Being Direct without making her reject you

[daniel.yesh777]

When I read some articles in this site i see that there is always an emphasis on the girl being the one after you and the whole theory of the law of least effort,but here is the thing, when youre moving things fast with a girl ,it is on one hand using very little effort because youre spending less time impressing her. but on the other hand you ,the way i see it , girls are generally very unpredidicable when it comes to sex,for example; even if they DO want it they may resist your offer to come to your apartment because they dont want to feel to "easy"especially when your trying to me things fast.I talked to a buddy of mine and he immedietly told me that i should just be direct and tell her (even by text) "whats up , want to come over?" but my immediate reaction (probably because i myself have trouble getting from talking to sex ) was "why would a girl which ive meat recently or a girl who is not a close friend (not in the friend zone) whould not feel intimidated or "easy" to just come to my place?" so my questions to you guys are , A.should you even be direct? or is it better to try and be smooth and mysterious as possibleto get the best results. B. lets say you should be direct, what ways are there to do that and not comming of as too needy and that way getting rejected.

thank you ,
Daniel

 

[Mr.Rob]

You want to move fast to sex yes. Your also correct in the assertion that women don't want to seem easy. Though on the flipside women love sex so that's almost a paradox right?

The trick is to lead the women to fast sex without making her feel like she's being easy and instead making it feel like it "just happened".

So for instance you could say "hey xyz! you should come over so I can show you those pictures I was telling you about from my trip". Now obviously you don't really give a fuck about showing her your pictures but when you give her an excuse to come over and then the emotions just "happen" to be conducive to sex (and she feels like you won't judge her for having quick sex with you) well she'll want to have sex and it won't be a big deal.

Women need/want sex too. That's why when you take women on nice dates and pay for their shit and put them into a position where they have to fit the regular mold of a proper women in society all you get is a peck on the cheek goodnight. However when that same girl goes out to the club and some douchebag introduces himself and treats her like a dog she goes home and fucks him the same night. He set up no expectations and the right climate for fast sex.

Not saying treat women like dogs (though you can for fun but definitely learn to present yourself in a different light if your having trouble in this area.

Most importantly be taking action and finding out for yourself what works.

-Rob

 

[Smith]

A.should you even be direct? or is it better to try and be smooth and mysterious as possibleto get the best results. B. lets say you should be direct, what ways are there to do that and not comming of as too needy and that way getting rejected.

I think you can be direct, smooth and mysterious at the same time. As James Marshall says - "Make no apologies, take full responsibilities". You're gonna get rejected whether you go direct or indirect. But being direct shows you that you are a man who knows what he wants and go after it.

Being direct and being needy is two different things. One does not cause the other. You're more likely to get 'rejected' for being needy than being direct.
Don't chase, then you won't be needy.

- Smith

 

[daniel.yesh777]

thanks guys great advice!

 

[Richard]

When I read some articles in this site i see that there is always an emphasis on the girl being the one after you and the whole theory of the law of least effort,but here is the thing, when youre moving things fast with a girl ,it is on one hand using very little effort because youre spending less time impressing her. but on the other hand you ,the way i see it , girls are generally very unpredidicable when it comes to sex,for example; even if they DO want it they may resist your offer to come to your apartment because they dont want to feel to "easy"especially when your trying to me things fast.I talked to a buddy of mine and he immedietly told me that i should just be direct and tell her (even by text) "whats up , want to come over?" but my immediate reaction (probably because i myself have trouble getting from talking to sex ) was "why would a girl which ive meat recently or a girl who is not a close friend (not in the friend zone) whould not feel intimidated or "easy" to just come to my place?" so my questions to you guys are , A.should you even be direct? or is it better to try and be smooth and mysterious as possibleto get the best results. B. lets say you should be direct, what ways are there to do that and not comming of as too needy and that way getting rejected

Daniel,

Welcome to GirlsChase - allow me to be your tour guide through this mysterious world we call "pick-up," because reading your post took me back to a year and a half ago when I had the same ideas and problems you do now.

Girls aren't unpredictable when it comes to sex - if she wants to fuck you then despite her resistance, or unpredictability the end result is the same: she wants to fuck you, and as the man leading her it's your obligation to keep that in mind.

As far as approaching goes... I'm a stone cold direct opener kind of guy - and I move very fast. To this day I've got 3 insta-lays where I fucked the girl within an hour of meeting her. Moving fast is the way to go and when you're an attractive man women will be very open to sleeping with you because women love sex, and if you're a man who can give her great sex she'll want to keep you around.

With regards to girls who feel "easy," it's an ego-defense mechanism and a socially derived one as well. If girls could walk around naked, and have sex with guys without fear of being labeled then they gladly would but because society (namely jealous guys and girls) pressures women into being "good girls" essentially then the game becomes more challenging. If you can show a woman that you don't judge her for her sexuality then she will be much more open to sleeping with you because she knows that it won't bite her in the ass and you'll be discrete about the whole operation.

My final closing thought is this: opening direct does a great number of things for you: namely 1) not waste your time because you'll know pretty early on in the conversation whether she's open to sleeping with you or not, and 2) it conveys dominant, and masculine qualities about yourself (which is attractive to women), and 3) it sets a great expectation for the rest of the adventure you and her embark on.

So open direct, move fast, don't judge women, and take things sexual early on, got it?

-Richard