Being attacked and harassed by women, what to do?

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

So I have a situation on my hand from a workplace many years ago where I started my job and this happened a while back, just wondering how I can handle this better moving forward.

My manager was a short skinny brash Indian girl who loved to constantly stir the pot. She openly bullied employees, talked down to them, and almost exclusively did this to the men. If you were an Indian or brown guy, she was especially targeted in her harassment and would talk down to you constantly, yell at you, ridicule you, and attempt to make your life miserable. She would make up figures at work at times and get you to do the wrong thing in the business just so she could parade it over your head. Even Matt Forney has written an article about how psycho Indian women are but it got deleted from Return Of Kings.

Now she had that fake smile that you see in a psychopath and loved to start drama at every turn. Overall, this was a miserable person who went home lonely, the guy she was eyeing was an Indian guy who'd only go for white girls, and she would constantly make threats against people as well. Most of all, she took pride in being an annoying pest, she'd come right up to you if she saw you in public and try to get a conversation going knowing full well that you did not want to associate with her.

A while back, I was out at a brewery with my good friend. We were chatting and have a couple beers. She actually sees me and is out with her Indian circle, mostly hideous women and beta looking ugly men. Right there she comes up to me and starts trying to chat but I ignore her. Even at the workplace, I would give her one word answers and try not to open up too much. I even quit the toxic work environment and blocked her on LinkedIn and all social media.

She had a few drinks in her so she shouts and starts talking shit, even calling me a bitch and all sorts of names but I ignore her. My buddy leans over to talk to a couple girls and I join in on the convo, ignoring the Indian girl, and she continues to butt in at every detail trying to call me a racist, Trump lover, bigot, and everything. I continue to ignorer her but then she kicks my leg.

I say to her "hey, do not touch me!", she kicks me again in the shins and then punches me at which point I put my arm in the way. I say "dude back off and do not touch me". She cusses with alcohol in her system and then continues to kick and hit me at which point I take a step back and keep my arm in the way.

Her friends come and get her, a couple of the guys try to even challenge me to a fight with one being like 6'5. My friend steps in and tells them to back off and what had happened, the girls in the Indian group break it up.

Now I have been lucky not to see this woman again but I am not in the same city either.

How do you successfully deal with these situations?

I also do not understand Indians that well other than the fact that Indian men complain about not getting any pussy so I was hoping that @Grand Pooba could give me more insight.

 

[DarkKnight]

Is she still your manager? That part was not clear to me but is probably an important factor. I assume she is not anymore since you wrote you quitted the workplace.

When someone like that challenges you it is best to ignore them to make them feel ineffective and let them come off as asses to the public. If she starts harassing and meddling with your convos immediately warn her and else go to the staff (if possible). You have to set your boundaries instead of avoid.

However the moment she started punching/kicking you, you should have pushed her away. You dont need to argue here. She has crossed way too much of a line.

I have a feeling you were too tentative... people like her tend to push other peoples limits and have a good idea at where others stand. The risk of ignoring someone for too long when they misbehave is that you condition yourself to take that specific persons shit.. effectively it can allow them to psychologically dominate you.

In reverse matter it conditions them that they can get away with everything, which explains her extreme behaviour.

Usually such people have complexes by the way and are ladder climbers..

I encountered someone like her a couple of weeks back. She made one too many sarcastic comments.. I immediately told her I did not appreciate the unprofessional behavior and I would ask for someone else to help me (she risks injuring her status) which prompted her to behave.. its a similar case but I nipped it in the bud.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

In minority groups, especially those more foreign, there is little regard for law and social norms when dealing with people of their own race. This is most prominent amongst Indians in my experience who will belittle waiters and feel that they can get away with a lot more when dealing with people of their own race. You will also notice this with black American women. Now such behavior would rarely be used on a white guy, especially if he is an American.

Even when I winged with an Indian friend of mines, there were older Indian guys who would try to cockblock him or make fun of him for approaching women. Women themselves would also be approached by those guys then and there who were looking to start drama or get under the skin of my friend. In other words, a crabs in a bucket culture. As Russell Peters even referenced, Indians hate other Indians.

