OK. Here's an issue. I dated a girl and after 3 dates she texted me she's not up for more as she's not "feeling it." Fine. I liked her, and would have pursued things further, but am not too upset about it. Other prospects, etc.
The easy part is just deleting her number and moving on to others. It's what I've always done.
However, I like this one as a friend too, plus she has good contacts with other fine women and people I wouldn't mind meeting. How do you make her a friend without being creepy and her suspecting you are staying close to her to "try again" later? If you keep texting her, or ask to meet for lunch, or do something else together, isn't there a chance she will think you're needy, or worse, a stalker? How do you best say "let's stay friends" so she knows it's true, and then actually convince her it's not the usual small talk that people say in situations like this without meaning it? Call her up and bluntly say you're not wanting being a stalker, but would enjoy hang out once in a while, just as friends? Or is there a better way?
The easy part is just deleting her number and moving on to others. It's what I've always done.
However, I like this one as a friend too, plus she has good contacts with other fine women and people I wouldn't mind meeting. How do you make her a friend without being creepy and her suspecting you are staying close to her to "try again" later? If you keep texting her, or ask to meet for lunch, or do something else together, isn't there a chance she will think you're needy, or worse, a stalker? How do you best say "let's stay friends" so she knows it's true, and then actually convince her it's not the usual small talk that people say in situations like this without meaning it? Call her up and bluntly say you're not wanting being a stalker, but would enjoy hang out once in a while, just as friends? Or is there a better way?
