try imagining the energy you would feel hugging someone and think of something funny so you enter with a genuine smile and eye contact. If you notice any sense of discomfort on her part quickly say a statement of empathy or false time constraint. And speak louder, slower, and with a down-tone.
What's your ratio?
I don’t really get “blow outs” at the moment of approach unless she is super busy. Usually they’ll talk to me for at least a few seconds even if rejecting me right away.
Well, if it's not even a 1 minute chat, in my eyes it's just a polite blowout.
Can you give an approximate ratio?
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Seconded for louder, slower and calm down-tone.
Ok thank you but can you let us know your ratio of approaches vs 1min+ conversations?
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i think you're thinking this from too much of a mathematical standpoint asking strangers on the internet for their approach to blow out ratio is borderline useless because it depends on a number of factors
Said person's smv
said person's smv relative to the men around him
said person's game
how long someone has been approaching for- if youre just starting out of course your blow out rate will be high as youre adjusting
so without knowing all those factors about the people commenting its pretty much useless- also anyone on the internet can fabricate unrealistic numbers that may make your own expectations too high.
focus on making your approaches strong rather than looking for statistics from strangers on the internet
Said person's smv
said person's smv relative to the men around him
said person's game
how long someone has been approaching for- if youre just starting out of course your blow out rate will be high as youre adjusting
so without knowing all those factors about the people commenting its pretty much useless- also anyone on the internet can fabricate unrealistic numbers that may make your own expectations too high.
focus on making your approaches strong rather than looking for statistics from strangers on the internet
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Blowouts depend on so many things, but usually it's because you're new/uncomfortable or uncalibrated. Over time, as you approach more, the blowouts should get less and less unless you remain uncalibrated. That's the easy answer. When you're new and nervous, the "blowout ratio" can be quite high, unless you're already confident and socially skilled/practiced.
Instead of trying to find a blowout ratio to compare yourself to others--which can be different one person to the next for a variety of reasons--best to look at where you are now and try to improve your approaches/social skills over time. If you are still getting majority blowouts after 50+ approaches or more, then consider getting a wing to look at what you're doing wrong would be my advice. Hard to diagnose without actually seeing it in person.
Simple/quick suggestions: go in with a good vibe; warm energy, a smile, positive, solid eye contact, and if it's a situation that might make her feel a lot of social pressure (like waiting for a bus, for example), call it out by saying something like, "..I see you're waiting for the bus, so I don't want to take too much of your time, but...", or if she's in a bookstore, "...I realize you're so focused looking for your next book, but I just had to say quickly...". Sometimes people get blowouts because they ignore these things and go in without addressing what she's doing or how she might feel
Instead of trying to find a blowout ratio to compare yourself to others--which can be different one person to the next for a variety of reasons--best to look at where you are now and try to improve your approaches/social skills over time. If you are still getting majority blowouts after 50+ approaches or more, then consider getting a wing to look at what you're doing wrong would be my advice. Hard to diagnose without actually seeing it in person.
Simple/quick suggestions: go in with a good vibe; warm energy, a smile, positive, solid eye contact, and if it's a situation that might make her feel a lot of social pressure (like waiting for a bus, for example), call it out by saying something like, "..I see you're waiting for the bus, so I don't want to take too much of your time, but...", or if she's in a bookstore, "...I realize you're so focused looking for your next book, but I just had to say quickly...". Sometimes people get blowouts because they ignore these things and go in without addressing what she's doing or how she might feel
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Good question should be why are you getting blowouts in the first place
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What's your blowout to approach ratio?
What's your blowout to approach ratio?Good question should be why are you getting blowouts in the first place
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What’s Paul Allen’s blowout to approach ratio?
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Answer the topic's question or get the fuck out
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Here, I found some limited data from a single month. These are almost all daytime.
24 total:
17 were solid interactions:
about 10 of 17 led to her moving with me (1 lay)
about 7 of 17 were from subtle approach invitations
4 with boyfriends and friendly
2 with boyfriend and quick end, neutral reaction
1 blowout, snap reaction "not interested"
Edit: most were out of town, so I mostly did not go for dates or phone numbers
24 total:
17 were solid interactions:
about 10 of 17 led to her moving with me (1 lay)
about 7 of 17 were from subtle approach invitations
4 with boyfriends and friendly
2 with boyfriend and quick end, neutral reaction
1 blowout, snap reaction "not interested"
Edit: most were out of town, so I mostly did not go for dates or phone numbers
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I got literally 0 reply before KJ Francis you dumb monkey you can't even manage basic reading comprehension, fuck off get out of my thread you're a parasite ruining the topic
It's my topic I am the one choosing the topic not you, absolute retarded monkey you are
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Personal attacks are not allowed. You're welcome to point out replies that don't answer your question, but do it politely or you'll get banned.
No one has any obligation to tell you their own stats, and it's not really relevant to you either. Blowouts are a function of the way you approach and present yourself, they are not some global weather phenomenon.
If I had to estimate my average blowout ratio (I don't track anything) I'd say maybe 1 out of 10 girls reject me on the spot - and when it happens it's usually when I make the mistake of approaching a girl not because I find her really attractive but just because she's there. These girls seem to know exactly what's up.
I went out yesterday, did 2 approaches, had 2 conversations and got 1 number. No blowouts, so I guess that's 0% ratio for the day?
Getting blown out 90% of the time is definitely not good, clearly something needs work. Women will usually enjoy talking to you for at least a little while if you're a pleasant guy who presents himself well.
Fixing that sort of thing is what the forum is for, but you might not get a lot of help unless you change your attitude.
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I gave you an explanation as to why it was a silly question- because it depends on a tonne of different variables
If you’re a male 9 in the same city as a male 6 with all other variables equal then the male 9 will get less blowouts than the male 6 - it’s like comparing a pro poker player’s stats to an amateur .
You don’t know where people rate in relation to you nor do you know the city they’re in, nor their conversations- also people tend to exaggerate their successes on pua forums so already you’re putting yourself under pressure comparing yourself to people who may be lying with their stats or may have higher smv/ experience than you and therefore will inevitability get blown out less