Indian women in the US also do not get disciplined much and are often spoiled like rich white girls. Unfortunately, they lack the physical attractiveness and tend to be below the bottom of desirability for most men. Most are taught little accountability so they tend to get away with more and get the idea that they can often bully certain people. Usually, this is all done out of bitterness for their unfulfilled sex life and lack of desirability. You'll rarely see this in the Indian women out there who are hot.

Now as for how to deal with the types, especially if you are of a group they find vulnerable.

1. Set the line ASAP. In the workplace, always challenge anything unreasonable. Make the threat of seeing HR and call out the hypocrisy. If they make snide comments, call it out. If they call you incompetent, say "hold on now, no need to talk down to people, what is this?" (Indians do talk down to people a lot).

2. Always have the threat of external intervention. Often times in Indian and Asian communities, bullies feel that they can get away with more because they think some bullshit cultural code will stop law enforcement or others from taking part or the thinking that "well they aren't white so no one will take their complaints seriously". The other defense is they can just cry "racism" if they get accused of anything. Get HR involved, scumbags tend to thrive in privacy.

3. Set the line clearly moving forward and disclose very little about yourself. Make it clear that you are not their family or even close to a friend, you both just happened to work together and that is it. Disclose very little, make things private, and even say "I am not going to share my personal life with you and your probing is making me quite uncomfortable". Black people from poverty big city areas (aka the hood, keyword here) do this a lot too and often love to waste everyone's time in the business world, preferring to BS and talk shit for hours on end while not getting any work done.

4. Not sure of your race but I'd get your white friends involved. As soon as "the law" (aka concerned white people) get their eyes on the situation, a lot of these people will back off. Asians and Indians know damned well that they do not want a confrontation with someone who has powerful white friends or just white friends in general.

 

[Grand Pooba]

So I have a situation on my hand from a workplace many years ago where I started my job and this happened a while back, just wondering how I can handle this better moving forward.

My manager was a short skinny brash Indian girl who loved to constantly stir the pot. She openly bullied employees, talked down to them, and almost exclusively did this to the men. If you were an Indian or brown guy, she was especially targeted in her harassment and would talk down to you constantly, yell at you, ridicule you, and attempt to make your life miserable. She would make up figures at work at times and get you to do the wrong thing in the business just so she could parade it over your head. Even Matt Forney has written an article about how psycho Indian women are but it got deleted from Return Of Kings.

Now she had that fake smile that you see in a psychopath and loved to start drama at every turn. Overall, this was a miserable person who went home lonely, the guy she was eyeing was an Indian guy who'd only go for white girls, and she would constantly make threats against people as well. Most of all, she took pride in being an annoying pest, she'd come right up to you if she saw you in public and try to get a conversation going knowing full well that you did not want to associate with her.

A while back, I was out at a brewery with my good friend. We were chatting and have a couple beers. She actually sees me and is out with her Indian circle, mostly hideous women and beta looking ugly men. Right there she comes up to me and starts trying to chat but I ignore her. Even at the workplace, I would give her one word answers and try not to open up too much. I even quit the toxic work environment and blocked her on LinkedIn and all social media.

She had a few drinks in her so she shouts and starts talking shit, even calling me a bitch and all sorts of names but I ignore her. My buddy leans over to talk to a couple girls and I join in on the convo, ignoring the Indian girl, and she continues to butt in at every detail trying to call me a racist, Trump lover, bigot, and everything. I continue to ignorer her but then she kicks my leg.

I say to her "hey, do not touch me!", she kicks me again in the shins and then punches me at which point I put my arm in the way. I say "dude back off and do not touch me". She cusses with alcohol in her system and then continues to kick and hit me at which point I take a step back and keep my arm in the way.

Her friends come and get her, a couple of the guys try to even challenge me to a fight with one being like 6'5. My friend steps in and tells them to back off and what had happened, the girls in the Indian group break it up.

Now I have been lucky not to see this woman again but I am not in the same city either.

How do you successfully deal with these situations?

I also do not understand Indians that well other than the fact that Indian men complain about not getting any pussy so I was hoping that @Grand Pooba could give me more insight.

This is probably one where you get staff involved or threaten to call the police - and claim you have no idea who the person is, aside from you being co-workers many many years ago.