Best forms of dance to learn?

[Water]

What are the best forms of dance to learn?

There’s so many different kinds of dance.

@Skills thoughts? Your expertise is dance floor game.

 

[James D]

Not suitable for dance floor game at all but I took tango lessons and no regrets.

I work it in the conversation every time and even add in Al Pacino's line from Scent of A Woman:

"No mistakes in the tango, Donna. Not like life. That's what makes the tango so great. If you make a mistake, get all tangled up, just tango on."

That's just me, though.

It might not be because of the dance itself but simply because it's a genuine passion of mine, so when I talk about it, she can feel it's real.

I'll even offer to teach her a few moves and end up teaching her the cross.

Works great to build compliance and close in physical proximity.

 

[egorkluch]

Ecstatic Dance is the best. Maybe, contact improvisation, I'll try it tomorrow =)

 

[Lantern]

What are the best forms of dance to learn?

Best for what? Seduction? Life? Night clubs? Meeting people? Exercise?

 

[Water]

Best for what? Seduction? Life? Night clubs? Meeting people? Exercise?

Forgot to specify this.

So, in terms of priority, approximately:

1. Seduction. (I’ve seen guys good at dancing get gasps from girls when they led the girls through an intricate dance or when they properly dipped the girl)
2. Dance floor game.
3. Fun / life.
4. Meeting women (?)

 

[Derek da man]

It really depends on why you want to learn to dance:

If it’s just to meet women then I would suggest there are much easier and less time-consuming ways, but if you enjoy various music and dancing to it then get involved. There are usually lots of girls to dance with and always new people to meet especially if you like to travel and go to festivals/congresses which they have all over the world. However, it can become a bit stale if you only ever go to the same place/class to dance.

As @James D said if you’re not passionate about it then it will always come across as fake. If there’s a particular type of music you prefer then obviously go for that.

If your preference is to get out and meet people while dancing, then you need to research what’s available in your area. All areas will have different events going on and the age-group and mix will often vary a bit, my opinion/experiences are below. Usually a 60-70% Women to 30-40% Men but this is also quite variable.

Remember that in most dances the man is expected to lead so you need to be able to do the dance steps at speed without thinking about them while planning what steps will follow what you are doing. In addition, you also need good balance and fine motor control in order that you can guide or lead the lady in the correct way at the right time. If you’re not leading, the dance won’t work but when you can lead it gives you a huge compliance boost when dancing with beginners but with those that can dance having a lead that is anything but good will have completely the opposite effect – just a bit of a warning there.

Ballroom (Waltz, Foxtrot, Quickstep, Tango, Viennese Waltz) & Latin (Rumba, Cha-Cha-Cha, Samba, Jive, Paso-doble) – Socials can be good and varied, age range in my experience is older 45+, but lots of dances to learn in order to really be able to go out and dance socially.

Argentine Tango - fairly easy to get started, age range typically 25-45, being able to work with Spanish based languages helps interpret move names. Fine motor skills and balance are the biggest challenges.

Salsa (Cuban, Crossbody, LA, NY. There is also Rumba & Cha Cha Cha which are the originals the Ballroom version is based on) – fairly easy to get started, age range typically 25-45, again language helps. Thinking ahead is the biggest challenge as most Salsa is fairly fast.

Bachata – (Traditional, Sensual, etc) – fairly easy to get started, age range typically 25-45 but quite a lot of double time steps (syncopated) which makes more complicated moves hard to get to grips with

Kizomba, Semba, Tarraxinha – looks easy but it's not, and also it's not a "showy" dance. Being a good lead takes A LOT of practice with an already good dancer so takes a while to get to grips with. Age range can vary depending on class and location 25-65+

There are clearly other dance styles like Bacha-tango but they are really derivatives of the other dance styles here.

As you can see I get a bit passionate about my dancing, hopefully you find it useful.

Having said all that, it has helped enormously with my confidence and comfort levels around beautiful sexy women. As I said at the start, if you’re not passionate about dancing then there are much easier ways to meet.

 

[Skills]

Not suitable for dance floor game at all but I took tango lessons and no regrets.

I work it in the conversation every time and even add in Al Pacino's line from Scent of A Woman:

"No mistakes in the tango, Donna. Not like life. That's what makes the tango so great. If you make a mistake, get all tangled up, just tango on."

That's just me, though.

It might not be because of the dance itself but simply because it's a genuine passion of mine, so when I talk about it, she can feel it's real.

I'll even offer to teach her a few moves and end up teaching her the cross.

Works great to build compliance and close in physical proximity.

Brah

 

[Lantern]

Forgot to specify this.

So, in terms of priority, approximately:

1. Seduction. (I’ve seen guys good at dancing get gasps from girls when they led the girls through an intricate dance or when they properly dipped the girl)
2. Dance floor game.
3. Fun / life.
4. Meeting women (?)

Ok, so in my opinion:

1. Most of them, as for the effect you mention, pretty much all partner dancing will teach you enough to do things like that.
2. No idea. I'd wait for Skills to answer this one. Some kind of conteporary hip-hopish thing probably.
3. For this, I suggest picking it according to the music you like.
4. This will depend on your local scene for each dance. Some cities have a massive salsa scene, while others will have swing as the most popular. Some scenes are friendly and people will bring you into their circles easily, others form cliques that are harder to get into than the illuminati.

I dance swing and it's great on every front for me. Banged some girls, met a bunch of great people, I fell in love with the dance itself, became a DJ on the scene, travel for festivals, and it also solved "what to do for cardio", as 2-3 hours swing dancing is the equivalent of jumping rope for hours, but more fun.

 

[Skills]

Forgot to specify this.

