Being Nerdy a Good Thing?

[JimmyB]

I brought a girl back last night and she was very into it. Things went really well and we got together, but she kept saying "you're such a nerd". I asked her what she means by that and all she could say was "you're just such a nerd" but she seemed to like that about me. I do play computer games and such and am kind of a nerd, with no shame about that side of me. I'm starting to think it's almost a good thing to be seen this way (if you are actually kinda nerdy). Is it maybe appealing to a girl that she finds a guy who she thinks is high value but also technically "nerdy" that it's a great combination for attainability? She's a sorority girl, so maybe she's just used to a certain type of guy? A few times she said "I think I should go" and I talked her out of it and got her to stay and she was happy. She noted that usually when she says that, a guy will just say "alright" and play it cool and she leaves.
Is being nerdy maybe a good thing then? I'd say especially for keeping a sexual relationship. You can be your nerdy self and a girl can laugh at it even, but you're attractive so she enjoys being with you for the sexual part of it. I have good fundamentals and do not give in to girls' attempts to take an upper hand in the interactions. It's like because I'm nerdy she thinks she can be more dominant and tries to be, but I don't allow that because I maintain dominance as a man should, and so the chase is fun for her. Lot in here, just trying to get a discussion on this because I'm sure there's plenty of nerdy guys on this site that this would apply to and I've noticed this with a few girls.

JB

 

[Franco]

JimmyB,

Nothing wrong with being a nerd, bud! My current girlfriend knows my passion for PC games and how I watch streams of pro players to get better and whatnot. She knows I'm really passionate about it, and she doesn't care (and kinda thinks its sexy when I get quadra-kills on noobs, lol).

Next time she says that to you, get her naked, start railing her, throw on some nerdy glasses in the middle of pounding her and say, "you love being fucked by this nerd, don't you?" She'll probably laugh for a second because she knows she loves it.

Nothing is quite as hot as a "sexy nerd."

- Franco

 

[Desert Eagle]

Is being nerdy maybe a good thing then? I'd say especially for keeping a sexual relationship.

I think sex is more important for a sexual relationship lol...

But being nerdy/quirky/passionate is better than being boring and watching TV all day in my opinion. I'm pretty nerdy myself because I play a lot of video games and watch a lot of people play them to get better like Franco does, and I learned to stop thinking of it as a negative thing because it's pretty cool and more people should be into it.

 

[JimmyB]

Deagle, yeah ok lol. I meant more like you aren't trying to play the perfect guy and get slotted into boyfriend/husband material, so keeping it sexual is easier. It's interesting to look at this because 'nerdy' holds the stereotype of being strange and bad with women (at least it did for me), but really that has nothing to do with interest in 'nerdy' stuff, that's just social ineptitude. This is kind of eye opening for me because for a long time I tried to hide some of this stuff to be more 'normal' but I'm realizing now that a lot of people are into similar games/movies and in the same boat. And Franco, maybe it's time she upgrade...real men finish the penta. Haha thanks for responses guys.

 

[Franco]

Jimmy,

And Franco, maybe it's time she upgrade...real men finish the penta.

I had a penta once... last hit was taken by my friend. Didn't get official credit. =(

- Franco