Better another text or going to her workplace?

[lux7]

I've met this gorgeous girl something like 5 days ago.

We talked briefly but nicely and she seemed glad to have been engaged. Were supposed to meet and exchanged 5 texts, the last one was mine 2 days ago with no reply.

She works in a mall, in one of those open air stalls selling phone covers/souvenirs and she's there alone, I could easily walk by again naturally and without seeming too insisting.

Would you suggest at this point to go there in a few days in person or texting in a few days... ?

 

[Franco]

lucifer,

I would definitely NOT go see her in person. This will certainly creep her out and make her not want to see you again.

Send her another text in a few days and try to arrange a meet. If it fails, then it's time to move on.

- Franco

 

[lux7]

Thanks Franco, valuable reply.
I imagined something like walking by with nonchalance and then "heeey, there you are" but indeed it's at high risk of coming across as stalkey-creepy

 

[PinotNoir]

Completely agree with Franco... unless you have a hot girl that you can take on a date there (be even better if you both have arms around each others' waists). Else, there is very little hope for making it not creepy (no perfect words for this).

Can you post the complete text convo? Was your last text suggesting a meetup?

 

[lux7]

Sure, the convo was like this:

ME
Hi P
Nice meeting you, sorry for the hug in public
L

HER (2mins later)
Hi)
Don't worry, everything is ok

ME (day after)
Cheer up, less than 8 hours and you're free
Let's meet at 10 at xxx, sounds OK for you?
L

HER (1h later)
Hey))
I can't say whether I'll be able or not because i'm working today and i will finish at 9.
I will write you at 6-7 ok?
Have a good day


She didn't write that day and I was glad as I was with a friend who needed some company.


ME (day after, a bit too soon maybe, too chasey)
P
Enjoying the weekend?
when is it a good time for you, this evening?

 

[PinotNoir]

"sorry for the hug in public"
instead..
"you're welcome for the hug. thanks for not grabbing my ass!"

Okay, you can drop the 2nd sentence.

"Let's meet at 10 at xxx, sounds OK for you?"
instead...
"What's your schedule look like? let's meet up some time when we're both free"

To be honest, it doesn't sound like she was feeling you enough. If you get a girl's number and feel that way, I think it's better to call her. Set a time limit (don't just keep shooting the shit for an hour). Think of some topics/questions beforehand. One of Chase's articles also suggests walking around while on the phone to not be as nervous; this has worked well for me.

I suggest:

• Wait a few days and text her, "<insert interesting thing>. how are the mall rats treating you? free to chat?" The first sentence should just be something short and interesting and kind of vague/mysterious, like "'get lucky' has been the song of my year!"
• If she responds back "yes", call her.
• If she says "no" or doesn't answer, don't text/call anymore. Put her on the back burner and meet other women.
• If she answers, flirt/banter initially. Can transition with deep dive about "dream job". Ask on date and ask when free (don't set day/time in advance) on a high note. Chat a little more and then say you're busy and need to end convo.