do teases, cold reads, routines, etc., to stack through the initial conversation, but where a lot of guys really struggled was, "What do I say to her once I have her hooked?" or "I'm not sure what to say once I've got 'em." So I used to have to focus a lot on teaching deep diving, chase framing, etc.

Since I started working with coaching clients, I would say the majority of them are dealing with the "trouble getting girls to even hook" problem.

I guess "reaching the hook point" has always been a problem, and maybe it's just selection bias for me right now due to some of the new students I'm working with, but it feels like it's become a bigger problem now than it used to be?

Maybe I should think about a new article series or a course or something on early convo / hook point.

That said, I would definitely recommend reading or rereading everything in the "Hook Point" section of Girls Chase:

Hook Point | Girls Chase

www.girlschase.com

(I mean, I could probably make an entire course on hook points just by going through the articles there, ordering the strategies from them, then fleshing stuff out with more detail on video, maybe with some models so guys can see it exemplified.)

Chase

 

[killerman]

Thanks for feedback guys, from now on I will focus ruthlessly on improving my overall social skills, being more flirty/playful, being a better conversationalist, being more charismatic and charming as this is clearly something I need to work on. This will be my main focus. Am also going to spend the next 6 months improving my fashion as much as possible, I want to be the guy in the room with the best fashion/dress sense. Charisma + charm + improved playfulness/flirting/teasing + better fashion. Let's go.