Blocked by girl on whatsapp,unfriended on instagram but not blocked there.

[ljimunad]

I'm 20.I started dating with this girl. We went on one date. She was dressed up to nines and super attracted to me. I didn't kiss her on date as I was nervous and scared. I asked her out two times and she had an excuses. Then I didn't contact her for 10days and she reached out. We went again on coffee date but she was less enthusiastic and told me to be friends. After this I didn't reach out but she reached out two times in 10 days and I didn't call her out again because I felt rejected. After one month I called her and she was enthusiastic to hear me. She asked me to come to her restaurant where she is working. I said I will come if I have time on weekend. Then I didn't say to her that I'm coming because I wanted to surprise her. I've came with my friends and she was the waiter. I said something like" Did you expect me?" She was acting cold when she saw me and didn't laugh at my jokes or anything. Day after this I texted her something flirty on whatsapp and she told me "Don't talk to me like that. I have a boyfriend". I was trying to have fun text after but she blocked me and unfriended me.
Is this over forever. I'm just sad now. I want to send her apology on Instagram that I am sorry for acting aloof and not announcing myself before I've came to restaurant and other things.

 

[KJ Francis]

Is this over forever.

Yes.

Without knowing the vibe before showing up, it's possible you blew the discretion by showing up with friends when what she wanted was to fuck you, like maybe showing up at the bar late as her shift ends.

Maybe she's ok with coworkers seeing her with you, but was freaked out you're trying to introduce her to your friends or something and acting like a boyfriend type guy. I am a positive thinker in terms of assuming attraction though

If she actually has a boyfriend and isn't using it as an excuse, it's doubly done.

 

[gameboy]

Don't be scared to kiss a girl. They hate that. Either you escalate (i.e. kiss them, and try to get them in bed), or they lose interest very quick.

 

[ljimunad]

Yes.

Without knowing the vibe before showing up, it's possible you blew the discretion by showing up with friends when what she wanted was to fuck you, like maybe showing up at the bar late as her shift ends.

Maybe she's ok with coworkers seeing her with you, but was freaked out you're trying to introduce her to your friends or something and acting like a boyfriend type guy. I am a positive thinker in terms of assuming attraction though

If she actually has a boyfriend and isn't using it as an excuse, it's doubly done.

I don't think she wanted to fuck me yet haha. Here is not in our country like hook up culture. Very conservative, everybody dates a bit longer before it.
You think I could text her maybe in half year when she cools off cause I'm not blocked on instagram?

 

[KJ Francis]

Sure why not. Maybe just wait 2-3 months and send a quick ping, then forget about her. And forget about her until then. Hopefully you will forget to ping her cause you met a better girl.

 

[ljimunad]

I've

Sure why not. Maybe just wait 2-3 months and send a quick ping, then forget about her. And forget about her until then. Hopefully you will forget to ping her cause you met a better girl.

I've read one post on youtube from Tripp advice where he said if girl blocked you. You need to wait at least 6 months to ping her. So she can cool off and not be angry anymore. You think it is too much or. Because in 2 months she would be still fresh from anger at me

 

[KJ Francis]

No I picked a smaller number to get it out your head faster.

 

[gameboy]

You need to focus on other girls, not on a specific one. Once you messed up with a girl it is much much harder to get something with her than from any other girl you meet or approach.

 

[KJ Francis]

You need to focus on other girls, not on a specific one. Once you messed up with a girl it is much much harder to get something with her than from any other girl you meet or approach.

Yep, and I didn't say forget her just for this benefit. Since he is also so hung up on her, maybe use that as fuel. Getting to a point of not caring due to increased abundance of dating options is also the best path to get her back.

A lot of guys here probably found the site after heartbreak surrounding one special girl. Revisiting these old girls can happen once you are further down the line of seduction skills. I did this with the girl that got me into all this like two years after.

The path to that was 100% to move on from her.

 

[KJ Francis]

I don't think she wanted to fuck me yet haha. Here is not in our country like hook up culture. Very conservative, everybody dates a bit longer before it.
You think I could text her maybe in half year when she cools off cause I'm not blocked on instagram?

Again, you blew the discretion

 

[ljimunad]

Yep, and I didn't say forget her just for this benefit. Since he is also so hung up on her, maybe use that as fuel. Getting to a point of not caring due to increased abundance of dating options is also the best path to get her back.

A lot of guys here probably found the site after heartbreak surrounding one special girl. Revisiting these old girls can happen once you are further down the line of seduction skills. I did this with the girl that got me into all this like two years after.

The path to that was 100% to move on from her.

Thank you. I will try to learn better with girls. I think I need to work on closing and everything. I'm totally beginner, I was still scared to kiss her on first date because she looked stunning.

 

[ljimunad]

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Yep, and I didn't say forget her just for this benefit. Since he is also so hung up on her, maybe use that as fuel. Getting to a point of not caring due to increased abundance of dating options is also the best path to get her back.

A lot of guys here probably found the site after heartbreak surrounding one special girl. Revisiting these old girls can happen once you are further down the line of seduction skills. I did this with the girl that got me into all this like two years after.

The path to that was 100% to move on from her.

How would you keep in contact with her if you said you got back after 2 years.

 

[KJ Francis]

There is no keeping in contact. It's reconnecting, home for the holidays.

 

[KJ Francis]

Thank you. I will try to learn better with girls. I think I need to work on closing and everything. I'm totally beginner, I was still scared to kiss her on first date because she looked stunning.

The girl I told you about told me her parents were away, came and picked me up, brought me in her bedroom and laid on her bed then undid her top a little bit.

Didn't even kiss her.

 

[ljimunad]

The girl I told you about told me her parents were away, came and picked me up, brought me in her bedroom and laid on her bed then undid her top a little bit.

Didn't even kiss her.

I understand. But this girl I'm not in social circle. I can only maybe recconect later by sending Ig request and sending her classic "What were you up to.?"

 

[KJ Francis]

Oh no the reconnect would be like a quasi apology laughing at yourself maybe.

This girl is so far gone man. I started with Chase's book How to Make Girls Chase, then got into searching articles troubleshooting.

I'm not sure what the beginner path is now with products and such, but I think you should start with some foundational learning and approach this as self improvement to get better at the skill set with girls in general.

You will lose girls left and right before really reaching much success. Get used to it.

 

[ljimunad]

Oh no the reconnect would be like a quasi apology laughing at yourself maybe.

This girl is so far gone man. I started with Chase's book How to Make Girls Chase, then got into searching articles troubleshooting.

I'm not sure what the beginner path is now with products and such, but I think you should start with some foundational learning and approach this as self improvement to get better at the skill set with girls in general.

You will lose girls left and right before really reaching much success. Get used to it.

 

[ljimunad]

So no chance of reconecction with instagram? That is little bit sad. But yes, I know I should be learning and go out with lot other girls. Actually I'm good at aproaching, since I was working in restaurant a lot and I needed to make jokes with girls and guest every day if I want better tip.

 

[KJ Francis]

Give it the six months if you'd like. I'd focus on other girls and hope to forget

 

[ljimunad]

Give it the six months if you'd like. I'd focus on other girls and hope to forget

Thanks bro, I really apreciate your advices.