Best response to "I need a break" ??

[PaulieFlyn10]

Hey guys, so a friend of mine just got the "i need a break" from a girl he's been dating and is confused on how to handle it.

Before he messes things up, i decided to ask what's your opinion on it and how best to handle or respond.

So right now I've got two questions:

- how would you respond to something like this?

- is there a difference between "i need a break" and "i need space" ?

 

[DarkKnight]

Chase wrote somewhere "I dont do breaks", we either continue or split up. There was a good article about this somewhere. Problem is during break there is a big chance she goes with other men so technically not cheating but still biologically she is

 

[Regal Tiger]

Chase wrote somewhere "I dont do breaks", we either continue or split up. There was a good article about this somewhere. Problem is during break there is a big chance she goes with other men so technically not cheating but still biologically she is

Came here to basically say the same thing


No point in arguing, either it's a test and you saying "OK" makes you pass the test or talking about it makes you fail and possibly even breaks the relationship.

Or it's real and talking about it makes it worse since she already made her decision like 3 weeks ago. You're not changing her mind at that point

 

[Skills]

Chase wrote somewhere "I dont do breaks", we either continue or split up. There was a good article about this somewhere. Problem is during break there is a big chance she goes with other men so technically not cheating but still biologically she is

^ @PaulieFlyn10 i would just add to the line "we either continue and address/or try to solve the issue you are having that is wanting you to take this break (in case she has a legit reason other than another dude) or split up...

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

Thanks a lot for your responses guys. Everyone seems to be in agreement

@Regal Tiger @Skills @DarkKnight

 

[DarkKnight]

@PaulieFlyn10

9-reasons-not-take-back-your-ex-girlfriend

This article, number 6

 

[Gunwitch]

Chase wrote somewhere "I dont do breaks", we either continue or split up. There was a good article about this somewhere. Problem is during break there is a big chance she goes with other men so technically not cheating but still biologically she is

Yeah it's just tree branching. Not letting go of the last branch til she has a hold on a new one. All results from her not chasing you enough to be infatuated still, but that's spilled milk now.

In between my simp days, and knowing how to keep hand in LTRs, chicks still broke up with me in this way. I would just say "hey I understand, but maybe we can be friends with benefits? See each other on Sundays or something?"

Then she goes "ahhh thank god he's not gonna simp out, I can get id of him, but have some backup" cause even 10s ain't supreme confident they are just gonna meet a new man in 2 days that they find sex worthy. Much less she's an 8 or something.

Not sure how good, how attractive he is etc, not great or she wouldn't be saying this, but he can recover to fuck her more til she finds another guy for a while with the friends with benefits angle. Will wreck it, he shows up in the club shes hunting in or whatever, or comes to her house when she didn't call etc. Can even from there make her chase enough to get her back. Wouldn't mention that to him though, just fucking her more while she looks to replace him should be the goal.

Flip side if worried she might be fucking some other guy day before she fucks you or all that yeah gotta cut it clean. If you can see the value in just fucking her more and pretending (if you do) to not have feelings for her to enjoy some extra lays that ultimatums will cause?

I eventually just went with the lays, even if she was sleeping with another guy or whatever. Never regretted them lays. Never knew these chicks a year later anyway.

Gives that song "i'll be there for you" by Bon Jovi chorus a different feel when it isn't about your heart, but a sensation in your penis. Some would call it cuck I guess, but hey more sex, she isn't "the one" if she says you need time apart hahah. So she's just a hole in the end. Figure why deprive yourself of it, if you can keep fucking her with no feels.


Gun

 

[Skills]

Thanks a lot for your responses guys. Everyone seems to be in agreement

@Regal Tiger @Skills @DarkKnight

Yeah we are all in agreement, but again he needs to find out why??? when i have been in mono and got caught cheating, they would say i need a break, my point is, not all the times is her cheating/monkey branching per se......:

what if he gave her an std....

what if he say or did something that is an unknown deal breaker

what if she reached a breaking point due to something he has done....

What if she looks the other way when he is banging women, but it got to the point were is too in her face or too much...


just add the couple of lines i told you...

 

[Glow]

^ @PaulieFlyn10 i would just add to the line "we either continue and address/or try to solve the issue you are having that is wanting you to take this break (in case she has a legit reason other than another dude) or split up...

This!
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