Best way to approach on campus?

[Sub-Zero]

Dude Sub,

You've been reading and wishing and weighing your odds to get "the perfect approach" since you joined this forum 6 years ago in 2014. Its 2020 now man! Your in nearly the same exact spot as you've been for years!

You have ALL the answers. You know exactly what to say. Reading my field reports or asking 20 more questions isnt going to get you any closer.

All you need to do is just go find ONE girl in whatever situation is easiest to approach whether it be on campus, off campus, in the mall, at a morgue, or wherever and just have the following conversation saying these exact things:

SZ: "hey i thought you look cute and would’ve regretted it had i not said hello"
Girl: "Oh.. Hey"
SZ: "My name is SZ. What is your name?"
Girl: "Hi SZ, my name is [Name]"
SZ: "Cool, we should grab a coffee sometime together and get to know each other. Would you want to do that?"
Girl: "Eh I have a boyfriend but thanks!" OR "Ok sure"

It doesn't matter if your trip over your words or are nervous. as soon as you say those 3 lines your free to leave the conversation.

I know you're 100% capable of doing that SZ. You can TOTALLY do that little conversation with just ONE (1!) girl by the end of the month.

Practice saying those lines a 100 times if you have to memorize it.

But dude its time to take action.

All this "someday I'll be good with women and have sweet pimp skills and sleep with 100 women... someday in the future"



No you wont.

Someday in the future is NEVER going to happen.

Until you take action and suck it up and just go give a simple sweet compliment to a harmless girl TODAY... You are NEVER going to get good with girls.

Im sorry to be so blunt but you have got to see this is the truth man.

You arent going to be alive forever! If you haven't taken action on this stuff after reading it for 6 years when is the time ever going to come that you'll have this stroke of courageous inspiration and start taking action?

When is that moment going to hit unless you take matters into yoru own hands and MAKE that moment happen?

No more asking questions. You have ALL the answers. You know EXACTLY what to do.

Go DO it.

I said I don’t do day game. I do do night game and I approach during night game.

I go out solo all of the time as well.

My bad for not stating that, but that’s what I’ve mostly been doing since I’ve been on here. Not saying I’m a pro at that, but I was getting consistent results until I couldn’t afford to go out as much.

I was also in a relationship for some of those years and said fuck approaching because I had pussy on demand and didn’t have to deal with games or going out anymore to pick up. I got super lazy and fell into the “Girlfriend Dip” as Chase calls it.

Day game is the only area where I have barely done anything because of how I feel doing approaches.

Last year I mostly went out solo doing night game and have used apps a little as well.

I mostly focus on negatives when I talk because, that’s just how I am.

But I’ve improved more within the year just by going out a lot more by myself approaching women at night.

I don’t want anyone to think I’m not doing anything at all and just asking questions, I have to remember to include what I do, but I just feel it isn’t necessary to discuss because my problem was day game.

I feel the same exact way you feel, I still can’t approach during the day for all these years?!! I feel exactly the same way.

The feeling doesn’t change though when I try to approach.

But I understand what you’re saying for real.

I won’t ask anymore day game questions unless I’m doing it, but I’m still going to focus on other areas of game as well.

I’m going to focus on day game and getting it handled.

You’re right man, ain’t shit gonna change unless I’m consistent and keep doing it.

Appreciate it bro.

 

[Sub-Zero]

it gives everyone anxiety. you just do it. after doing it a couple times it becomes really easy. it’s your brain forcing you into being beta to ensure survival within the tribe. but we don’t live in tribes anymore. you tell your brain it’s okay to approach directly by approaching directly.

Thanks bro.

