Hello cads, lately I’ve been working on being more sociable. I don’t know why but when I try talking to people/groups they ignore me flat out. I don’t know if it’s because I’m saying the wrong thing or they don’t see me as a friendly person. I wanted to know if any of you have been through this. Thanks.
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Hey dude we need to know a bit more... can you tell about yerself in abstract (non identifying ways)
For example we were trying to find a board game to play, so I said to the group let’s play Yahtzee, ignored. I asked this girl about her switch, ignored.
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How are your fundamentals
I’ve got down eye contact and walk and am working on my voice.
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Tell us more.. your weight your style etc.. there is a big chance you need improvement... and also better idea to start the new impr3ssions with new people as ther3 will be less resistance to the new you
That's still very vague. I get that you may be new here...but... what @DarkKnight is asking is for you to be specific. Let me give an example of what that would look like:
"I have been trying to be more sociable lately. Whenever I go up to a group of people, they flat-out ignore me. I dress nice, smell good. I speak clearly, have a nice haircut (etc. fundamentals). So the last time I was at a bar/party/social event and I saw a group of 3 girls and 2 guys. I approached them and the conversation went something like this:
Mossity: .........(what you said)
Girl 1: ..... (what she said or did)
Dude: (insults you)
Mossity: ....... (responds to the insult)
Girl 2: ...... (rolls her eyes at you)
I don't understand this guys, can you help me figure out where I am going wrong?"
Notice how in my example it outlines: fundamentals, the conversation (try to remember as much as possible), body language, your environment, etc. That's how you write a post that will get you answers.
Troy
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I think my fundamentals are not developed enough leading people to not wanting to be associated with me.
I think there is a communication gap. However, you are here to learn so that's good. Start by reading these articles.
Great Fundamentals: Handling Your Intangibles
Lately, I have received a lot of interest and requests for an article on what we refer to as “fundamentals”. If you’re relatively good with women now, then the importance of having a solid base to work off of is probably at least somewhat clear to you. Entering this field, having proper...
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If You Want to Do Well with Girls, Fundamentals are Everything
Your game and your mindsets (inner game) are important. But the only thing women see and experience firsthand is your fundamentals. This is one of my axioms of game. I consider it true on a biblical level. Game is fundamentals. Contents 1. Fundamental Expression 2. Words: Expressions of...
www.girlschase.com
After you read them, then share your next response with us. Because right now, you have not told us much for us to pinpoint the problem. How much have you worked on?
- Clothing / Fashion
- Hairstyle and facial hair
- Attractive male body
- Male scent
- Voice
- Eye Contact
- Body Language / Movement (your walk, gestures and facial expressions)
Share the response for each below. As the article says, fundamentals are crucial for success. Without them, people will naturally ignore you. Not because they are good or bad people. It's simply human nature to follow the path of least resistance. And someone who displays poor fundamentals can quickly become a social burden to others. Let us know where you fall and we will guide you further.
Troy