Blatant and/or Rude implied Preselection

[KJ Francis]

Do you guys show blatant displays of other girls being in your life to casual partners or during a new seduction? I think this can have pretty significant effects, maybe positive or negative depending on your arrangement with her, how invested she is emotionally, expectations, etc.

Examples include:

- @Beck Bass girl saw credit card bill from club (guessing understood open relationship, not in rude category)

- @StrayDog I think it was you in Kaida's thread... Girls finding the condom drawer, more in terms of first lay

- talking about current/recent sex with others (this will make my virgin friend lean in and kiss me, often uses the word "experienced") always casually mentioned, not bragging way

- hickies she finds on you

- one day I changed my phone Bluetooth ID to a random female name since it broadcasts public. Then in the car it flashed the name and this girl looked sad when she saw it.

 

[Beck Bass]

It's generally good for attraction that she knows you can have other girls, that you have a big sexual appetite and you get what you want, but the way it shows can sometimes really damage attainability. If you're an asshole and just shove it in her face that you're seeing/banging/doing whatever you do with other girls, she'll autoreject hard and treat you like the plague, unless she's really into asshole-ish behaviour (mostly young girls, though my girl is almost 30 and she likes calling me a scoundrel lol). Girls mostly still wanna feel safe in relationships and understood and respected and whatnot, so if it comes across as really disrespectful you're gonna see the bad side of it.

That said, girls are also looking for fun, even on LTRs, so showing that you (can, at least) sleep around indirectly, that you're attractive to women, is important, specially in early casual stuff. It's about letting her imagine that though, rather than have her confirm it, like she'll probably feel really jealous (and cause drama) or even sad if she find evidence of you with other girls, like actually seeing it, or signs she really can't ignore. In my case, my girl knows I went to the club, but she wasn't there, she doesn't know if I even talked to any girls, or if I did anything to any of them (or to how many lmao), a condom drawer shows you're prepared, probably because you get some, but she doesn't know who you're using condoms with. In a smaller scale, improving your fundamentals also makes her guess and shows you can get women, because, well, you're attractive! And many times that's all you need. Preselection can be tough to use at times, deff a bit of a double edged sword (though a fun one, for sure).

and this girl looked sad when she saw it.

Yup, it can damage your relationships quite a bit, specially when there's an accident like that, or if the girl has more serious expectations, and you're just looking for fun

 

[Rakehell]

It can backfire even when you have nothing to do with it. I.e you’re talking with a girl and some other girl interjects or she hears comments from someone in passing.

Especially if she suspects you’re too smooth/shallow or border on player, and she thinks you might replace her.

So to me deliberately shoving it in her face is bad form. Unless she thinks you get no play or acts as if/is shoving it in yours.

My theory is induced preselection works if she has doubts you are preselected.

 

[topcat]

My theory is induced preselection works if she has doubts you are preselected.

Even then, as to her doubts, if you truly are preselected there's no need to induce it.. she'll figure it out eventually. Or not. Regardless you have other bitches.

Rubbing it in a girls face is just bad etiquette.