Blind (for me) double date a good idea?

[Franz]

Here is the situation, my cousin (guy cousin) has been dating this girl for a few months now. She is super cool, I've actually partied with the both of them 2 or 3 times at some cool bars. On another separate occasion I had a few beers with them at his house. We had good conversation so she got to know me and me know her.

The times I've gone to hang out with them I have gone solo so she is aware that I am single. Apparently she approached my cousin with the idea of introducing me to her good friend. Supposedly this good friend is a good girl, doesn't sleep around, smart, not really a party animal, hot and attractive. My cousin presented the idea that all 4 of us should go out so I can meet this friend. To eat and drinks I'm assuming.

My question, is this blind double date thing a good idea? I was thinking maybe I should suggest/insist for them to give me the girls number and I set up something one on one with her myself.

What do you guys think? Looking for advice especially from guys who have been there and done that....

Thanks!

 

[PinotNoir]

Yes, your thinking is correct here. Always go for the one-on-one when you haven't had sex yet (in my opinion). Since it's social circle dating, it's still not the best situation, since she's going to have her anti-slut defense way high (because afraid of other people knowing). Ignore any talk or thoughts about her being a "good girl," even good girls love hard orgasms by wild beasts. During conversation, just make sure that you identify yourself as a very discreet man when it comes to sexual relations; example: "Yeah, my friend told me about his night with this young girl. I would never do that. What happens between the sheets is only between me and the girl."

Even if you run this perfectly, social circle game.... probably going to take multiple dates and a good bit of anti-slut defense and LMR against you.

Finally, having said all of this.... I've gone on blind double dates before. I like to get different, odd experiences in my life. So, if you're like me, you might want to try it just for fun and a cool story to tell people later. But, if you're wanting sex and for this to go somewhere, then do the one-on-one. Else, if your mission is to just have fun and try something new and an interesting experience, do the blind double date -- plenty of women and opportunities out there.

 

[ocantu1987]

I have done the blind double date before and I was a totall newb then I actually didnt talk to the girl much at all lol she was smoking hot and I was intimidated, she actually liked me and wanted me to talk to her erghhh haha

I say try the blind double date. let her meet you, have fun, eye contact,smile,deep dive, break the touch barrier here and there then ask if she want to get a coffee with you sometime. get the digits IMO anyway

 

[Estate]

Not something I've done in YEARS so apologies if I'm way off on this but my 2 cents....

It's a diificult situation. Your cousin and his GF will probably dominate the conversation and it just gets awkward between you two as you try to force conversation.

What MIGHT help is if you can be the guy who sort of leads the evening. That way you are displaying some strong personality. But to REALLY get the girl, you need to isolate her, and the nature of a date like this just doesn't help unless your cousin was on board to get the hell out of there and leave you at some point, assuming you've already established enough rapport with her.

It's not an easy one to be honest. It's also not really playing into sleeping with her. It's more like a setup, so the expectations are that you are more boyfriend material.

 

[Franz]

Thanks guys for the advice and tips.

I think 'Estate' might be right that I am already being pegged as boyfriend material by cousin's girlfriend or else why would she set me up with her good friend. So how well would a one on one date even work in this case with the girl already coming in thinking I'm potential boyfriend material? I would have to be working against odds right?

Also I remember reading an article on here mentioning that you should show a 'bad' side with your gf but be a nice guy when meeting their friends and family for the first time, this helps getting yourself approved by them. Knowing this my cousins gf must definitely view me as a good guy if she is wanting to set me up with her friend. What I have to do now is show the girl that I am not as nice as my cousins gf thinks. Good logic? It's kind of like working in reverse.

If they insist I'll just do the damn double date and do my best at talking with her and before the night ends grab her number. Like 'PinotNoir' said I might have to just settle for the double date experience. 'ocantu1987', I'll probably will have to go your route