 

[naturalmikey]

SZ: "hey i thought you look cute and would’ve regretted it had i not said hello"
Girl: "Oh.. Hey"
SZ: "My name is SZ. What is your name?"
Girl: "Hi SZ, my name is [Name]"
SZ: "Cool, we should grab a coffee sometime together and get to know each other. Would you want to do that?"
Girl: "Eh I have a boyfriend but thanks!" OR "Ok sure"

@Sub-Zero do that 100 times. it’s almost inevitable you’ll get at least a couple dates. basically this:

https://www.datingskillsreview.com/files/sources/Paul%20Janka%20Getting%20Laid%20in%20NYC.PDF

he just texts the girls “drinks tonight?” on like tuesdays. i do think numbers suck which i’ve said a ton of times. but given enough volume they don’t suck. also, people say daygame numbers are much better because the girls aren’t going out to clubs giving their number out all the time. based on my (very limited) experience doing day game, id say there is a lot of truth to that.

also, you can run that script for warmups then after two or three approaches you can focus on longer sets and insta dates.

you could even add a false time constraint to the script. like “hey i’m going to go meet my friends but i saw you and thought you look adorable and had to see if you’re as lovely as your first impression suggest.”

that opener can go one of two ways. either she qualifies herself with “i am.” in which case she is framing herself as lovely and will now want to live up to that. alternatively bitchy girls will be like “i’m not.” in which case i default to “oh god you’re a mean girl lindsay lohan.” this is while shaking my head no with a smirk. then i say “no you’re more regina george.” this should get a laugh and disarm her bitch shield.

 

[Sub-Zero]

@Sub-Zero do that 100 times. it’s almost inevitable you’ll get at least a couple dates. basically this:

https://www.datingskillsreview.com/files/sources/Paul%20Janka%20Getting%20Laid%20in%20NYC.PDF

he just texts the girls “drinks tonight?” on like tuesdays. i do think numbers suck which i’ve said a ton of times. but given enough volume they don’t suck. also, people say daygame numbers are much better because the girls aren’t going out to clubs giving their number out all the time. based on my (very limited) experience doing day game, id say there is a lot of truth to that.

also, you can run that script for warmups then after two or three approaches you can focus on longer sets and insta dates.

you could even add a false time constraint to the script. like “hey i’m going to go meet my friends but i saw you and thought you look adorable and had to see if you’re as lovely as your first impression suggest.”

that opener can go one of two ways. either she qualifies herself with “i am.” in which case she is framing herself as lovely and will now want to live up to that. alternatively bitchy girls will be like “i’m not.” in which case i default to “oh god you’re a mean girl lindsay lohan.” this is while shaking my head no with a smirk. then i say “no you’re more regina george.” this should get a laugh and disarm her bitch shield.

That was a real good read man. Thanks!!

 

[HumanWhoLearns]

For what it's worth, I don't think Mr. Rob's sample conversation is going to have a high success %, but whatever gets Sub Zero approaching at this point is good. Getting over approach anxiety is the first step. Something that helped me out: reframe a "win" not as getting a number, but just doing the approach. That way you don't feel bad every time you don't get the digits.

Speaking of, I need to start doing some more approaches too, even though my city sucks for approaches.

 

[Fuck This]

Day game in a nutshell is being social until you encounter a woman who is obviously attracted and then making the most of her interest to line up a date for later 1 on 1. Most often it was studying together for a class we had together.

Basically on campus you should not be "that dude who asks out ALL the girls within 30 seconds of meeting them". But build your reputation of being a social, safe, and respectable man and let the women be your proof. Nearly all of my college lays were secondary to the women I met. Friends of friends. I was in a small college at a University with 8-10,000 students. After 4 years everyone in our department knew everyone else. I had ONS's from off campus parties, out of town, from other campuses nearby, with girls visiting their sisters or brothers, etc. I ended up marrying my lab partner but that is a different story .

You don't "spin plates" with multiple girls from the same sorority or in the same residence hall. So you gotta pick your best shot within those groups.

Day game Triumphs:
The Hello Girl I saw walking to class every week for a semester who I had an ONS with on Superbowl Sunday.
The girl from a repro class from the neighboring university
The Sorority girl whose roommate was dating my big brother in my frat
The girl living off campus who was in my classes and needed help studying
girls from my student clubs where I was an officer.
The girl who went to school with my roommate in HS.
Her roommate when she transferred to another university.
The girl that checked out the last copy of the textbook I needed at the library.
Friends of my frat brother's girlfriends (could also work for residence halls)

So Long story short: don't sit in the Quad and mass approach women on their way to class.