So, in terms of priority, approximately:

1. Seduction. (I’ve seen guys good at dancing get gasps from girls when they led the girls through an intricate dance or when they properly dipped the girl)
2. Dance floor game.
3. Fun / life.
4. Meeting women (?)

If this is your goal hip hop with is associated with reggae and regetton. Best yield for investment... I can do all types of dances, but these are better for escalation, sexual arousal with the gen z... For social circle salsa and bachata but older crowd... I personally start hip hop then you can learn mdm or whatever is call and other stuff will be easy.. the more different types of dances you know the more flexibility to game on dance floor in mainstream clubs... I would leave popular latin stuff for last in usa at least if you are targeting top younger women...by the way you can look guys professian is the community in Latin dance, cientifico has a journal...is not that efficient for seduction.. but again you can learn and field test for yourself specially in Miami...now a days YouTube has a million tutorials and insta and tiktok, you can see what hot women dancing to, hint nothing name by other posters.

 

[Lantern]

I'll even offer to teach her a few moves and end up teaching her the cross.

Works great to build compliance and close in physical proximity.

Oh, this reminds me, a great move when you get a girl home after some fun conversation is to have the music you dance to playing in the background, move the conversation to dancing at some point, tell her to get up to teach her some moves, and it's basically a seamless transition to getting physical from there.

 

[James D]

Brah

Care to elaborate? I don't speak passive aggressiveness.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

I agree that all partner dances will teach you leading skills, and depending on the type make you able to perform some nice moves that put you in an authority position over a more beginner than you girl.

I have used myself the "Let me show you some move in this dance" as an excuse to come closer and escalate, and it does work, I feel that's not really enough of a reason to get into dancing though.

The thing is in many clubs and parties that are not specifically dance parties, or social dancing evenings, most girls will not have much skill in the partner dances that you may know.

This means that even if you know how to do some moves, it won't be that useful there. Skills has a good point that it ends up being mostly hip hop and reggaeton when you dance closely, compared to some proper partner dancing technique.

For building your social circle through the scene of a particular type of dance it can be useful, it really is another form of social circle game based on a certain hobby in the end.

So if you do like the idea and feeling of dancing some specific type and leading a girl I would go for a partner dance and then you can see how much you enjoy it and if you want to continue it as a past-time and a way to socialise.

It surely makes you more comfortable being very close to a girl's body, leading it, and moving to the rhythm, and you can reach the point of being able to show few basic moves for escalation pretty quickly.

Beyond that though, to me it feels like any kind of interest. If you get girls seeing you do it well and be passionate about it, it can be a boost, that said it's not very practical to be going around in non-dancing centred clubs with the intention to perform intricate moves and dip them.

 

[Atlas IV]

I take classes in House. It's a freeform footwork-based style that originated in underground NY clubs in the 80s.

It's a good style for improving your dance "fundamentals" since it's a lot of memorizing basic patterns, then improvising to express in your own way.

Also quite versatile. You can dance it to pretty much any style of music, and it looks cool because it's so syncopated (off beat).

The community is more female-dominated at the lower skill level, male-dominated at the higher level. It attracts some pretty cool people.

 

[OldGuy]

I have also gotten many dates with square dance, contradance, and English country. Harder to start but also possible are various folk dance traditions (ex. Irish, Scottish, etc.)

 

[Skills]

Care to elaborate? I don't speak passive aggressiveness.

You are not going to go into a mainstream clubs and bust tango moves

 

[James D]

You are not going to go into a mainstream clubs and bust tango moves

Maybe try reading the whole post next time?

I literally started my answer with "not suitable for dance floor game..."

Not suitable for dance floor game at all but I took tango lessons and no regrets.

Here.

That was in the spirit of offering an alternative view which might come in handy to those who don't club.

What a negative dude you are jeez.

 

[Skills]

Maybe try reading the whole post next time?

I literally started my answer with "not suitable for dance floor game..."

Here.

That was in the spirit of offering an alternative view which might come in handy to those who don't club.

What a negative dude you are jeez.

i assume he is asking how to get laid in mainstream clubs dance floor, he also frequently travels to Miami. i assume the op goal... Is ok i knew as soon as op made post all the predictable answers were going to pop...

Op next time start a post guys that constantly get laid on dance floor what dances you recommend conductive to getting laid and why....

 

[Skills]

I have also gotten many dates with square dance, contradance, and English country. Harder to start but also possible are various folk dance traditions (ex. Irish, Scottish, etc.)

Yes but this fall more social circle game, same with salsa and bachata

 

[Skills]

I take classes in House. It's a freeform footwork-based style that originated in underground NY clubs in the 80s.

It's a good style for improving your dance "fundamentals" since it's a lot of memorizing basic patterns, then improvising to express in your own way.

Also quite versatile. You can dance it to pretty much any style of music, and it looks cool because it's so syncopated (off beat).

The community is more female-dominated at the lower skill level, male-dominated at the higher level. It attracts some pretty cool people.

Yes

 

[Skills]

Ok, so in my opinion:

1. Most of them, as for the effect you mention, pretty much all partner dancing will teach you enough to do things like that.
2. No idea. I'd wait for Skills to answer this one. Some kind of conteporary hip-hopish thing probably.
3. For this, I suggest picking it according to the music you like.
4. This will depend on your local scene for each dance. Some cities have a massive salsa scene, while others will have swing as the most popular. Some scenes are friendly and people will bring you into their circles easily, others form cliques that are harder to get into than the illuminati.

I dance swing and it's great on every front for me. Banged some girls, met a bunch of great people, I fell in love with the dance itself, became a DJ on the scene, travel for festivals, and it also solved "what to do for cardio", as 2-3 hours swing dancing is the equivalent of jumping rope for hours, but more fun.

Again swin is partner dancing social circle... Op goal is going to club cold approach and get laid...